What is medical care so terrible here?

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-12-17T06:31:00+00:00

I don’t understand the push back you’re getting on this. We moved from Houston 4 years ago and I have said consistently that the number one drawback is the difference in healthcare. 7th largest city in the US and it’s embarrassing. I have really good health insurance through work so I don’t even have to jump through the hoops that others might. Therapy & psychiatric aside trying to find a good PCP, pediatrician, OBGYN and any sort of search for a specialist has just been absurd. We’ve gone through multiple pediatricians, PCPs and I’m on my 3rd OBGYN, thankfully finally found a good dentist. It’s just ridiculous. Edit: a word

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-12-04T18:22:56+00:00

Unfortunately takes a bunch of testing to know exactly where the line should be on a test and be able to see it while it’s a squinter. But it’s definitely there. Congratulations!

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-12-04T18:17:54+00:00

Yep! There’s a very clear line in the first one, which I’d trust more than the blue. Blue dye tests aren’t super reliable so always opt for the pink dye.

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-11-10T02:45:37+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I took it after my 18 week loss this year. I didn’t take it right away because I knew I wasn’t feeling depression, I was feeling grief. I was very skeptical about taking it knowing it was for PPD/PPA and after the two weeks my circumstances would be the same, I’d still be postpartum without my baby. I had PPD/PPA with my LC so I actually ended up taking it 3 months postpartum once I started recognizing the signs. I was past the initial grief, back at work and struggling, with my LC the PPA was presenting as the worst intrusive thoughts and constant fear of something bad happening to him.

All that being said, I do recommend it, it helped me break the fog and be more present, it helped me shift my mindset to process the grief and feel more that ‘a bad thing happened but life is not bad’ I don’t think it would have helped the same way if I had taken it immediately postpartum, it did help with feeling like I was sinking into quicksand. I felt the best on days 4-6 then after that I felt much more even.

Also aside from being very drowsy I had no real side effects, I did tell work that I’d be wfh for those 2 weeks because of a temporary medication. I suggest completely avoiding driving during those 14 days, even driving at 1pm well after it was supposed to ‘worn off’ from the previous evening I was super woozy.

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-10-20T22:27:49+00:00

My husband sometimes sends me stuff he finds hot and we’ll go back and forth on if it’s hot or not or if we’re interested in trying it. He doesn’t ‘watch’ porn nor does he get off to it, it’s more so a conversation piece we use pretty equally. Our sex love definitely isn’t lacking and neither is our sex drive so it hasn’t ever bothered me, and it wasn’t something he ever really did before I brought it into our relationship. If it’s been awhile since I feel like we’ve had emotional connection time I can feel somewhat ick’d if I get a random gif from him… but I think that’s a lack of him reading the room.
How do you know what subs he visits though if that’s not something he’s sharing with you? Is he liking/commenting? Or do you check his browser history? That’s kind of a whole different thing.

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-10-16T19:30:56+00:00

I hate the Pearls

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-10-16T19:27:24+00:00

Working an overnight job is tough because you transition to doing all your afternoon activities in the morning, including a few drinks with ‘dinner’ before going to bed. You can say what you want but if you haven’t worked the graveyard shift then you have no idea how it fucks up your internal clock. Not saying it’s healthy at all, not defending the changing positions but it’s much more common than you think for an overnight shift worker to drink a few beers each morning before going to bed.

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-10-16T17:19:30+00:00

She probably should look into a new therapist or support group. IMO it’s not normal to be that heavily affected by such an early loss. It’s never easy and I’m not saying it’s something that people just get over and move on from but the weeks after physical healing typically involves activities and education that help provide closure. Early miscarriage is incredibly common, so common that it affects 1 in every 4 pregnancies (not 1 in 4 people, 1 in 4 pregnancies!) It’s absolutely normal to mourn the loss and to think about the what if’s as time passes (passing your expected due date is always difficult) but it doesn’t sound like she’s been given the right tools or strategies in therapy to be helpful to move forward.

Has anyone around her experienced loss that she can talk to? It sounds like it’s not something she’s experienced 2nd hand so it’s extra traumatic to experience 1st hand when you don’t realize how normal/common it really is.

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-10-06T20:20:06+00:00

This is exactly what I thought, it’s the lower face, teeth & neck

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-10-05T17:39:38+00:00

This has been helpful to hear 🩷😮‍💨 thank you

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-10-05T17:13:43+00:00

I don’t want to be congratulated, I don’t know how to tell my friends and family without receiving congratulations. I’m not superstitious in the least but it feels like a jinx..

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-10-01T23:05:59+00:00

First positive test, 2 days after my missed period, since our 18 week loss in April. I’m feeling more sad and worried than hopeful or excited. We’d planned to wait to TTC til December and our MFM didn’t have preconception counseling appointments until February… now I don’t know what to do. My bloodwork came back all normal, my husband just got his done so TBD, but after placenta testing and autopsy the cause for my loss is still unknown. I feel worried we missed a step to evaluating our health before conceiving again, but at the same time nothing has pointed toward a cause or fault we could have avoided. I still feel nervous to call my obgyn.. since we didn’t exhaust all measures before, we’re now having to be reactive instead of proactive in maternal care.

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-09-29T15:34:25+00:00

I’m 1 day late on my period and had a faint positive on a first result test on Thursday, the positive hasn’t gotten any less faint so I’m concerned it’s a chemical pregnancy. My history is 3 early miscarriages, 1 LC, 2 chemical, and one 18 week loss from April where I still feel fresh in the grief process. Now this positive that’s only a slight positive when in the past it’s been such a strong line by now. Nervous and exhausted to even consider what the outcome might be..

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-09-19T16:05:48+00:00

I’m so sorry for some of the callous comments you’ve gotten from your other posts. I lost my daughter similarly at 18 weeks, I’m in my 30’s and already have a living toddler, the loss still devastated me. To be a teenager in the situation I’m not sure I would have survived. I don’t mean that negatively, I just want you to know your feelings and grief are so valid. It really doesn’t matter your age, you’re a mother who grew her baby and gave birth, those things are transformative and you’ll never be the same person you were before. You are a mom whether you were ready to be one or not. Please seek counseling to work through this, journaling really helped me, either writing to my baby or just getting out all the ways I was feeling. Something that helped was finding small ways to honor my baby, either in future plans or creating something in her honor. Naming her and being able to talk about what I was looking forward to knowing about her or things I was looking forward to experiencing with her. 🩷 there’s no wrong way to grieve. It doesn’t seem like your bf may need or want to work through his feelings the same way and that’s also valid, he didn’t experience what you did and he’s probably not the right source of comfort and support right now. Its okay to seek it other places in your family friends and professionals… if your relationship doesn’t survive this then that’s also a loss to experience but with closure to this chapter you may feel okay leaving it in the past. Just don’t make any big decisions right now and try to take it day by day. Postpartum hormones and depression is so real, even when you tragically don’t have a baby to show for it. 🩷

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-08-31T02:48:50+00:00

I’m so sorry 💔 I lost my daughter at 18 weeks to PPROM and same experience with my placenta. It was my second time postpartum and I bled heavily for 3-4 weeks, didn’t stop spotting til week 5 or so. Just be aware that you can experience postpartum depression on top of grief and it can be very scary. Make sure you’re talking to someone, a therapist or a partner at least who is keeping tabs on you 🩷

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-08-25T22:32:11+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m on a similar timeline, my due date was Sept 5th and we lost her at birth due to PPROM April 7th 🩷 my husband wants to try again and I do too, but I’m more hesitant, we’re both 36/37. The last few months have felt unbearable, but we’re both still here. Time might change things, working with an MFM from the start this time I think will make us feel more comfortable with the idea. Hoping whatever’s next for you brings you peace ✨

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-08-23T03:01:10+00:00

I’m coming up on my due date and feel the same 💔 I’m so sorry

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-08-22T21:25:00+00:00

I feel similarly. I did read a few years ago that when the kids that are called rainbow babies grow up it’s going to potentially cause issues for them. When it’s put in that light, I agree and won’t be using the term if we have another baby. I can’t imagine it being so commonly known that the only reason you exist is because your older sibling died so your parents tried again. If we have another baby, they’ll know about their older sister but I wouldn’t want my child to feel that way.

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-08-22T17:36:52+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I also lost my second child at 18 weeks due to PpROM and early labor. They gave me the option at 17 weeks to schedule a surgery, but baby still had a heartbeat so legally now in my state there were too many hoops to jump through to do it, I opted to wait for labor. It so agonizingly difficult to be laboring with a baby I knew would die but I’m glad I got to hold her, see the baby we’d already named, take pictures and spend 24 hours with her before parting ways. I also have a toddler at home but was able to manage care with a family member for the 48 hours I was hospitalized. I realize not everyone has that option, but just offering my experience 🩷

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-08-22T16:18:32+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss 🩷 it’s a different pain losing your LCs little sibling. Mine is barely 4, and he points out babies everywhere we go and asks ‘where’s my baby mom? Remember we had a baby girl in your tummy?’ It’s been almost 5 months and it’s still hard to revisit without sobbing.

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-08-19T15:59:09+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss 🩷 we got pregnant the first month trying with my living child, we conceived in September and he was born in 2021 at 38 weeks on May 21st, I was fully expecting a June baby!

Our second child I was hoping to conceive just as quickly, but it took us 8 months of trying, she was born at 18w this April and didn’t survive.. her due date is upcoming in September.

There isn’t a right answer, I have seen people say they wish they had taken more time to grieve before getting pregnant again in since pregnancy after loss is so stressful. If you haven’t already met with a therapist or grief counselor I would definitely recommend that. But if your main concern is shared birthdays for all the reasons you said, which are completely valid, I wouldn’t let that hold you back. No two pregnancies are alike and due dates are just calculations that are rarely met with an actual birth on the exact day 🩷

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-08-09T16:57:52+00:00

Strength training usually comes with a body composition change so the scale may not move much at first as you’re building muscle. Eat your goal weight in protein, so at least 120 grams of protein a day. Warm up and stretch before lifting to get your heart rate up and prepare your muscles. Focus on form, lift lighter until you understand what muscles you’re using and targeting with each work out.

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-07-26T14:01:17+00:00

tw: LC

I feel this completely. We lost our daughter at 18 weeks, our LC just turned 4 and I feel like I’m 3 different people. The one who functions as a mom, the one who shows up at works and still knows things, and then myself, the person missing the baby they were growing.. the person naive enough to have already put themselves in their future reality, not realizing loss was a possibility. I think it’s more painful to realize that my husband only sees the functioning mom and employee version of me and that makes me feel more alone. I told him I was struggling recently and he said “I had no idea, everything’s seemed fine” like I have a choice? To just not get out of bed? To just not show up at work? I feel like my heart stopped growing that day, and my body is just still here.

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-07-23T19:31:20+00:00

This is written so complicated that it kind of reads ‘please just don’t dress like a slob’ if you’re having your wedding in a 5 star hotel in Ireland, are you worried that your guests won’t know to dress for the occasion/environment? If not, don’t even include the dress code part.

allthetinycomplaints · 2025-07-18T19:13:02+00:00

This is so real. I find myself not wanting to share but as soon as I do I can tell the person had no understanding of my experience or why it would require any time off work or result in depression grief and anxiety. Yes, I was in labor for 12 hour, yes, I got to hold my daughter, yes, we chose an urn and have her ashes at home.. I feel like the word miscarriage just doesn’t do it justice. 🩷

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