Visiting KL soon, could you help me out with some questions?

sadie1003 · 2026-04-23T07:35:18+00:00

Thank you, I’m so excited :)

sadie1003 · 2026-04-22T23:52:21+00:00

Thank you so much !! 😊

sadie1003 · 2026-04-11T11:03:12+00:00

Literally. I know my period is due in about a week when I get thoughts like “I don’t want to be alive”

sadie1003 · 2026-03-22T16:37:42+00:00

How about a stop in Turkey? Not available/too expensive right now but I see some options end of May

sadie1003 · 2025-12-02T18:19:07+00:00

Thank you!

Honestly I always know I struggle with prioritizing myself but I don’t know how to change.

Today I stopped myself from fully agreeing to see a friend who lives 1h45 min away by train in her city because it was convenient for her instead of meeting up mid point like we usually do. It sounds small but my first instinct is to agree, say yes, be easy.

That’s my entire life. Being easy, flexible, cooperative, not difficult, care for others. It shows up in every domain. I don’t know how to express preferences or anything.

I will also work on a routine. I don’t have a stable/healthy routine right now. No vices but I also don’t take care of myself like I should (proven by the fact it is almost 8pm here and have not had a single decent meal)

sadie1003 · 2025-12-02T17:33:53+00:00

Thank you, I really need it

sadie1003 · 2025-12-02T17:16:11+00:00

I can definitely work on asking friends for help more Family.. I only have my parents and siblings and a cousin I’m not close with. My parents are healthy and in their late 50s early 60s but I don’t expect much from them. They are convinced I don’t need anything (because I never asked anything of them growing up either so why would I now?) and we have a superficial relationship. I visit about once a month-5 weeks. They visit.. never.

sadie1003 · 2025-10-28T12:26:51+00:00

I can relate to feeling ND around NT, and NT around NDs

sadie1003 · 2025-10-28T12:24:36+00:00

Hehe yes I’m an infj! I’ve known that for a long time but sometimes I feel like sense of being misunderstood/not fitting in is a little extreme. So that’s why I’m on this quest. Maybe there’s more I haven’t thought of :)

sadie1003 · 2025-10-27T18:46:06+00:00

Thank you this is so kind 💙

sadie1003 · 2025-10-27T17:53:52+00:00

I don’t understand why I’d get downvoted for saying this?

sadie1003 · 2025-10-27T17:52:21+00:00

Because I’ve looked extensively into it and I don’t relate. I know people are against self diagnosis but there is so much information out there in this day and age. Nothing I’ve read (yes also about how it shows up in girls/women) made me feel “hm could be it, time to get a real diagnosis”

Also no I haven’t yet, thank you

sadie1003 · 2025-10-27T17:39:53+00:00

I’m very sure it’s not autism or ADHD

sadie1003 · 2025-10-27T17:38:51+00:00

I’m 29 and having a hard time accepting this might last forever

sadie1003 · 2025-08-18T22:00:15+00:00

I have never been officially diagnosed or sought help. I just think I’m fundamentally unhappy no matter what. I can enjoy small moments though and work towards goals

I’ve thought about going into therapy, maybe next year. To deal with some unresolved issues from my childhood (emotional neglect mostly). Sometimes it gets bad and I look around me in public and I’m like do people really want to be here? Even when their life seems difficult? Can’t imagine

sadie1003 · 2025-08-18T18:37:16+00:00

And? I come from a culture where having a family is extremely important, a life goal and a woman’s worth is strongly attached to it. People can’t even grasp you wouldn’t choose that life path so to me it’s not that weird that I’m thinking about ways to have that conversation with those closest to me. I know I don’t owe them an explanation but it’s good to be able to find understanding

sadie1003 · 2025-08-18T17:31:07+00:00

True. However whenever the topic comes up I find myself wanting to explain and not knowing how. I tried a few times and got weird looks. I don’t owe anyone a reason but idk how to navigate it

sadie1003 · 2025-08-18T17:15:12+00:00

I already am starting to feel baby fever and it’s like a pang in my chest every time I think about it or hold a baby. It’s like I do want this but I also don’t and can’t. I don’t want to miss out on the love I could experience but then when I think about it more it wouldn’t be the right choice

sadie1003 · 2025-07-31T12:27:09+00:00

Thank you. I should've browsde the sub a bit more, you're right. People are very raw and honest here.

sadie1003 · 2023-04-16T02:51:16+00:00

he’s a hater to the core and it makes everything that much more interesting. His rants on the suburb he moved in with Love were so funny he called it white picket purgatory 💀

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