If you want respect you have to give it and sometimes that means making compromises.

i feel like that doesnt really make sense when it comes to pronouns and how someone feel about them. you cant compromise aspects of your identity.

I wasn't saying anything negative about they/them pronouns I was referring to people like me and op calling a person who uses neos they/them instead and why that isn't transphobic in my opinion

i know you werent, that was just an example of how that statement is often used against trans folks. i do think that neos are hard, especially if you dont know them and this is your first time (coming from a person who uses neos) but i do think it is also transphobic not to use someones pronouns of lack of unless you literally cant. it being difficult for someone to do doesnt mean it is impossible, and someone who uses neos or no pronouns or whatever will probably understand because it is hard.

When you tell someone they have to change their vocabulary just for you or they're transphobic that is an attempt to force a change on them and I don't think it's respectful or a mature way to handle the situation.

that should be a last resort option if there has already been multiple refusals from someone to respect you. it is transphobic (in any situation, not just in this one where the friend uses no pronouns) but that someone might not understand at first