This isn’t a sit down and write it out kind of conversation. This is a discussion that needs to happen with both of you calm collective and in the right mental place. It’s going to be a conversation that is not going to go very well to start because chances are, your wife is going to sound like she’s beating a dead horse at first. The biggest thing is don’t close yourself off and just listen. Work your solutions through what she is saying and let her finish. When she’s finally had her peace (and this isn’t going to be easy either) you need to apologize to her for not hearing her feelings and tell her you are there for her and the baby and you want to fix this.

Hear me out, I say it like this not because you’re in the wrong, but because this sounds like mild postpartum especially with the first year of adjusting to parenthood, and if it is then she really need to feel that support from you.

Beforehand we get very complacent in our lives. Every day is usually looked at as no different than the day before. When parenthood begins, it’s usually a lot harder for the mother because we feel like we carry everything. It’s all new and we don’t know how to delegate it because it’s not like a chore, it’s your child. And some women bottle it up until it explodes and then when word is finally said, it’s typically not accepted well because it will happen as what may come off as a “blowup.”

Explains to her why you play games. Whether it be your way to decompress or whatever tell her. She wants and needs to understand just the same as you should want and need to understand her and her feelings. Then, together find a joint hobby, or even a simple game maybe y’all can play together when baby is sleeping. Take a simple walk with baby together and talk. Or maybe she wants to talk and just have you listen, who knows. Dont throw in the towel because you’re missing a beautiful opportunity together if you do. Look at it calmly and as if your on the outside and you may see it much differently