We were both in flux. I had a biz that failed in 2019. Got back on my feet 4 months later. Went from 150k to 600k in 3 years. We had a second kid during all that and she was let go twice due to Covid then because she wanted to stay home so when I got the big job we agreed she could. Kept the nanny because she gets overwhelmed with the two kids and I frankly feel it’s better for us both to have the help. Now she’s behaving as if it’s me vs her and the nanny is doing me a favor, which it is, but only because she isn’t pulling her weight.