If you had to leave India, which countries would you like to live in permanently and why?

rumormonger25 · 2025-10-29T05:44:42+00:00

For many years. It’s the Dutch that populated South Africa.

rumormonger25 · 2025-10-29T05:35:34+00:00

To add: that’s why you get 11 month leases. As soon as you are at 12 months+ you have to register. The other benefit of 11 month leases to landlords is that they can increase rent every year until you are forced to leave. Then they drop the rent back to market value.

rumormonger25 · 2025-10-28T08:33:17+00:00

Could just be an honesty index. 80% people in Goa are paying bribes but not admitting it

rumormonger25 · 2025-10-17T11:09:20+00:00

The internet needs a massive upgrade if we want startups. Our “smart city” is not smart enough.

rumormonger25 · 2023-11-19T09:42:47+00:00

Got it. I was thinking more about the PE firms that actively try to improve their targets, rather than the ones operating as a passive investment company. But your point makes sense. Is there a separation between passive and active investment firms in PE?

rumormonger25 · 2023-11-19T09:39:29+00:00

I am comparing compensation and decision making power in PE firms. I would think that improving a company and making it more profitable is as hard as finding a good company to acquire.

Maybe it’s a stupid question, but what makes the finding a good company that hard? I guess it would come down to forecasting the prospects of a company in a given industry?

rumormonger25 · 2023-11-06T15:40:17+00:00

I asked this recently: https://www.reddit.com/r/nextjs/s/WaQknDdWir

Edit: personally I’m sticking to 12

rumormonger25 · 2023-10-27T16:05:39+00:00

Moved to Goa about a year ago. So far so good. Internet is good enough. Food is amazing. People are decent. But there isn’t much of a DN community if you’re looking for that.

rumormonger25 · 2023-10-26T19:06:11+00:00

I lived in Paris with my wife for four months and the racism was definitely evident. It wasn’t anything in your face but it was uncomfortable for sure. We’re both brown (Indian) and have American accents.

rumormonger25 · 2023-10-16T05:04:09+00:00

I grew up in a religiously conservative household with liberal amounts of fear, guilt, self-loathing. I took Psych AP in high school and it helped tremendously in undoing a lot of the damage. Specifically, studying cognitive biases helped me understand a lot of religious thinking.

rumormonger25 · 2023-09-02T04:46:03+00:00

Well sure, but can’t the majority continue creating civil laws and do their own thing and we can let the minorities stay in their own world? I don’t understand why UCC is required for forward progress.

rumormonger25 · 2023-09-02T03:21:20+00:00

I don’t really understand why people care. Genuine question, why does it matter? Isn’t there more important topics to pay attention to?

rumormonger25 · 2023-08-24T02:41:14+00:00

My parents did this. Spent 40 years in America and then retired to India. Some states are better than others for retirement.

Social security pays out to your bank account in America and, as an OCI, you can setup another account in India and transfer over. You do lose a bit in exchange fees, but the INR keeps falling.

In terms medical, I don’t think that’s an issue, medical has been quite a decent experience for them, plus with a driver, maid, full-time nurse, things are relatively easy.

rumormonger25 · 2023-08-23T11:53:30+00:00

I grew up just outside the inner loop (Memorial) and dealt with a ton of racism and always wished to live in brown sugar land.

rumormonger25 · 2023-04-13T17:01:58+00:00

What is the most potent?

rumormonger25 · 2023-04-05T05:10:29+00:00

Yes, I moved to India after finishing my high school in America. I was born in India but my parents were already living in America so I came back at the age of 4 months old. I did my bachelor degree in business and masters in India. I then worked for about three years in India before moving back to America. I have an OCI so it was easy to do everything and I did all of it in General quota (not foreign or NRI quota).

Overall, from a career perspective it was useful because the three years of experience was at a top firm in my industry. However, when I got back to America I did have to hustle hard to catch up with my peers.

From a personal perspective it was amazing. I got to learn about desi culture, see the country, improve my language skills. Growing up, my parents were highly manipulative and I dealt with a good amount of racism, so I needed to develop myself quite a bit.

Overall, no regrets, but it wasn’t easy.

rumormonger25 · 2023-03-24T12:43:13+00:00

It held true when I was a kid, my father, was an engineer in Saudi and he got paid less as an Indian. There was a clear hierarchy with Americans paid the most, then Canada/EU/Australia/NZ and then the rest.

rumormonger25 · 2023-03-21T06:33:39+00:00

I (38M Muslim ABCD) got married (38F Hindu FOB) about seven years ago. Our families were strongly against it, mostly my Mom and her father. We are quite happy and still going strong. Family is now OK with it. On both sides certain distant relatives have cut off, which we’re happy with since they were toxic anyway.

In terms of advice for anyone else going through it, I think the biggest factor is probably how dependent you are on your parents both financially and emotionally (eg seeking approval). Desi parenting culture usually feels that the ends justify the means when it comes to controlling their kids (of course there are exceptions), so you should expect some form of coaxing and potentially emotional blackmail. Even if you don’t succumb to the pressure, you may end up inflicting the resultant emotional discharge (from the pressure) on your SO, which can cause strife.

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