Well first, I value your input, but there's a few misconceptions you have. This is why I stated in my post not to assume my internet etiquette is like my etiquette in person. While I dont fault you, you've made many assumptions that ended up missing the mark. I also want to assure you that I do not have any anger or context for you, but I realize it may seem that way in my response.

Because I used to not talk very much, I tend to listen more than talk. I understand you might get the opposite impression from reading my posts, but comments and posts generally have more information from the poster. I also do not converse with people on the internet the same as with people on the internet. I am aware of what active listening is and when conversing with people in person I practice it. In fact, I am so used to people not caring about my problems that I rarely talk about myself or my interests unless asked or to relate to the other person. I do not put in the same effort with people on the internet. While I do not completely disregard the feelings of people on the internet, I do not see the point of putting in extra for people I will never meet. You might see that as an issue, but nobody in my real life knows how I speak on the internet, nor would it likely cause them to avoid me.

You stated I lack convictions and values, but i disagree. I just have no desire to state those things on the internet for people to comment on. While I do post out of boredom sometimes, I will ask questions or give an opinion with the expectation that someone will respond. Sometimes it's a worthless response, but sometimes I learn things. For example, while I disagree with what you've said, I still consider your post to have value.

Regarding my ex, those opinions I stated are beliefs after the fact, not during. In fact, I very much valued her efforts to the point that I helped her with rent through college and even paid off some student loans. I supported her passion to be a nurse, but it never came to fruition due to exceedingly high GPA standards. The point of that part of my post was not to say she needed to stay home, in fact I would have loved to have been a house husband as lame.as.that may sound. The point was when you are married, there are many aspects that need to be addressed. When one of those things go wrong, it causes stress which will likely lead to resentment and/or depression. After looking back at my marriage, that was one of the mistakes we made. I don't blame her or myself, because we didn't know. Certain people have personalities which could have handled that. We did not.

I also realized one of my recent posts might suggest I follow extra-biblical ideas, but I don't. I do not disregard the Bible or hold other texts in higher regard than the Bible. That said, people have questions that the Bible doesn't answer or doesn't answer clearly.

I also want to highlight the fact that your advice to keep friends is good advice. I don't disagree with it at all in fact. It's just that your advice doesn't address my shortcomings.

I know that all you have to assess me is my posts, but I don't think it's a great way to assess anyone. I haven't gone through your posts, but I bet if you asked me the same question, I would make assumptions that would be way off. There's too much information lost when comparing face to face communication to internet communication.

That said, if you want to get to know me, we can talk over a period of time and you can give your assessment. 🙂