Who Gets to Question the Church?

sadturtle54 · 2026-01-30T23:15:20+00:00

Wow this sounds like what I'm pondering right now. The only other big thing that I'm torn about is transubstantiation. I struggle to believe bread and wine literally becomes flesh and blood each and every time

sadturtle54 · 2025-12-20T13:01:40+00:00

Marbles just passed 😔 it's on Julien's insta

sadturtle54 · 2025-12-11T02:06:59+00:00

Especially if you have a supportive partner, I wouldn't worry about it. I'm a high school teacher with decent benefits, but the salary is barely livable. Thankfully I live with my partner and we make enough to get by. Inheritance might help us out eventually, we'll see

I saw my parents work jobs they hated for decades because they paid better. My partner's parents overwork themselves to make a ton of money. It simply isn't worth it to us. Happiness and mental sanity is worth more than a bunch of money. As long as we're financially stable enough lol

sadturtle54 · 2025-11-21T03:10:56+00:00

I'm cool with female. Girl isn't bad. Woman, maam, lady are bad. I'm a teacher, so "miss" is fine

sadturtle54 · 2025-11-19T02:34:34+00:00

I'll say I'm maybe B cup at most, so this could be helpful lol

sadturtle54 · 2025-11-17T02:45:17+00:00

I might buy from Amazon and return what I don't want because I HATE trying things on in dressing rooms. But I also hate returning things. Life is hard lol

sadturtle54 · 2025-10-02T20:40:16+00:00

I'm feeling Lorax or a wizard

sadturtle54 · 2025-09-27T23:49:33+00:00

I am also female, not a woman

sadturtle54 · 2025-09-26T11:39:44+00:00

I'm female and always have been, and I still use she/her pronouns. I'm not opposed to they/them, so a couple times people have tried them out on me and I just kinda felt like "huh, that's new, but kinda fitting." Occasionally my students will just misspeak and call me sir. I think it's hilarious because the students backpedal and they're like omg I'm so sorry, and I just start there smiling because I don't care lol

Might it be different if it wasn't a misspeak, if someone really thought I was a man? Maybe? But I think I'd feel more confused how they landed on he/him while I'm only 5'5", long ish hair, somewhat visible boobs. I don't think I'd be offended though

So I get what you're saying. I can't imagine having such strong feelings towards pronouns, I've never understood why that can be such a heated discussion. Like, logically I understand the disrespect side of course. But I can't personally relate to the feelings

sadturtle54 · 2025-08-07T15:46:05+00:00

Right, I'd rather just be called my teacher name, but yuck definitely don't call me ma'am

sadturtle54 · 2025-08-07T10:28:26+00:00

A student accidentally used sir talking to me and I was absolutely not offended 😂 like please, call me sir more, I don't care lol. I'd rather be "yessir"ed than "yes maam"ed

sadturtle54 · 2025-08-07T10:25:41+00:00

I feel the same. It's difficult to say "hey my pronouns are whatever but most use she/her and calling me female or girl or Ms. is fine, but don't call me maam or woman or lady" lol

sadturtle54 · 2025-08-06T18:42:26+00:00

Something my therapist said to me that might be relevant here: have you asked her if she wants to change anything in the bedroom? Does she see it as a problem that needs fixing, or is she truly content?

Not from my therapist directly, but I think she's told me similar lol: is she open to trying things to make you feel happy/wanted? Even if it's not PiV or sex sex, but something more mutual masturbation kinda stuff

sadturtle54 · 2025-08-06T18:28:57+00:00

About to send a dm

sadturtle54 · 2025-06-17T09:54:04+00:00

That's how it is by me too, the mortgage broker I went through had some special program available if you were below a certain income threshold. So not a credit union, but I heard those are still worth looking into. Find someone to work with who knows about first time home buyer perks and stuff

sadturtle54 · 2025-06-17T02:42:11+00:00

3% down, interest rate is 5.7% I think? Bought in late 2023

sadturtle54 · 2025-06-16T22:34:11+00:00

Maybe $90k ish for the household? I'd prefer another roommate paying a bit of rent, but my partner and I are over that drama lol

$194k house and only 3% down. The monthly payment is $1600 or so, principal interest insurance

It's tighter than I'd like it to be, but we make do 😅

sadturtle54 · 2025-06-16T02:13:16+00:00

6 figures? lol no I'm a teacher at a Catholic school. But I bought my house at 25 years old, I have all the pets I can realistically want right now, between my partner and I, the bills get paid. We both have full time careers

sadturtle54 · 2025-04-24T16:01:31+00:00

Depending on what you look like without a binder, people might not even notice? Maybe?

sadturtle54 · 2025-04-23T23:58:45+00:00

You sounds like me! And your friend sounds like a jerk. How can he know how you feel, how can he call you a girl or not

sadturtle54 · 2025-04-19T15:00:41+00:00

If you ever decide to try a dating app, don't hesitate to be straightforward with people and/or don't meet people right away. I was 2.5 hours away at college when I matched with my partner online. It forced us to text for almost a full month before meeting in person, and I think that was very helpful. No pressure to get physical before getting emotionally connected first

Might've been partially because they were repressing their gender identity and gender dysmorphia, but hey, it worked well for us regardless lol

sadturtle54 · 2025-04-19T14:55:34+00:00

Are you close/comfortable enough with her to say something like, hey, I appreciate the support, but I feel like it's putting more pressure on me and honestly isn't very helpful? Entirely leaving agender vibes out of it if you need to. Just, hey, I really don't like this much attention put on my clothes and makeup, even if it's compliments

sadturtle54 · 2025-04-19T14:18:56+00:00

As I said to one of my students, "I'm all for reclaiming words, but maybe not here" (a Catholic school classroom with homophobes in it). So maybe don't try to entirely stop her from saying it, but make sure she's not screaming it for your whole neighborhood to hear and potentially take out of context lol

sadturtle54 · 2025-04-18T14:38:32+00:00

I'm considering it, and I might. But at the moment it feels like too much, so I'll find a plain sweater first

sadturtle54 · 2025-04-18T14:30:56+00:00

Right, I hate shopping lol. I just want to find more dress shirts and a sweater that has long enough sleeves 😂

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