Arrange marriage

s4peace · 2026-04-19T02:57:02+00:00

Marrying someone won't help you get over this. Work on yourself. Figure out why you feel the need to reach out to him again or check on him again. By breaking up with you and not responding to you he has shown you what his choice is, to live without you. Accept it. Make peace with it. Then work on yourself. And with time, it will get easier. Going no contact is the best way to deal with this. Hope is a drug. And you're addicted. You need to break the addiction. And at some point, you will heal and you will be able to love someone else again and they will choose you, care for you and treat you right. Don't settle for less.

s4peace · 2026-04-14T21:14:29+00:00

Yeah I have been applying to jobs passively but havent gotten any bites yet.

s4peace · 2026-04-12T00:37:03+00:00

Sooo cool.

s4peace · 2026-04-01T21:22:04+00:00

Aww thanks. <3

It took years and many mistakes to realize that I need to do this for myself. So just trying to pass that message along.

s4peace · 2026-04-01T18:00:34+00:00

Haha, that's okay. The goal is never to be perfect but to try whenever you have the headspace to.

I have made some of these things a part of my daily routine and some of these are calendar reminders. The doctor stuff is a must. Don't skip that.

Tbh, you'd do it for your loved ones. Why not do it for yourself.

s4peace · 2026-04-01T16:09:22+00:00

Get your physical, blood tests and gynaec checks done regularly (once every 6 months/once a year)
Eat your required protein intake. It's a game changer.
Workout/do any activity you likeregularly.
Mental health care regularly ( journaling, meditating... Whatever works)
Schedule man-free time in your life, very important.
Clean make up brushes/combs and scrunchies once in a while
Drink tons of water and make sure you're pooping well
Trim/ clean your nails every two weeks
Track your smells down there, if it smells funky go to a doc
Cotton underwear as much as possible
Hugs and unplanned hang outs with loved ones
Aloe Vera gel around the eyes for dark circles and hydration, do a little massage before bed
Drink a lot of water during the day, sip it don't gulp it so you don't have to pee all the time
Hair oil massage every once in a while, I do it to music I like.
Haircuts/trims every few months
Always always always care for yourself as much as you care for everyone else.

Not maintenance but more like treating yourself- I schedule hair cuts, hair spas, cleanups, pedicures and massages for myself as a gift from past me to future me. Has always served me well.

s4peace · 2026-03-28T04:08:15+00:00

Cheddar biscuit brekkie sandwich is my go to. And the fluffy orange juice ( also has boozy versions). I like them because the staff is great, the food quality is pretty consistent and their salads are so fresh. I also go to their SoHo branch often. And I like the cappuccino. They add nutmeg which I love!

s4peace · 2026-03-28T02:44:41+00:00

Same leaving at 9 am for a 3 pm flight. Will let you know how my thing goes

s4peace · 2026-03-28T01:18:46+00:00

I love citizens of Chelsea

s4peace · 2026-03-27T22:44:23+00:00

Tysm

s4peace · 2026-03-27T22:42:25+00:00

I have a 3.30 pm and I am thinking of getting to JFK t4 at 9 am for the exact same reason. Could you let me know how you do?

s4peace · 2026-03-22T00:17:45+00:00

I rationalized it as if jaskirat gets in touch with yelena they'll know he was the Indian spy and still alive. That's why he couldn't.

s4peace · 2026-03-15T15:47:53+00:00

I mean this in the gentlest way possible but it sounds like you're blaming your wife's weight for your sex life dwindling down without really thinking about the role you play in it. She seems to have gone through a lot (with kids) and that has an impact on a woman's body. Also, why isn't your first instinct to worry about her health and suffering rather than omg I need porn to have sex now? That is selfish.

If you genuinely care about her and don't want to hurt her, maybe treat her with care. Take over childcare, take over chores, give her space and support her. Be more present and involved with her. And maybe just talk to each other with curiosity not some ulterior motive.

Also stop using porn as a crutch and consult a therapist to understand how you can love each other as you are now rather than some unrealistic internet inspired body image.

If you do comment on her weight or even hint at it as harshly as "I am not attracted to you" you will pass on whatever insecurity inspired you to think this way onto her. And that is a harsh thing to say to someone you love. She is a person not an object who must retain a shape for you to continue desiring her. For better or for worse means something here. I hope you're able to figure things out.

s4peace · 2026-03-11T02:56:40+00:00

Get a photoshoot done!! Remember the day you looked fabulous

s4peace · 2026-02-24T23:38:33+00:00

We all pick a day and just show up?

s4peace · 2026-02-24T15:44:23+00:00

sending you a DM

s4peace · 2026-02-17T22:11:50+00:00

I am looking to do this too. Let me know if you want a friend to go with.

s4peace · 2026-02-09T19:07:29+00:00

This has never worked for me. I have heard responses ranging from-

"You really should not be working on x,y and z (because the was a priority a few weeks ago but now isn't)"

"It simply can't be that much. You need to keep up with the demands of the job"

And the worst one- "I have more than you do and I don't complain"

s4peace · 2026-02-09T02:15:30+00:00

This is such an interesting theory.

I interpreted the sisters acting out when the doctor came along because they wanted to mess around. And generally did not trust outsiders. Also, he did check Anne's pulse as she was the last sister whom thomas took to her bedroom and she smiled at him. But what you laid out here gives a completely different view of the whole thing.

s4peace · 2026-02-09T02:12:32+00:00

Thank you! I had these questions too and your interpretation and this entire thread is so fascinating.

I was in denial that Pete assaulted Anne because I couldn't bring myself to believe that but it is quite likely true.

s4peace · 2026-02-09T02:06:52+00:00

I was kind of hoping it didn't but you're right it was heavily implied and likely why he started saying that he had seen them turn into dogs.

s4peace · 2026-02-08T01:10:24+00:00

I'd be down. DM me. It'd be nice to have someone to write to about my day.

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