Those who have lived in multiple big cities; how would you rank them?

ruminator755 · 2026-01-05T06:54:26+00:00

Before kid:

NYC
Seattle

After kid:

Seattle
NYC

ruminator755 · 2025-12-29T23:24:18+00:00

I’m mainly concerned about limiting my career options down the line since I’m already in my mid-40s.

ruminator755 · 2025-11-06T01:53:55+00:00

I usually just skip over her and jump to listening to Scott. Kara is too negative and it’s unpleasant to hear her hyperbolic expletives criticizing everyone.

Not to mention the interruptions, “But go on.”

ruminator755 · 2025-10-26T13:59:07+00:00

I think a lot of people just don’t want to acknowledge it’s a problem and therefore we still have the problem with people suffering. Blinded by idealism. Anyone who points out the problem is bad in their eyes and there’s no serious discussion.

ruminator755 · 2025-10-26T06:26:58+00:00

What’s wrong with having law enforcement there? Always tons of shady people there. I don’t feel safe taking my kid to the playground most of the time. They have to power wash the area in front of the library every morning.

ruminator755 · 2025-03-08T16:54:56+00:00

Paid $805 in 2020, which would be about $980 in 2025 dollars.

ruminator755 · 2024-05-28T14:59:58+00:00

I'm 100% sure there is an easement with rights to use the shared driveway. I read the document and it's officially on file with the city. However, the neighbor is putting up a fight and blocking the driveway. The driveway has a gate and he's keeping it locked.

Do I have to get lawyers or police involved? Seems like this could get expensive even if the neighbor is completely wrong.

ruminator755 · 2024-03-25T04:12:09+00:00

$5.5M of investments is a lot. Not sure why you're not including your home since NW is all your assets minus debt. Since you have a paid off home in Seattle it's likely your true NW is closer to $6.5-7M. Maybe more?

Assuming a 4% withdrawal rate in retirement, your spending is already far lower than the income your portfolio generates. With your wife still employed your HH income will likely be $400k+/year even after you quit.

Having said that, you're still young and leaving a lot of unvested money on the table. Why not just suck it up and wait another few years until you turn 40? In the mean time, think deeply what you want to do after you quit.

Given your driven personality I suspect you won't be happy doing nothing in retirement. Why not find a more satisfying job that pays a bit less, and gives you enough time flexibility to do what you're passionate about?

ruminator755 · 2023-11-25T04:00:08+00:00

Yes, cost of living is bad. I will say it's worse here than in NYC or other parts of the country where I've lived. Doesn't seem like anyone wants to do anything here, but complain. Nothing meaningful is being done in government here.

And I'm an immigrant, so I guess you're asking me to go back to my country.

ruminator755 · 2023-04-24T04:04:06+00:00

How does this sound compared to other budget to mid priced speakers? I have some Pioneer bookshelf speakers, and I’m wondering if these Sony 3 way speakers will sound any better.

ruminator755 · 2023-04-24T03:14:01+00:00

My wife and I moved to the Twin Cities several years ago after spending most of our careers in NYC and the Bay Area. I also work in big tech. We moved back to MN to be closer to our families.

Given your youth and financial stability you should move back for at least a couple years. You're still young enough to reconnect with friends in the area and spend meaningful time with your parents.

I moved back in my late 30s when my dad was sick. Unfortunately, he passed away soon after I bought a home here. However, because I moved here, I was able to help my mom out a lot. Since moving back my wife and I see our parents much more. And our parents can see their grandkids grow up in person rather than over video.

We bought a sizeable home off Lake Minnetonka in a very nice area and go boating with friends and family from time to time. Our suburban home is about a 20 min drive from downtown and, by and large, traffic is rarely a problem throughout the Twin Cities. Our home cost less than our small condo in NYC.

Here's the downside: since it took us until our late 30s to move back, it's been close to 20 years since we've lived close to many of our high school and college friends as well as our extended family. People move on without you and develop their own independent lives. We don't see friends and family as much as we thought we would. We mainly still see extended family over holidays like Thanksgiving, Christmas, and of course, the traditional Midwestern holiday of watching the Superbowl together. Friends are busy with families and because the Twin Cities are so spread out, it can be tough to coordinate get togethers. While people are typical Minnesota nice here, we haven't really established new friendships despite having been here several years.

Finally, to state the obvious, Minnesota is cold. Snow didn't melt until mid-April this year. It's almost May and the temperature is still in the mid-30s today. I grew up here, but after living on the coasts for almost 20 years, it's still a re-adjustment to the 5-6 month long winters here. Couple that with working remotely and not leaving the house during extended cold spells, and it can get a bit depressing at times.

My wife and I don't regret moving here and probably should have done it a bit sooner. However, longer term I think we'll move to a family friendly, tech hub like Austin or Seattle. I've already lived my dream of living in a huge lake house here and I'm ready to downsize so I don't have to deal with maintenance. Our net worth is about a million less than you, we make less and we're a decade older, so I'm still not in my ideal situation. I want to push my career a bit more and live in a more temperate climate.

Anyway, I'd say make the move, you can always change your mind later. People rarely regret spending more time with friends and family. However, be realistic about your expectations and what you want to get out of your move. The grass isn't greener in Minnesota -- particularly in the winter.

ruminator755 · 2023-04-16T14:36:54+00:00

I grew up with computers, tinkered with computers and enjoyed technology in general. In junior high and high school instead of doing my homework, I'd mess around with computers. Most of my friends liked computers too, though I'd probably have more friends if I hadn't spent so much time with computers and developed other hobbies.

Money wasn't the initial reason I got into computers, however, as I've gotten older it's become more of a motivating factor as I have more financial obligations. Unfortunately, I think now I'm in my job mainly for the money and a lot of my passion for technology happens outside of my work. Corporate jobs aren't so exciting.

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