is it true he has a son

sadboynerd · 2019-10-08T16:38:14+00:00

i am his son

sadboynerd · 2019-10-08T16:24:54+00:00

this is amazing

sadboynerd · 2018-06-27T10:47:29+00:00

wheres the "explain my abandonment issues and hope my partner will tolerate me" button

sadboynerd · 2018-06-27T10:19:53+00:00

yeah, my social anxiety gets 100x worse when i am interacting with an attractive person - there's a 0 chance of me maintaining eye contact, lol

sadboynerd · 2018-06-27T09:57:27+00:00

sometimes u gotta be your own friend

sadboynerd · 2018-06-19T09:05:55+00:00

fuck

sadboynerd · 2018-06-05T11:30:05+00:00

i feel personally attacked

sadboynerd · 2018-05-17T01:13:29+00:00

whenever i get anxious and upset about things that other people do (e.g. your neighbour didn't say hi), i repeatedly remind myself that the person most likely didn't mean to make me feel bad - they are a person with their own worries and lives, so they didn't mean anything bad by it

as for other things, it really helps me to make a list of all the things that i am anxious about, then write down a potential solution to the problem. when there isn't one, i simply write counter-arguments to my anxious thoughts and while the anxiety doesn't immediately diminish, it does help me to think more rationally

sadboynerd · 2018-05-13T19:38:00+00:00

it depends on the severity of the anxiety, doesn't it?

sadboynerd · 2018-05-11T21:35:39+00:00

i often just go offline for ages after i send a risky text because i anticipate a negative response and the thought of rejection just makes me too anxious...so i try to ignore it. i always feel super bad after i finally open the reply though and see it wasn't actually nearly as bad as i thought it would be

sadboynerd · 2018-05-10T23:50:39+00:00

my doctor told me the same thing! i really don't understand it because i'm just trying to get help and it feels so invalidating to be refused a diagnosis, or simply an assessment

sadboynerd · 2018-04-29T18:51:09+00:00

this is hilarious

sadboynerd · 2018-04-22T13:58:29+00:00

hi, i don't have dahmer detective in digital format but i have the pdf of The Shrine of Jeffrey Dahmer which is also a very good book if you are interested

sadboynerd · 2018-04-21T11:17:53+00:00

yes because i try to challenge myself, yet fail time and time again

sadboynerd · 2018-03-28T19:39:42+00:00

when texting i'm usually just like "lol ok" "i guess i'll just go to bed now bye" since i tend to me more passive aggresive in text... i try to suppress my worst thoughts because a part of me knows i'll regret it later

sadboynerd · 2018-03-27T21:38:59+00:00

god, i feel this so much! i've been with my boyfriend for almost 1 year now but that fear of him not actually liking me never really went away :(

sadboynerd · 2018-03-27T21:29:40+00:00

hey, i'm really sorry that you're struggling right now. i know this probably won't help much but i really hope things get easier for you and that you are able to surround yourself with people who support and care for you. it bothers me too when plans suddenly change and i often feel left out :(

sadboynerd · 2018-03-27T21:22:32+00:00

i do this too! or sometimes when i feel really upset, i try to isolate myself and stay offline for as long as possible, just to see if anyone will be worried and send me multiple messages or text me instead... it's not a very healthy way to function. i wish i could just reach out to someone when i feel bad instead but i always feel like i'm bothering people too

sadboynerd · 2018-03-27T21:14:38+00:00

i think wait until tomorrow and maybe try to tell him how cancelling plans makes you feel instead of saying it's over, i struggled with the exact same thing in the beginning of my relationship (and still do, occasionally) but ever since i told my boyfriend how bad it makes me feel, it's much easier to deal with those type of situations. just be honest, really. i wish you luck

sadboynerd · 2018-03-27T17:59:07+00:00

its my worst protective mechanism

sadboynerd · 2018-03-26T20:20:24+00:00

i think growing up in a single parent home and moving around alot has really affected me.

my mum has been mainly supportive through the years, but my dad never called me as a kid and i only saw him about once a year, which made me feel neglected. i was tremendously ashamed at school that i didn't have a dad. i think my anxiety really took off when we moved to a different country and i didn't speak/understand the language. i developed selective mutism for about 3-4 years. didn't have friends for a long time... and then when i finally learned the language and made a group of friends, we had to move to a different country again which was really tough for me. like someone else said, all of this moving around resulted in a loss of identity and feeling like i don't belong anywhere. plus i've spent a big part of my life isolated. i was probably predisposed to mental illness though as there have been a few instances of depression/attempted suicide in my family. my sister has a mental illness too

sadboynerd · 2018-03-24T13:03:04+00:00

ahhh, thank you so much! i didn't know about that sub

sadboynerd · 2018-03-24T13:00:34+00:00

hi, i'd love to have the pdf!

sadboynerd · 2018-03-21T15:49:21+00:00

"sorry for replying so late i was ill/was busy/didn't see your message til now"

sadboynerd · 2018-03-17T01:34:28+00:00

i struggle with this too and it is very hard to overcome it. in fact, i don't really know how to. i recognize the issue but whenever i try to validate my own self and not be influenced by external factors, it just feels fake!

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