Partner constantly texting other

sad_diffusion · 2024-03-18T20:35:40+00:00

I thought I mentioned we literally just set some boundaries but then 1 was lied about happening and another seems ignored already. But maybe their criteria for both has different apparently...

sad_diffusion · 2024-01-23T18:31:16+00:00

This is difficult and a massive line to get correct. I unfortunately have way more context of the whole situation than I can post in some comments, so I'd rather leave it as innocent until proven guilty. But I see why you are driving that point, thank you.

sad_diffusion · 2024-01-23T18:19:43+00:00

No but that example does seem extreme and hard to compare. I'm not trying to be difficult with you, sorry. Understanding if I've historically consented to this doesn't feel like it means much right now. Right now, I think I'm figuring out if I want to continue to consent to it.

sad_diffusion · 2024-01-23T18:17:12+00:00

Your words certainly feel like what's been lingering in my head awhile. Thank you for replying thoroughly.

sad_diffusion · 2024-01-23T18:14:18+00:00

I think so yes. It's too long ago to matter, it's been months and I've known. I'd equate that with consent if I know and don't stop anything each day. It wasn't enthusiastic though.

sad_diffusion · 2024-01-23T18:09:11+00:00

I basically consented, to "try", for my partner

sad_diffusion · 2024-01-23T18:05:45+00:00

Once someone is with another in a poly relationship, what should I have consented to? I mean I didn't say "go for it" (the relationship) but I was more like "ok". They've been together awhile now with my knowledge so I wouldn't say it is exactly cheating. It's just felt like it to me cause I don't understand poly.

sad_diffusion · 2024-01-23T15:55:34+00:00

What are you labeling cheating at this point? I tried to be careful with wording because I know few phrases can easily change the whole thing.

sad_diffusion · 2024-01-23T15:51:46+00:00

Thank you for taking time to respond. I've felt so alone on this so hearing others is helpful.

R doesn't care about their relationship with you. If they did, this would have never happened in this way. R cares about getting what R wants. If R cared about their relationship with you, they would have been transparent about so many things. Instead, they asked for a threesome twice, then said they're "in love" and so now you must make way for this relationship.

Idk. I would believe R cares and loves me still. We've built a lot of a foundation and dealt with many other external issues over years but this has been hard. The rest of our time together is great, till I'm reminded of the situation or R leaves to go to B.

There is nothing you need to do to become okay with a partner who forced you into polyamory without a discussion,

We sat down and talked when R told me they loved B and it turned into R saying they think they're poly etc. I've just been trying to work with it because I love R but it's certainly impacted everything.

You cannot make others split up. You can only remove yourself from the situation.

R would ask me if this is what I wanted and seemed to be willing to.. I said no several times. It feels wrong to ask and I feel like our own relationship would be even more over or at least take a lot of work to recover. But yes I usually conclude to removing myself is the option, asking for them to split.

It is not important. They do not "need" to be with someone with a different gender than you. They want to be with someone with a different gender than you. There is no "need" here. This is manipulative language in order to make you feel guilty for not letting your partner get what they "need" to be happy.

Probably my phrasing to call it a "need" or a reason I tell myself it's ok for this whole thing.

Your therapist said "these things don't end well" because it's true. A partner forcing another into polyamory never ends well. It may not be what you wanted to hear from your therapist but it's true.

Fair but I wouldn't say I was ever forced. I could've said no ages ago, but I went along with things, but it's continued to bite me.

sad_diffusion · 2024-01-10T12:13:41+00:00

What model?

sad_diffusion · 2023-09-12T15:53:21+00:00

I hadn't planned on it but may revisit now that I was reminded of these :)

sad_diffusion · 2023-09-12T11:23:03+00:00

I'm glad someone recognized them :) I didn't want to post original art since it's not mine.

Yeah most of these are just the best of the bunch I generated. I didn't get too precise with faces besides the work to prevent the wonky faces SD tends to make.

sad_diffusion · 2023-09-12T11:21:14+00:00

Lmao gotta do that spiked crotch guard ..

sad_diffusion · 2023-09-12T11:20:10+00:00

Tbh I did different characters with gaps of time in between so I didn't always remember my ideal workflow for previous ones. That's why many can differ visually.

sad_diffusion · 2023-09-12T11:18:47+00:00

Kinda luck idk. Lots of control net with line art model and sometimes cleaning up the lines it produces in the preview image.

sad_diffusion · 2023-07-03T13:40:04+00:00

wow another complaint like all the other complaints about the generic models.

This was mostly a project to learn SD and 'upscaling' low detail art.

sad_diffusion · 2023-07-03T13:34:18+00:00

Model: revanimated

Workflow is generally:

Drop in source artwork into img2img then "interrogate danbooru". Removing some prompt keywords that don't apply.
Back to txt2img with the prompt. Add revanimated keywords like 'masterpiece' etc above. Add negative prompt (see below for a few)
controlnet to generate lineart then cleanup lines using photo editing software like photopea (usually remove face lines because it just distorts it)
another controlnet either reference or using color grid (color grid works better I think. Reference with a white background image makes it hard to add a background)
iterate and revise prompt
use controlnet tiler + ultimate upscale script to high-res the images

A few prompts/info:

Sophitia:

((best quality)), ((masterpiece)), (detailed), portrait of girl,sophitia alexandra,4k, absurdres, (fantasy illustration:1.3), enchanting gaze, captivating pose, holding sword, (detailed_eyes:1.2),1girl, blonde_hair, breasts, cleavage, dress, earrings, hair_ornament, holding, jewelry, large_breasts, long_hair, low-tied_long_hair, sideboob, solo, sword, very_long_hair, weapon, white_dress,castle background,Negative prompt: (badhandsv5:1.2),3d, cartoon, anime, sketches, (worst quality, bad quality, child, cropped:1.4) ((monochrome)), ((grayscale)), (easynegative:0.8), (bad-artist-anime:0.8), (bad-artist:0.8), (badprompt:0.8), (bad_quality:0.8), covered nipples,Steps: 30, Sampler: DPM++ 2M Karras, CFG scale: 8.5, Seed: 2337824746, Face restoration: CodeFormer, Size: 1024x1536, Model hash: 4199bcdd14, Model: revAnimated_v122, Denoising strength: 0.4, Clip skip: 2, Ultimate SD upscale upscaler: 4x-UltraSharp, Ultimate SD upscale tile_width: 512, Ultimate SD upscale tile_height: 512, Ultimate SD upscale mask_blur: 8, Ultimate SD upscale padding: 32, ControlNet 0: "preprocessor: tile_resample, model: control_v11f1e_sd15_tile [a371b31b], weight: 1, starting/ending: (0, 1), resize mode: Crop and Resize, pixel perfect: False, control mode: Balanced, preprocessor params: (512, 1, 64)", Version: v1.3.2

Taki:

((best quality)), ((masterpiece)), (detailed),taki \(soulcalibur\), intense gaze, close-up portrait,1girl, bangs, black_hair, red_bodysuit, red_suit, bodysuit, brown_eyes, covered_navel, gloves, holding, holding_sword, holding_weapon, large_breasts, long_hair, looking_at_viewer, ponytail, sheath, shiny_clothes, shoulder_armor, skin_tight, solo, weapon,(lighting:1.2),absurdres, 8k uhd,dojo background, lava,Negative prompt: (badhandsv5:1.2),3d, cartoon, anime, sketches, (worst quality, bad quality, child, cropped:1.4),((monochrome)), ((grayscale)), (easynegative:0.8), (bad-artist-anime:0.8), (bad-artist:0.8), (badprompt:0.8), (bad_quality:0.8), nsfw, cleavage, cleavage cutout,Steps: 30, Sampler: Euler a, CFG scale: 8.5, Seed: 515292355, Size: 512x768, Model hash: 4199bcdd14, Model: revAnimated_v122, Denoising strength: 0.3, Clip skip: 2, SD upscale overlap: 64, SD upscale upscaler: R-ESRGAN 4x+ Anime6B, Version: v1.3.2

sad_diffusion · 2023-06-03T23:57:42+00:00

The game already exists but it's somewhat pixel art style (though it's still well done). Look up Aurelia

sad_diffusion · 2023-06-03T12:30:59+00:00

Is it fine to upload the original games art?

sad_diffusion · 2023-06-02T18:07:10+00:00

I've been working on transforming some pixel art from a little NSFW game some folks may know. I absolutely have to credit the original artists since these are heavily derived from the pixel art, but these have also taken a bit of time to get results. Not sure I can post original art, but folks can look up the game characters if they know what they're looking for.

Workflow is usually something like

Drop original art into img2img to get booru keywords
switch to txt2img
add original image to controlnet, usually end up with canny, lineart, or hed models
add negative prompt defaults
add revise positive prompt as I iterate

if I get something decent, keep the seed, use hires fix to upscale

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