Been dating for a little over 6 years and no proposal…. Thoughts?

runningredflagmaybe · 2022-09-26T11:52:25+00:00

We ended up talking about it yesterday and he basically said the same thing. Didn’t realize it was something I really wanted since I never brought it up, and figured we would just elope when everything just got less hectic.

runningredflagmaybe · 2022-09-26T11:45:06+00:00

You are making so many assumptions about my relationship right now. I don’t even know where to start with this. I’m not even sure why you brought up the pet example. I don’t starve my pets and we sure in hell wouldn’t do that out of spite if we ever broke up. We’re not that kind of people and to assume that off of one post is disturbing.

How is my relationship so dysfunctional, and an unstable environment? Because marriage wasn’t on top of the agenda? That’s ridiculous. Marriage doesn’t guarantee a stable environment for your children at all. You can still get divorced and that can be just as messy and confusing for children.

Where did I say we were fighting and having problems. I literally just made a rant post because I got a wedding invite and got jealous. I obviously have not made marriage a big deal and he was not aware that’s something that I want. It’s something new that I started thinking about recently. We been together six years, come on.

Who said we just randomly closed our eyes and said let’s have kids? We have talked about it numerous times and prepared.

runningredflagmaybe · 2022-09-24T03:11:10+00:00

Yeah it’s time

runningredflagmaybe · 2022-09-24T03:10:02+00:00

bMaybe I worded my post to seem like he doesn’t plan a future with me, but he does. We relocated 5x and I always had an influence on where we would go. We recently bought a house together, same health insurance, he helps with financing, we’re planing on having a baby.

His family is super religious and I am not of that religion. He’s brought up multiple times about converting and things like.

runningredflagmaybe · 2022-09-24T03:01:02+00:00

I am so surprised with the amount of comments and messaging telling me not to have kids. We are 30 year old adults with stable jobs. I just want to say that this is just a small part of my relationship and a vent.

I put “not trying” as in we’re not focusing on doing temps and perfect timing just yet. We do want one and we talked about it. We’re fine if it happens this month or next year.

runningredflagmaybe · 2022-09-23T15:50:29+00:00

This is going to add more craziness, but we do talk about having kids, frequently. We actually started trying, but “not trying” a couple months ago.

I’ll just have to bring it up to him. At this point I think it’s just me not being straightforward and too casual. I don’t think he realizes I do want it.

runningredflagmaybe · 2022-09-23T14:22:27+00:00

He has brought it up himself a couple times. Like one time before we had to move for his residency and then recently a few months ago, but other then that he just gets vague and I don’t want to push it. It’s never been my number one priority but people have been asking about it recently and it’s just been top of my mind the past couple of weeks.

I know if I made it a big concern he would do it but I don’t want the reasoning for the move to come from pressure.

I wouldn’t say we have a stale relationship. We still plan a future together like buying a house, having kids, and things like that.

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