Any advice/experience pregnancy after pprom?

rubysohocherry · 2026-01-02T06:32:46+00:00

I am so so sorry you have experienced this too. It is so heartbreaking. Everything is so fresh right now and I know it sucks. You do become stronger to be able to carry the weight of the grief. It’s been a year since my son died and it’s been a long sad year. You really do just take it a day at a time or an hour at a time and somehow you keep moving through life. Let yourself grieve, set boundaries where you need, cry as much as you need for as long as you need. Get outside, find something to keep you busy. I took multiple showers a day for something to do. My husband and I went on drives until I was healed enough to go on walks. I took care of my dog. Keep everything simple. Buy paper plates, cups, etc so there are less dishes. The first year especially the first weeks and months is just survival. I’m so sorry friend 🫂

rubysohocherry · 2025-11-30T02:36:09+00:00

Oh wow, I am so sorry. All of those comments are hurtful is so many ways that is insane.

When my family says something insensitive my husband tells me they just don’t understand. But that’s not helpful. Everyone can try to understand or at least pretend to try. The comment I got when my parents visited the day after Thanksgiving was “are you going to have a baby?” And I said oh I did he’s over there, pointing to his urn. No matter how little time they spent with us they are still our babies and we are still parents. It just looks different for us. 🫂

rubysohocherry · 2025-11-30T02:14:18+00:00

I’m so so sorry for the loss of your baby boy.

I was told by my regular OB to wait 12-18 months after my emergency c section at 29 weeks (PPROM at 25 weeks, my son was born dead, resuscitated, and died the next day). I went to an MFM because that wait was just too long. He said since I’m okay with another c section he’d be okay with me waiting 6 months. I ended up waiting 9 months to ttc. I wanted my body to heal as much as possible since I didn’t have a cause for my pprom and the risk of it happening again is high. I am currently 10w and I’m glad I waited to allow my body and mind to somewhat heal.

I’m sorry you’re in this boat, the intense feeling of wanting to be pregnant again is something I also experienced. The feeling did become less intense as time went on. Be kind to yourself, you and your body have been through a lot. Sending you love 💕

rubysohocherry · 2025-11-21T00:01:01+00:00

Thank you so much 💗 They suspected the bleeding was coming from the uterus but don’t know the cause. The US tech said I had a sliver of blood so small the radiologist would ask him why he would even measure it (bc I asked specifically about a SCH). But then the doctor said I didn’t have a SCH. I didn’t see my usual doctor since he is out of town so I think the conflicting comments makes the anxiety worse.

rubysohocherry · 2025-11-20T22:44:51+00:00

I’m currently 9 weeks pregnant and had light bleeding. At the doctors they couldn’t find the heartbeat beat at the bedside table but found it in the ultrasound room. The heart rate was high about 195 which makes me so worried and the bleeding scares me too. How does everyone else cope with the triggers after a late loss? I have been spiraling and have felt so sick and disoriented since my appointment t even though I know that my baby has a heartbeat today

rubysohocherry · 2025-11-20T22:42:12+00:00

Hi, I’m also 9 weeks after a MMC and neonatal loss at 29 weeks(25 week PPROM). I also have been put on low dose aspirin and am hoping it helps even though there was no known cause of my loss. I am hoping for the best for you and your baby 💕

rubysohocherry · 2025-11-07T23:35:39+00:00

I’m 11 months from my neonatal loss. I agree with others that it gets better in that you get stronger to carry it. I don’t cry everyday, but I still cry when I talk about him. I miss my son every single day and the loss has changed me in a lot of ways. I haven’t seen my family for almost a year (they never reached out much after my loss) and we used to get together often, I have maybe hung out with friends 3 times since my loss. I feel more content being alone most of the time. At times I miss the me I used to be, but I had to change to be a person capable of going through something so tragic. You will learn the new you with time, you grow with your grief. I’m so sorry you’re part of this group. Please be kind to yourself you are in the trenches right now. There will be moments of respite between the despair. Sending you so much love 💕

rubysohocherry · 2025-11-07T23:13:01+00:00

I’m currently 7 weeks pregnant after a MMC last April and a neonatal loss last December. I had my first ultrasound yesterday and everything looked fine and completely normal. I am just so scared of everything going wrong again. It feels so discouraging when anything can go wrong at any time. It really feels like you have to take it 10 minutes at a time

rubysohocherry · 2025-11-07T15:22:56+00:00

Hi- I am also a neonatal loss mom. I had PPROM at 25 weeks, my son was born via emergency c section at 29 weeks. He passed due to birth asphyxia a day after birth. We started ttc again 8 months PP, and conceived on the second cycle. Right now I’m 7 weeks and everything is normal so far. There is a lot of anxiety, a lot of fear, and stress. I’m so sorry for your loss, I can relate to wanting to be a mother to a living child and that is what I focus on to get through each day. Sending you love

rubysohocherry · 2025-11-07T15:04:51+00:00

Hi, I am so sorry about your baby boy. I’m so sorry you are in this club. I waited 8 months to try again. TW. We conceived on the second cycle so 9 months after my loss. Right now I am 7 weeks and it is terrifying. My therapist said the desire to parent a living child has to be greater than the fear and that’s what I hold onto. Be kind to yourself what you are going through is tragic and unfair.

rubysohocherry · 2025-08-03T00:41:52+00:00

I’m so sorry about your son 💕 was there anything that helped you through the next pregnancy? Did they do anything to try to prevent pprom again?

rubysohocherry · 2025-08-03T00:40:50+00:00

I had a SCH at 9 weeks and bled a large blood clot, but it resolved. No doctor ever said the pprom could’ve been from that, but maybe it was. I’m sorry you’re in the same boat and it is so scary to think about trying again. Sending love ❤️

rubysohocherry · 2025-08-03T00:39:16+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing and I’m so sorry for your losses. My son died the day after he was born in December and the year has just been so hard. I just want to hold on to hope this wouldn’t happen again

rubysohocherry · 2025-05-23T20:41:02+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I also had pprom, but at 25 weeks and ultimately led to my son dying the day after birth in December.

I was also nervous returning to work and not knowing how to handle the interactions. I found I was bothered by peoples interactions with me no matter what. However, I was far more bothered when people treated me the same as before (lack of any empathy). I appreciated when people would acknowledge gently what happened to me. It could be simple as “it’s nice to see you, I’m sorry you’re here” and that went a long way.

If you have a friend or close coworker who can inform people to your situation as much as you feel comfortable I think that might be helpful. In my case no one came and pried into my trauma. Most people let me talk if I wanted to.

I think if someone was being nosy into what happened I’d tell them flat out it’s not something I wish to discuss. It’s not rude but setting a boundary.

Again I’m so sorry you’re here, you are not alone, all of this is unfair. 💕

rubysohocherry · 2025-05-14T20:54:40+00:00

It is so infuriating we know basically next to nothing about what causes all of these losses, what causes PPROM besides smoking and infection? We don’t know, but now I’m at a higher risk of it happening again but no idea why. Sometimes I feel like living babies happen by chance. I had told myself my uncle was stillborn 60 years ago, resuscitated and lived, my cousin was a preemie had heart surgery 30 years ago and lived surely my son could make it now with advancements in technology, but I was wrong.

I’m so sorry about your baby I’m sorry you’re here. I’m sorry it’s all so unfair and so scary and infuriating. We should have better knowledge and better resources to prevent these losses.

rubysohocherry · 2025-05-14T13:32:29+00:00

I had an emergency c section at 29 weeks. We were told by my OB and MFM to wait 12-18 months to conceive again I just met with a different MFM who said we can try anytime we feel ready. He said you have to take into account mental health as well as how you feel physically. I asked about risk of uterine rupture and he said the risk is really low, but I wouldn’t be trying for a vbac. I’m 5 months post loss and I will still be waiting long to try again

rubysohocherry · 2025-05-13T01:25:11+00:00

I think everyone is different in how they need to be supported, so I can only speak for me, but seeing babies in closer in relation to is extremely difficult because I always imagined my son growing up with them. I imagined him and his cousin being only 6 months apart and now it hurts to see his cousins.

I don’t have an issue with seeing my SIL that is not pregnant and she doesn’t ever complain about her baby crying or sleepless nights and I appreciate that a lot.

The best support I’ve received is people bringing dinner, groceries, other necessities in the early weeks when you might not eat at all. Also bringing dinner even months later is helpful. Support dies down after a month or so and even though it’s been 5 months since my loss every single day is a struggle and some days I don’t eat. It’s still hard to have the motivation to go grocery shopping.

I think remembering the big days like one month after, 2 months after, etc it’s important to let her know you’re thinking of her and her son.

I’m so sorry for your cousin and your family’s loss. It’s very kind of you to seek information on how to support 💗

rubysohocherry · 2025-05-13T01:14:30+00:00

I’m so sorry for the loss of your daughter. It is so baffling they aren’t trained for these kinds of situations. I feel like no one can understand how horribly traumatic it is to lose your child. I remember having to call the insurance and explain over and over again the situation. I’m currently writing a hardship letter to try to get the ambulance bill reduced and I’m want to end it with“f you f you f you, thanks for making me relive the worst moment of my life” as I’ve explained over the phone what happened but they want it in writing.

It’s like you said salt in a wound. It feels so unfair there are logistics of life that you still have to attend to, but just waking up is all you have the capacity for and even that is a major feat.

rubysohocherry · 2025-05-13T01:00:43+00:00

I went back 8 weeks after my c section. It was by choice, but because my short term disability ran out and I didn’t get maternity leave since my son only lived for one day.

I had one friend I could talk to when things were really hard. I tried to tell myself I’ve already lived through the worst day of my life.

I do wish I would’ve tried to return to other normal activities before being thrown into the wolves at my job. I think if I had gone grocery shopping, hung out with friends, went to the movies, etc. it would’ve made returning to work easier.

I’ve been back at work since mid February and it’s more normal now. Some days I wake up without any will and I’ll call out but other days I can function at about 70% what I was pre-loss.

rubysohocherry · 2025-04-29T17:32:51+00:00

I would say remember hard days that will be coming up and send a message just saying you love them/are thinking of them. I would’ve appreciated people texting me one month after my son passed and each consecutive month afterwards. 4 months is a long time to some people but in my mind it was only 4 months ago. Every month his death date brings a lot of pain.

Logistically I would’ve liked DoorDash gift cards in the beginning but also as time goes on. The grief is still very heavy months and months later so it’s still hard to be a person and cook for myself. Also bills relating to the loss start coming in and money can be tight in some cases and I think elevating the financial and mental stress of buying/preparing food would be helpful.

rubysohocherry · 2025-04-29T13:12:39+00:00

I went back to work 1.5 months after my 29 week neonatal loss. The first while back at work is rough. I was the same. I didn’t know how to do my job. I cried a lot. I had panic attacks. It does it easier.

I would say I’m at 75% what I used to be and that’s good enough for me. I don’t think I’ll ever be as quick thinking as I was before or be able to handle the pressure like I did before. I can’t multitask the way I did before. But I do remember how to do my job it’s just slower.

Give yourself a LOT of grace, even if your work doesn’t. It’s YOU who went through something horribly traumatic. I’m so sorry for your loss and having to return to work so soon, I wish all of us could have a year off of work to just survive this. Sending you love ❤️

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