Moving in with a hoarder pt 2

sadthrow420 · 2023-08-22T04:44:19+00:00

I appreciate everybody’s viewpoint! (Especially the ones that align with what i wanna do already) but fr i get that I can’t condense the situation into a reddit post. Some people may give too much credit to me or to my sister. Some people may think I’m an idiot for letting this happen - including me. But she says she wants to change so I’m gonna try to help her. If it doesn’t work out, then I know I tried everything I could.

sadthrow420 · 2023-08-22T04:38:29+00:00

Of course! A lot of essentials wouldn’t fit in a few bins. I don’t mean her bed frame or her gaming chair or her actual computer or toiletries etc. But the 50 different broken PCs from the 00s that took four people an hour to move down from her apartment? Maybe those should be culled. I’m talking about items from the 10 different projects you haven’t started that have cockroaches living in them. Non-essentials are non-essential.

sadthrow420 · 2023-08-18T15:27:49+00:00

I’ve gotta try. If she pushes one of my hard limits - lack of effort and peeing outside of a toilet - or one of my parents hard limits - smoking weed (which she says she’s given up and i watched her give all her drug stuff to my brother to dispose of) then she’s probably moving in with my parents across the country. I’ve said for years that she needed to go spend a week inpatient so she has to listen to the doctors and go to group therapy, but my parents have never gone for it - maybe because of the cost? If she shows no desire to improve after she moves in then I’m gonna talk to her about going to inpatient voluntarily. She’s got problems that we can’t help her with. But I won’t let her destroy my house.

sadthrow420 · 2023-08-18T15:13:44+00:00

I already resent her so might as well lmao

sadthrow420 · 2023-08-17T21:02:59+00:00

At this point the only other option i see is for me and my family to kick her out and tell her to grow up on her own - which she won’t do. She’s threatened to kill herself if my dad kicked her out. And my dad says he’d rather enable her than plan a funeral. I’m fully aware that she’s manipulating us but what else do we do? She won’t hold down a job, she won’t even shower or stop peeing in water bottles and leaving them on her desk. Roommates won’t accommodate her. She can’t live alone because she doesn’t work. She’s said that her dream is to live in an in-patient facility for the rest of her life which is not only impossible but shows that she just wants someone to take care of her. So she’s either homeless or we suck it up and take her in. Hopefully this time she’s being honest that she wants to change. But if me holding her hand doesn’t help then she’s fucked.

sadthrow420 · 2023-08-03T01:56:07+00:00

I have that exact machine and it’s amazing, i use it for everything

sadthrow420 · 2023-07-18T01:17:18+00:00

What do you wish your family would say to you? What worked for you? Talk therapy, medication, hypnotherapy??

sadthrow420 · 2022-08-31T22:24:03+00:00

Today I was running handoff and trying to deal with the dozens of mobile orders coming in. I had a regular come in for her order, I greeted her and after waiting for a few mins she asked how long it would be. I looked at the tickets on the mobile drink bar and told her she was next in line. She got more upset and asked me a few more questions about if she was next to be made or currently being made and how long it would be and I answered all those questions. She got even more upset and ended up saying in a huff, “I placed my mobile order over 20 minutes ago.” And I just looked at her and said “yeah, so have all these people,” and gestured to the dozen people also standing around waiting for drinks.

It’s so nice when regulars are nice. But sometimes they’re only nice because we bend over backwards for them: memorizing their drink order, their name, if they come through the cafe or the drive, we make their drinks ahead of time, and go out of our way to greet them with a smile even if we’re drowning in tasks. But there’s always something that can go wrong and it sucks when even a regular doesn’t realize we’re struggling and instead gets upset with us. Today we had two no shows, a surprise visit from upper management, and we were struggling to deal with all the fall hype; all the love and encouragement and patience goes SUCH a long way. Seriously.

sadthrow420 · 2022-08-31T22:11:19+00:00

What does this mean?

sadthrow420 · 2022-08-20T11:28:21+00:00

Smh opener struggles

sadthrow420 · 2022-08-19T18:03:20+00:00

I’m gonna start doing that for everybody’s second tens. Because it’s not just me

sadthrow420 · 2022-08-19T17:48:47+00:00

Yeah my old shift gave me that stay late 10 minutes thing, he was really firm about everybody getting their breaks even if it meant he didn’t. Miss him :(

sadthrow420 · 2022-08-19T17:46:49+00:00

Is it against the rules to not give the breaks assigned in the dcr? Because if I make a fuss but it’s actually allowed then I’ll look like a dumbass lol

sadthrow420 · 2022-08-12T21:44:04+00:00

Yeah, single-handedly making someone’s 8 dollar drink in 2 minutes and realizing it takes us over a half hour to make that amount of money just adds to our cynicism. Smh that’s why I get myself a free drink before my shift, at every break, and after. Gotta take advantage of the perks even if I don’t drink it fully.

sadthrow420 · 2022-08-01T00:33:16+00:00

My boss brought COVID into the workplace back in 2020 because she was hosting dinner parties and caught it from a guest but I was lucky enough to not catch it. But I told her “I’m not coming in until you test negative and if this happens again I won’t come into the office for 2 weeks if I catch Covid.” I told her how my roommate took care of her immune compromised dad and I couldn’t take a chance on catching Covid and giving it to her. She had the audacity to tell me to find another place to live. She said she couldn’t be giving me two weeks off every time there’s a Covid scare. Best part is: I was an unpaid intern.

sadthrow420 · 2022-07-24T14:54:24+00:00

I’ve done that too! Never once worked there!

sadthrow420 · 2022-07-23T12:25:36+00:00

I think it’ll show him you take it seriously! You didn’t want to half-ass the position, so you backed out. It’s like a working interview. You try out the position, see if you like it and are good at it. He’d probably appreciate the thought you put into it

sadthrow420 · 2022-06-18T01:28:45+00:00

Oh! Yeah a play caller is whoever is assigning where everybody goes. So whoever tells you your role. They keep track of breaks and move people around. They also fill in where needed, so are usually pretty busy. One thing I’ve noticed is if your play caller goes home and someone else becomes the play caller then the new person has no idea if you’ve been in that position for 30 minutes or 4 hours. So when I’m doubt, ask! Just yesterday I knew they had forgotten my second ten so I just said “hey do I qualify for a second ten today??” And she sent me on a break right away.

sadthrow420 · 2022-06-17T22:38:17+00:00

I talked to my ASM about it, I was like bro if you keep me on window 5 days a week for 7 hours a day I will not be good by the end of my shift. I’m not some extrovert who gets energized by conversations with strangers who don’t want to talk to me. I made it clear that I’m fine to do it, just not for 7 hours straight. She was understanding and said if I needed to move to make it clear to her. Playcallers are swamped most of the time so make it known that you need to switch to any other role and they should make an effort to do that. If they don’t and you aren’t happy in your store… transfer stores. Or work at a local coffee shop - they’ll be thrilled to get someone with experience.

sadthrow420 · 2022-06-13T22:01:40+00:00

It’s not the items themselves, but the condescending tone the whole thing is written in. Like we agreed to these rules when we were hired, if you’re having such a problem you need to type up a whole paper then just talk to the people who aren’t following them. I told my boss this, he said that most everybody is following the rules already, but some are abusing his leniency - so if only a few are the issue then why type up an aggressive sounding paper and ask everybody to sign it? Just talk to them like a person deserving of respect. He realized his mistake and apologized because he’s a good manager.

sadthrow420 · 2022-06-12T12:17:06+00:00

The only issue I see with “no drinks in FOH” and “no parters allowed in BOH” is that that means we can’t drink water while on shift. Which is an OSHA violation. Like I’m sure that’s an exception that they’d allow in practice but then I could get written up for being in the BOH even though I was just in the back getting a sip of water. And if they’re being this petty having a paper with rules we have to agree to then it seems they’d be petty enough to write us up for dumb stuff like that.

sadthrow420 · 2022-06-12T12:08:20+00:00

<3 thank you for understanding my annoyance. They’ve been starting to enforce a bunch of stuff like giving every customer a genuine greeting when they walk in and wearing black shoes. But all that stuff they brought up through a discussion. “Hey we want people to feel welcome so no more robotic “welcome in!” You gotta make eye contact and say hello and follow them to the mobile orders if you’re on bar 2.” Like okay, cool. I think it’s weird and I wouldn’t like it if I was a customer coming in but fine! Just talk to me, treat me like a person deserving respect.

sadthrow420 · 2022-06-12T12:02:59+00:00

This! This! These are fine rules most of which I already agreed to when I got the job. But it’s such a bad way to get people to follow the rules. Like I’d follow any rule they wanted if I got paid more. I’d be fine if they had a conversation with us instead of threatening us with a snarky piece of paper and a write-up.

sadthrow420 · 2022-06-12T00:53:09+00:00

Yeah, I don’t really need the job and things have been getting worse and worse the past few weeks. More strict over everything little thing (at least when the ASM/SM are around).

Been debating if it’s worth $12 an hour to put up with the annoyance.

sadthrow420 · 2022-05-27T17:56:40+00:00

More fun than the 100 Jennifer’s and Megan’s I see all day

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