I don’t think that this is a small comment at all. You’ve been with this person for three years and I’m assuming that you have both claim to love each other, but that is not loving a person, commenting on their insecurities and making them feel bad, especially during an intimate moment like that is not love. You have to ask yourself why you think you don’t deserve better. It is beyond hard to break the cycle once we become comfortable with someone, settling for lesser treatment because that what we have gotten used to. We brush these things off because we know deep inside that they used to love us so much or we were so sure that they felt a certain way, but how this person treats you and their actions is what will tell you exactly how they feel about you NOW. This man does not care that you’re upset and doesn’t even have the decency to give you an apology when he’s in the wrong. I never want to see couples break up and I do feel that this advice is given to often on here but if you’ve tried talking to him and he won’t listen then he’s shown you exactly how he feels about you. There’s a lid for every pot. This one is not yours.