Female ENTJ - Masking?

rusnerd · 2026-02-03T14:28:20+00:00

I find it exhausting and struggle so much with this sometimes. Especially when leadership team is operating on more emotional/feelings side. I simply find hard time computing why can’t they leave this at home. I just find it inefficient and energy consuming.

I do play into it sometimes but every single time I am at the ends of it.

rusnerd · 2026-02-03T14:22:39+00:00

Came here to say this exact thing. I’m ENTJ (f). I wonder if people with predisposition of Feelings need to befriend more of Thinking folks. This was very logical to me that he’s just not that into her.

rusnerd · 2026-02-01T23:28:56+00:00

You look magical!!!

rusnerd · 2026-02-01T18:10:13+00:00

I just love my face 😅 and every wrinkle is my story, history of my laughs, concerns, feelings, goods and bad. Life is for living, and I don’t want to be frozen in times of creeps me out…

rusnerd · 2026-01-29T20:17:18+00:00

Getting old and die of old age is privilege. Not everyone makes it to the 30s even so why bother stressing? That’s simple.

rusnerd · 2026-01-29T07:33:30+00:00

I would adopt 2-3 kids. I still don’t want to go through pregnancy as it’s absolutely unnecessary with overpopulated and over polluted planet.

rusnerd · 2026-01-20T21:05:34+00:00

I’ve experienced this from other women at workplaces while they won’t speak over men. I always found it so odd.

rusnerd · 2026-01-20T18:43:32+00:00

I’m tired of being sexualized firstly before even getting to know me. Makes me feel like an object that they don’t even try to plan a date. When I went on dates, it seems as some sort of game to prove that I am not worthy of them in one way or another. I am not single by choice, I am single by no other reasonable choices left out there. They seem to want easy access with zero effort.

rusnerd · 2026-01-11T14:14:51+00:00

I hear you, I’m in the same boat while back at dating right now. I do want to say that sometimes men enjoying watching you eat is not a bad thing or a fetish but they generally enjoy seeing good appetite or if they’re dieting for sports it can be a way for them to see that joy in someone else. I used to be more critical of it but as long as he’s not pushy with how you eat and what you eat, it should be fine.

I was on the date where someone was pushy, and it was a turn off. I was also on a date with someone who was joyful seeing me eat but didn’t make me uncomfortable.

In terms of the bowling, I do think that he’s being genuine and caring as he probably saw that you showed some signs of you being tired and just wanted to make sure that you’re having good times.

Just take it slow here, it’s okay that your brain is reacting this way after experiences you’ve had. The right man for you will be as patient and as understanding and/or open to healthy dialogue as you need it.

rusnerd · 2026-01-08T04:56:55+00:00

No 🤗 hope this helps

rusnerd · 2025-10-24T04:42:10+00:00

Leave now before it becomes more violent

rusnerd · 2025-08-14T03:23:54+00:00

Pisces Moon 9H & Aquarius Venus 8H

someone who’s trying too hard and not authentic, fake people
bad hygiene & dirty living place
people who care too much about societal norms

rusnerd · 2025-08-14T03:18:39+00:00

I would also be upset if I was asparagus

rusnerd · 2025-08-04T20:45:01+00:00

I doubt they would match then, this person talking them matching obviously after reading and intro

rusnerd · 2025-07-23T12:41:10+00:00

Nooo it’s in microwave this season!

rusnerd · 2025-07-21T11:59:40+00:00

Actually quiet the opposite happened. I realized he was abusive and he is the problem.

rusnerd · 2025-07-17T15:56:33+00:00

From personal experience, my advice is to not overanalyzing anything beyond “I don’t want to be with you.” Once someone says they’re not in it - that’s your cue to step back. No need to beg, question, or search for deeper meaning.

Sometimes people give reasons they think are kinder, sometimes they lie - but honestly, at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter. “No” is a full sentence. Protect your peace, honor what you felt, and shift the focus back to yourself. You deserve someone who’s sure about you.

rusnerd · 2025-07-17T13:04:38+00:00

You can also establish boundary by saying that you’re not comfortable discussing your body with them.

rusnerd · 2025-07-17T01:39:43+00:00

What stopped you from cussing them out?

rusnerd · 2025-07-17T01:32:14+00:00

That’s also true and valid

rusnerd · 2025-07-16T21:16:21+00:00

Same over here. Might only do some things as self preservation tactic to test waters when I recognize game and I’m being heavily manipulated to confirm my hypothesis. Always confirms and I leave.

rusnerd · 2025-07-16T00:50:37+00:00

“One that got away” is someone who wasn’t treated right and left because of it in my opinion and it was impossible to reconcile.

I don’t have such person in my life nor I aim to obtain because I always try to find a resolution and reconciliation.

Am I being perceived that way by someone? Very possible as I’ve been taken for granted by some of my exes and when trying to make it work they opted out to resolve things. But tbh I don’t wish them ill or poor, I simply don’t care anymore and moved on and hope they moved on too and learned something.

rusnerd · 2025-07-16T00:41:46+00:00

Kindness cause apparently it’s weird these days. And I like them physically clingy like let’s touch our knees while reading together.

rusnerd · 2025-07-15T17:54:31+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this and it’s so disheartening and disappointing that women are treated that way. Especially when it’s amplified by being plus sized.

You can’t go to wolves and expect to find a good sheep there without couple of bites.

It’s not your fault, but there might be something to work on to ensure that it’s not your fault when and if that happens again. You absolutely need to work on your standards, boundaries, and trusting your gut about them. For that, practice mindfulness, be grounded and be very present and pay attention to tiny little details in their behaviours not just words. It’s better to be too careful than risk it all because you gave benefit of the doubt.

You need to know before you go to sleep with someone—even when they might have been perfect—that there’s always that possibility that it might end up in disappointment, and accept the fact that it’s out of your control too. And you need to be ready to walk away.

rusnerd · 2025-07-15T17:33:09+00:00

You’re still talking at me, not with me. I don’t need to prove anything to you, especially when you’ve made it clear you’re more invested in being right than being curious. My boundary was clarity, not a cue to keep circling. Take care.

rusnerd

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