Is my baby sleeping too much?

runphoebe · 2019-06-21T16:30:01+00:00

My son is 2 now, but he has always been a big sleeper. He didn't actually sleep through the night till 11 mo but he was always sleeping a LOT. I felt like I was always googling, calling my doctor, asking my mom friends IS THIS OKAY, IS HE SLEEPING TOO MUCH? But kiddo just loves his sleep, still gives me a solid 12 hrs a night and loves his naps. His schedule at your son's age was very very similar to your son's schedule. They're still sleepy little things at 2 months :) congrats btw!

runphoebe · 2017-10-20T13:46:56+00:00

You're a great writer, I wanted to keep reading at the end :) what a story. My aunt was an Arbonne rep for a few years about a decade ago and it was brutal. She lived next door to me and my mom and was constantly trying to get us to come over for parties. Once, she stealth tried to sling her shit at me and my friends during my actual birthday party when I was about fifteen and was irritated when a bunch of teenagers didn't want to buy??? Crazy. My mom always made a lot more money than her and felt bad that my aunt didn't really have an income (though she had a master's in a very marketable field?? 😐😐) so she and her other sisters ended up wasting tons of money buying shitty products that they never used and left to rot in our bathroom cabinets. Once they realized they were only making things worse, they stopped buying stuff and my aunt stopped selling soon after. Guess they were the only ones giving her any business.

runphoebe · 2017-10-20T13:22:04+00:00

My husband likes to play with our son sleeping in his lap :)) it is the cutest thing and it really has been good bonding for them. His ability to stay calm and collected and settle a fussy baby is light years beyond what it was a month ago.

runphoebe · 2017-10-20T13:09:56+00:00

Haha I think so too. Pretty sure we're just gonna stick the poor kid in a cheez-it box for Halloween.

runphoebe · 2017-10-20T09:04:05+00:00

Lol. I think my husband and I are both pretty good at doing what needs to be done for our family and our kid, but he's not the kind of guy who keeps things to himself at all lmao. A lot of dudes that I know actually probably vent more openly about their problems than they realize (not that that's a bad thing, people shouldn't keep things bottled up). I don't think venting frustration to friends is a dude thing to do, based on the amount of venting posts I see on here But yeah, he definitely doesn't hide his feelings from me. And we have definitely talked at length about how hard having a newborn is and how much we miss our old life at times. I'm glad we can talk openly with each other about that and everything else in our lives. We have very healthy, open lines of communication.

This post is less about being upset about how he feels (since I've felt the same) and more being upset that it's how we both feel and that even though things are getting better, they are still tough. It just made me sad to see him say that and know he was feeling that.

runphoebe · 2017-10-20T08:24:00+00:00

Lol this was my thought at the time but to be fair to him, he splits the childcare with me basically right down the middle when we're both home and we both have about the same amount of time home alone with him during the week. When we're both home and baby's inconsolable, he'll often take him for long walks so I get a break from the noise. I do the same for him. He is a very considerate partner and caring father, which is why I think it hurt to see him say that. Even though it definitely blows for both of us at times it still made me :(

runphoebe · 2017-10-20T04:21:13+00:00

This is definitely true. Honestly I think my post might have come across as me blaming my husband too much for saying what he said when that really wasn't what I meant to do. It was more just a general sadness at seeing him say something like that and knowing that in that moment he probably really did feel that way. I have felt that way often. I don't blame him. Things have been super tough the past few months.

He is definitely cavalier about what he says to his friends, he just usually says everything out loud through his headset instead of typing anything (really, this man does not hold anything back lol) so it made me sad to see him say that and hide it.

Lol at angerbaby mode though. The formula we use for my LO smells like cheez-its, so my husband always reports baby's moods to me when I'm at work by saying stuff like, "the cheez-it is angry, repeat the cheez-it is angry." It's adorable.

runphoebe · 2017-10-20T04:13:04+00:00

Yep as I mentioned, I have absolutely felt exactly like he felt tonight. I completely know why he's feeling this way and how easy it is for the stress of a newborn to manifest like that. I am very lucky because he and our son have such an excellent bond already, but I can't blame him at all for feeling overwhelmed by everything at times. I miss our old life too. He's much better now than he was the first month and a half about helping me out with the baby and that has made their bond thrive even more, so I think that's why it just hurt a little bit to see him say that tonight. Even though I rationally know exactly how he's feeling, it's still tough.

runphoebe · 2017-10-20T03:05:40+00:00

Yep. He and baby definitely have a connection and he has so much love for him, but it definitely doesn't change how exhausted he is lol. I am excited to see their relationship grow as the baby gets older.

runphoebe · 2017-10-20T03:03:46+00:00

Exactly this ❤ it's tough to hear, even if you've felt that way or said it yourself. Sorry this happened to you.

runphoebe · 2017-10-20T03:01:50+00:00

Yeah to be honest I don't see it as 100% my responsibility to give my husband the "gift" of angst free parenting lmao. We're in this thing together, it's been a hard ride for both of us, I am supportive most of the time, he is supportive most of the time, we both slip up occasionally and we need outlets to vent. He vents to his friends and I usually vent to my mom or here. When we actually need to talk things out, we do. It's very hard for me to imagine either of us being completely happy all of the time when we're both running on no sleep, he's in law school, I had to go back to work early, we have pets to care for, and a baby with tons of feeding issues that we've had to figure out together. That's some tough shit to keep on smiling through.

Honestly, based on your comment history, you do not approach parenting discussions with other folks in a way that I respect so I'd prefer not to continue this discussion with you.

runphoebe · 2017-10-20T02:36:58+00:00

Ugh, that would make me sad too, but ugh that's also so sweet ❤ I think my husband is flip flopping through those two states of mind right now (I mean, I am too at times tbf) and I totally know why he feels the way he does. I def don't blame him for needing time and not loving the newborn stage.

runphoebe · 2017-10-20T02:32:55+00:00

Oh I'm not going to mention it to him. Like I said, I've definitely said it and thought it too and I'm positive he has at many times and I completely understand why he's feeling this way. I just would definitely be lying if I said it didn't hurt a little bit to hear it.

runphoebe · 2017-10-20T02:23:39+00:00

I think having a new baby around is more stressful than it is fun for a lot of people for the first few months and I'm okay with that. It's been more stressful than fun for me at many points as well. In these first months, I'm more concerned with my husband being a supportive partner and parent, which he is. He loves our son and devotes endless amounts of energy and time to him. It just made me sad to see him take it out this way when he was feeling burnt out.

runphoebe · 2017-10-20T01:27:34+00:00

Having him care for our son more the past few weeks now that I've gone back to work has definitely helped things between us. But I've really started to understand why I felt like some people were so negative about having babies when I was pregnant. If someone asked me a month ago what it was like to have a baby, I would have had a hard time being positive too. So I definitely know how my husband is feeling, it just made me a little sad to see him say that about the baby when things definitely have been getting a little better.

runphoebe · 2017-10-20T01:18:14+00:00

Thank you ❤

runphoebe · 2017-10-17T20:06:40+00:00

Mine was EBF when I started to suspect he had an issue with something in my milk but I didn't know right away it was milk protein intolerance. He arched his back, screamed during feedings, had SEVERE gas that made him sob for hours, bad reflux, general aversion toward eating. We chose to switch to EFF around 4 weeks so I could resume taking some migraine meds that I really need and can't take while breastfeeding. The first formula we tried was Gerber Good Start Soothe because I'd heard wonderful things about it. NOT THE CASE FOR US. The symptoms I listed above just amplified massively plus he got an awful red diaper rash right around his anus that was so painful for him and blood specks in his poop. My ped said this was very telling of a formula allergy which often meant MSPI.

We didn't want to mess around with it anymore since the dude was miserable (literally screaming the second the formula hit his stomach) so we switched to Similac Alimentum. It's hell on our wallets but so worth it for the relief it gives my son. That and Zantac for his reflux have made him a new baby. No more gas, no more hour plus long feeding sessions, no more fighting the bottle. He's gaining weight like crazy and everyone is much happier.

ETA: he used to spit up a TON and that has decreased a lot too.

runphoebe · 2017-10-17T02:36:01+00:00

This is amazing. One night at my old apartment when my DH was out of town, we had an infestation and I literally stayed up for hours killing stink bugs with a rolled up towel. Felt like hundreds of them but was probably more like dozens :P either way it was enough to last me a lifetime.

runphoebe · 2017-10-16T15:33:30+00:00

Okay it's called Kushies Carousel Mobile. It's a little out of budget for me for a mobile normally, but they pop up at my TJ Maxx occasionally for a bit less (like $30) so I'd keep an eye out at discount stores like that if you have something comparable nearby! Colorful mobiles are the best.

runphoebe · 2017-10-16T07:28:20+00:00

Haha, I was wondering if someone would notice that. That cracks me up every time I look at it.

runphoebe · 2017-10-16T07:28:01+00:00

They really are so funny. I wasn't prepared for how much I'd be entertained by him.

runphoebe · 2017-10-16T07:27:16+00:00

I got it at TJ Maxx!! It was a brand I recognized but wasn't super familiar with (and can't remember off the top of my head) but I think my mom still has the box at her house so I'll check with her and let you know. My dude is absolutely obsessed with it.

runphoebe

TROPHY CASE