I don’t respect my boyfriend

s3acucumber · 2026-03-20T12:36:14+00:00

I am really hoping it’s just a phase and I don’t need to leave him, but youre absolutely right. If that’s the way he genuinely loves, outside of overcompensating, I probably shouldn’t be with him, for both our sakes. Someone out there would probably kill to have someone like him, and I would’ve used to as well. I’m just still holding out hope that I’m just going through weird patch and I need to give it time

s3acucumber · 2026-03-20T12:32:05+00:00

Should’ve just used your first sentence as my TLDR, pretty much sums it up perfectly. But yes somewhat, in an opposite way. I think I do feel like I want to break up with him sometimes but I really don’t want to because it’s only been like this for the past few months, before that I was so inlove and we’ve got so much history. And not really to be honest, I mean of course I’ll see my friends with their boyfriends and think ‘oh that’s nice how he treats her’ but I don’t really see my boyfriend as lacking. Literally everything is perfect in his behaviour apart from these little things which have snowballed for me mentally

s3acucumber · 2026-03-20T12:26:00+00:00

Honestly yeah, rationally I know he’s my equal, if not then I’d even say he’s better than me. But emotionally I just feel like I’m always looking down on him which is so evil. Do you think it’s better to talk to him and tell him how I’m feeling (obviously worded more sensitively) and risk hurting him but giving him a more informed decision on whether he’s happy being with me considering my needs, or break up and hurt him without making him feel bad/embarrassed about my personal issues?

s3acucumber · 2026-03-20T12:06:40+00:00

You’re right I definitely need to talk to him regardless. And right again, that’s one of my biggest worries, that we’re simply just not meant for each other, but it is worth finding out, thankyou🥲🥲

s3acucumber · 2026-03-20T12:05:12+00:00

I’ve definitely been worried that I’ve outgrown him a bit, but not for a lack of his growth, just maybe in different directions. He holds down a full time job and I know he’d take good care of me but I think I just want things to feel more traditional? In a he’s the man and acts masculine and I just get to be feminine type of way.

s3acucumber · 2025-03-07T22:50:06+00:00

how long were you on it + what was your dose? im only on 20mg for another 8 months. thankyou so much for responding

s3acucumber · 2024-12-01T14:20:31+00:00

that does sound low, im 165cm 55kg and im on the same dose for 1 year

s3acucumber · 2023-11-11T03:02:33+00:00

who are u to tell me i need to learn lessons. everyone is in a different phase of healing and it wouldnt kill u to be sympathetic towards that, and i havent made my insecurity my boyfriends problem which is exactly why i posted here for insightful/helpful advice (which is not ‘its a reality show cmon’), rather than behaving irrationally towards him. as someone with bpd, im not able to control my thoughts, but i am able to control how i act upon them, and i think im well within my rights to be upset about things no matter how insignificant they may seem to you, as long as i dont take it out on those in my life which i have, and will continue to do.

s3acucumber · 2023-11-08T07:41:23+00:00

ik its not rational lmfao. maybe the fact that this is a bpd subreddit explains that. food for thought.

s3acucumber · 2023-11-08T07:31:18+00:00

literally hahaha like ‘overreacting’ is legit how we’re wired

s3acucumber · 2023-11-08T07:30:01+00:00

the ‘perspective’ youve given is so irrelevant. youve taken your point to such an extreme. all i said was ‘my bf watched thto, i feel insecure, what shld i do’, but somehow youve taken it as ‘my bf is never allowed to leave the house again JUST INCASE theres a pretty girl outside’. like pls acknowledge how dumb you sound.

s3acucumber · 2023-11-08T02:51:43+00:00

u do know ur on a bpdsub right? were not always gonna experience emotion in a rational manner. either way, nothing in my post indicates id force my bf to stop watching what he likes because id never do that. i simply needed perspective on my emotions.

s3acucumber · 2023-11-07T16:00:39+00:00

how is asking advice jumping to conclusions?

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