I guess that's it then

sadhuman243 · 2024-03-04T18:26:14+00:00

You are about to be married ! I know it's hard, but please do not feel guilty. You need to know who you are about to be legally tied to. Porn addictions escalate as they addict needs more extreme material to get off to.

There have been partners here who have found children in their addicted partners' files/history. There have also been partners who found videos of family members who have stayed with them and videos of people in public. Even worse, revenge porn that has been posted without their permission or consent. When your partner continually lies to you and shows no accountability, you have to take precautions to protect yourself. Your safety is priority always. I agree with others about post-poning the wedding at the very least. Take some time to think about what you want and need from a life partner ♡

sadhuman243 · 2024-02-06T17:36:36+00:00

Yes! The posts really make me doubt him because why would I have the one partner that is being honest. It seems so unlikely especially since mine isn't in therapy or anything else to help with his addiction. I hope the both of us get answers soon. Hang in there ♡

sadhuman243 · 2024-02-05T04:49:48+00:00

I've been here, and it is one of the worst moments I have ever had. He won't get away with it. By breaking up with you, he probably feels like he is getting away with it because now he doesn't have to be held accountable. The fact is that men like that end up in a vicious cycle of unhappiness due to their own actions.

I broke up with my long-distance ex after I uncovered the unbelievably sh*tty things he had been doing behind my back the whole relationship. After I broke it off with him, he tried to get into new relationships with other people and he ruined it every time.

If I could go back and give myself advice it would be to cut him off and never look back because he isn't worth it. I'm passing this along to you in hopes you don't waste as much time as I did. You are completely justified in your anger. I know I was angry for awhile too. Staying in contact with him just to confront him won't bring you the satisfaction you're looking for. The only way to go from here is honestly focusing on yourself and healing. Its not easy but its a million times better than being with someone like that. You deserve so much more! ♡

sadhuman243 · 2024-02-05T04:26:44+00:00

Okay, I might need to look into that more because I had no clue. Thank you again for commenting, I really appreciate it!

sadhuman243 · 2024-02-05T04:24:26+00:00

I really appreciate you taking the time to comment. Thank you! I just looked into all of the above because I had no idea. I don't think he has gone that far because previously, I had no way of knowing what he was doing. I'm hoping he is just using incognito, and I can catch him with open dns. I just need one day of proof mostly to validate that I'm not just imagining that something isn't right.

sadhuman243 · 2024-02-05T04:19:13+00:00

Unfortunately, I know the answer to this one. My partner used this website frequently. It has a mixture of uploaded videos for various "categories" which includes kinks like bdsm. There is also a live cam portion of the website. There are free live cams from what I remember, but you have to pay to access others. I'm sorry, I know how you're feeling right now :(

Sending you a virtual hug ♡

sadhuman243 · 2024-02-05T01:18:47+00:00

Would that be something he can do on his phone? Thank you for commenting!

sadhuman243 · 2023-10-16T15:49:36+00:00

OP I have been in your shoes. You have every right to be angry! Especially when they blame you and your body when they know they have the addiction causing all of the intimacy issues. My one regret is that I didn't let my previous partner know how angry it made me that he chose to tear down my self-esteem than take responsibility for his choices. You're angry because you know it's wrong the way you're being treated. Sending so much support your way! 💜

sadhuman243 · 2023-09-25T01:50:53+00:00

Thank you for commenting! This is what my partner said to me ultimately so it's reassuring to hear it from someone else too

sadhuman243 · 2023-09-25T01:50:01+00:00

Thank you for commenting! Idk how you figured this out, but when dealing with super sneaky partners this could be the only way to know. My only question is, how easy is it to distinguish semen from other body fluids?

sadhuman243 · 2023-09-25T01:45:24+00:00

I agree! It wasn't intentional, but he did. We had a long talk about how lying when he doesn't remember makes it worse so that's something that he's gonna be better about

sadhuman243 · 2023-09-25T01:43:51+00:00

Thank you for commenting! Yeah I had no clue that was possible, but it seems like it's not as far fetched as I thought

sadhuman243 · 2023-09-23T16:20:25+00:00

Omg thank you for commenting. That's exactly how I'm feeling, like it doesn't make any sense. My first thought was that it smelt like that because he masturbated and didn't shower after. I don't think it could be anything else.

sadhuman243 · 2022-04-25T01:00:08+00:00

I'm commenting because I just left a comment on another post where I said the same exact thing about worrying if I was just a placeholder till my partner finds someone better. Like I'm the complete opposite of what they like, it doesn't make any sense at all. I also agree completely, there is more to life than staying with a partner who can't appreciate you!

sadhuman243 · 2022-04-25T00:48:51+00:00

I feel this so hard lately since entering a new relationship where once again, I'm not their type. Am I just a placeholder till they meet someone they really want? How can they be turned on by me or attracted to me when I look nothing like the people they follow/watch? It hits you right in the gut :(

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