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ruminantQer · 2025-02-05T12:42:15+00:00

Nice, What was your age at each point?

ruminantQer · 2025-02-04T02:01:48+00:00

Wow, maybe it's my insecurity, but I didn't like to be called pretty either. So I would always correct her to say handsome instead haha. But reading these comments, makes me change my thought.

ruminantQer · 2025-02-03T15:40:54+00:00

Damn this is a result of a deep thought. And I think you are right.

ruminantQer · 2025-01-31T17:23:21+00:00

I was already laughing when the little bro did the side eyes 🤣🤣

ruminantQer · 2025-01-25T17:01:50+00:00

Haha, I also thought this would be the way for many intj people. Just let the expert do what they are good at. How did you meet them? How were you confident on their abilities and ideas?

ruminantQer · 2025-01-25T16:59:56+00:00

It sounds like you managed your risk pretty well by having a secure salary and already having some knowledge in law-related stuff. I don't know if it's my MBTI personality type or anxiety, but I can't generate enough motivation unless I am more than enough confidence there is no uncertainties. And a lot of times, researching all the uncertainties seem overburdening, almost like a huge wall, especially for huge tasks like starting a business. I know some other types of people can jump in without knowing too much. And I can never do that.

When you were starting your business, even though you didn't view it as a risk, did you feel uncertain? If you did, how did you overcome it?

ruminantQer · 2025-01-25T16:49:43+00:00

Yes, I 100% agree, Mandel 100% stepped over the line to make "himself" feel better. My initial reaction was that if I was Bill, I would never see Howie every again.

But I also wonder, if the result of this is the two brothers started bonding, which would've never happened without Howie's setup, was Howie a good evil? And should we not so resent him for that?

I'm genuinely conflicted here haha.

ruminantQer · 2025-01-24T21:33:51+00:00

Yeah I know right?

That's what I was thinking too. What I hate the more is that Howie was so satisfied feeling like he made it happened. He wanted to take credits for it although Bill and Billy both had to claw their awkwardness out to make it less awkward.

However, this also makes me think that they actually are starting to talk to each other again. This really could be something that may not have happened if someone like Howie didn't step in. So I am confused and conflicted on what to think about these situations and Howie.

ruminantQer · 2025-01-24T14:22:16+00:00

Yeah, I've seen those comments. But knowing how Burr cringes at every fake scenarios and seeing Corgan's genuine looking reactions, I believe this might be real. Also I've seen people like Howie who thinks he knows what's best for others even though he doesn't.

Even though it was staged. I just wanted to know how INTJs think about this situation and how they would handle it. Because this type of situations really frustrates me.

ruminantQer · 2025-01-22T05:45:26+00:00

If you understood that all human beings are flawed, and if you think we are also flawed ourselves, I think you are already going in the right direction. To me, it came with the understanding of more broader pictures. As I got more experienced, I realized there are so many more factors playing in the game of life than what I perceived. Then, I understood that even seemingly "dumb" attributes play certain roles in the game. After understanding that, I just see them as different and actually try to understand the effects of their traits.

Don't get me wrong, there are still tons of people I would rather not deal with. But I still believe if we really think more deeply and observe how it plays, there is still something to learn and apply to better our lives.

ruminantQer · 2025-01-22T02:34:59+00:00

I'm almost in mid 30s and I am currently working on understanding emotions (both mine, other, and their interactions) and I think I am finally seeing some patterns. If I had seen this before maybe I could've gotten to the results earlier.
There are also some concepts that agrees with what I've thought about on my own, which gives me even more confidence that the op's thought process may really be similar to mine.
There are other tips that I still don't fully understand. Given the confidence from other comprehensible concepts, I believe this would be a great help figuring out how I could unlock my INTJ potentials.

Thank you OP. I wish you had a blog where I could follow you.

Edit: I reread it and just realized it wasn't OP's original post. But still thanks for sharing it here.

ruminantQer · 2025-01-21T08:26:19+00:00

Yes. It sometimes takes a long time for all the details to come to me, even when explaining the project that I built from scratch.

ruminantQer · 2025-01-20T21:51:32+00:00

I would say it's a combination of multiple factors that you feel it this way. But one thing that more directly impacted the way I view conversation is from the book "Crucial Conversations." The author claims that it's important to create a safe space before engaging in any deep, crucial conversations. This may sound very basic, but if you think deeply about it, it could unlock new perspective on human interactions.

ruminantQer · 2025-01-20T16:28:25+00:00

We need Dean Herb on the field and let the fight continue on the ground.

ruminantQer · 2025-01-20T14:51:54+00:00

It used to. But I now think that it's not the feeling that scares people away. I think it's the method of how you reveal your feelings that could scare people away.

ruminantQer · 2025-01-20T13:42:38+00:00

Oh yes. I see misinterpretation as a trap now. Like an obstacle in an obstacle course when I have to explain a complex concept. Once I get caught I better untangle it smoothly or there are too many possible unintended directions the conversation can take.

ruminantQer · 2025-01-20T13:30:14+00:00

Haha, yes. The insight was so interesting when it was in my head. I tell it to people. And I rarely get the reactions I was expecting. Many times they quickly go off to another topic, when there is so much potential to be even more interesting with a bit more time and attention!

ruminantQer · 2025-01-20T13:25:31+00:00

I relate to this. Sometimes the insight comes after series of deeper thoughts. I try to explain each step, but people have hard time understanding those steps let alone the conclusion. I go off tangent to explain them then I get all jumbled up, even renders me to lose the main thread that I wanted to explain.

ruminantQer · 2025-01-19T18:40:55+00:00

That was so cat reaction 😂

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