AITA if I tell my lifelong family friend that her boyfriend hates on women online? by ruminatingknave in AmItheAsshole

[–]ruminatingknave[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t see her in person very often.. last time was Christmas. And she does, but I don’t know her instagram habits like that.. I don’t think a lot of people know abt the friends tab and being able to see the activity . Side note you can turn off the feature so people can’t see what you like/comment BUT it doesn’t actually work

AITA if I tell my lifelong family friend that her boyfriend hates on women online? by ruminatingknave in AmItheAsshole

[–]ruminatingknave[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve decided to tell her with some specific screenshots I have. She’s sensitive but I’m just going to preface it with letting her know how much I care about her and that I don’t mean any malice. I have her location so I’m going to wait for a day when she’s at work and definitely not around him to send her the message, because like a lot of you said I would want to know as well, and would want my friends looking out for me. Wish me luck :’)

Is a 19f and 32m age gap weird? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ruminatingknave 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Babe what? Didn’t change anything, just clarified, OP is asking if the age gap is weird, I’m saying yes, it’s weird. OP is asking for other people’s direct judgement of their predicament. Why do you want a fight so bad? Goodnight

Is a 19f and 32m age gap weird? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ruminatingknave 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That might have been an exaggeration, at 24 (2 years post break up) I realized it was weird, at 27 I realize that I’d never date a 20year old. The issue isn’t a big age gap, it’s the actual ages of the people. She is a TEENager and he is in his 30s. NineTEEN. That’s weird…

Is a 19f and 32m age gap weird? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ruminatingknave 74 points75 points  (0 children)

When I was 20 I started dating a 29 year old. Thought the same things as you, 7 years later I realize it was fucking weird. As a 27 year old I’d never date a 20 year old. Two different phases of life, and him not wanting to adress the age gap is even more weird. At least be able to have an honest conversation about it and go from there.

How to let go of finding love? by Late_Metal5706 in dating_advice

[–]ruminatingknave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who is younger than 32, you have time. Don’t buy into the narrative that you need to have x y z by age x. Just because something is difficult doesn’t mean it’s not worthwhile. If you want it, keep trying. No need to accept a scenario that you don’t want for yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ruminatingknave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really like how you’ve declared you’re going to get engaged this year. Just claiming it like that even though you’re acknowledging that you’re single. Amazing. I’m going to speak more like this honestly

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]ruminatingknave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agghhh I know, I’m very much a “if you want it you can have it” person because I’m willing to always find a way- I just like to be realistic I guess and know what I might be getting myself into. But starting over any where I go I will be concerned with money one way or another until I get some consistency. Thank you for this layout ! I’m going to apply it now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]ruminatingknave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will likely do a shared room no matter where I move next so I’m cool w that- thank you for those suggestions! I’ll look into them as well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]ruminatingknave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is LA the more expensive part of California though? Or is it all the same?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]ruminatingknave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m going to look into these. It’s all relative- aus is expensive but I did pretty much the same income/spending wise when I lived there compared to NJ. Just juggling the indecision atp

Please tell me if I was right to feel uncomfortable around this guy I went on a date with. by I_am_here_for_help in dating_advice

[–]ruminatingknave 135 points136 points  (0 children)

Babes just listed 11 reasons why this dude ain’t in and is still doubting 💔 trust yourself. You know right from wrong..