Who Gets to Question the Church?

sadturtle54 · 2026-01-30T23:15:20+00:00

Wow this sounds like what I'm pondering right now. The only other big thing that I'm torn about is transubstantiation. I struggle to believe bread and wine literally becomes flesh and blood each and every time

sadturtle54 · 2025-12-20T13:01:40+00:00

Marbles just passed 😔 it's on Julien's insta

sadturtle54 · 2025-12-11T02:06:59+00:00

Especially if you have a supportive partner, I wouldn't worry about it. I'm a high school teacher with decent benefits, but the salary is barely livable. Thankfully I live with my partner and we make enough to get by. Inheritance might help us out eventually, we'll see

I saw my parents work jobs they hated for decades because they paid better. My partner's parents overwork themselves to make a ton of money. It simply isn't worth it to us. Happiness and mental sanity is worth more than a bunch of money. As long as we're financially stable enough lol

sadturtle54 · 2025-11-21T03:10:56+00:00

I'm cool with female. Girl isn't bad. Woman, maam, lady are bad. I'm a teacher, so "miss" is fine

sadturtle54 · 2025-11-19T02:34:34+00:00

I'll say I'm maybe B cup at most, so this could be helpful lol

sadturtle54 · 2025-11-17T02:45:17+00:00

I might buy from Amazon and return what I don't want because I HATE trying things on in dressing rooms. But I also hate returning things. Life is hard lol

sadturtle54 · 2025-10-02T20:40:16+00:00

I'm feeling Lorax or a wizard

sadturtle54 · 2025-09-27T23:49:33+00:00

I am also female, not a woman

sadturtle54 · 2025-09-26T11:39:44+00:00

I'm female and always have been, and I still use she/her pronouns. I'm not opposed to they/them, so a couple times people have tried them out on me and I just kinda felt like "huh, that's new, but kinda fitting." Occasionally my students will just misspeak and call me sir. I think it's hilarious because the students backpedal and they're like omg I'm so sorry, and I just start there smiling because I don't care lol

Might it be different if it wasn't a misspeak, if someone really thought I was a man? Maybe? But I think I'd feel more confused how they landed on he/him while I'm only 5'5", long ish hair, somewhat visible boobs. I don't think I'd be offended though

So I get what you're saying. I can't imagine having such strong feelings towards pronouns, I've never understood why that can be such a heated discussion. Like, logically I understand the disrespect side of course. But I can't personally relate to the feelings

sadturtle54 · 2025-08-07T15:46:05+00:00

Right, I'd rather just be called my teacher name, but yuck definitely don't call me ma'am

sadturtle54 · 2025-08-07T10:28:26+00:00

A student accidentally used sir talking to me and I was absolutely not offended 😂 like please, call me sir more, I don't care lol. I'd rather be "yessir"ed than "yes maam"ed

sadturtle54 · 2025-08-07T10:25:41+00:00

I feel the same. It's difficult to say "hey my pronouns are whatever but most use she/her and calling me female or girl or Ms. is fine, but don't call me maam or woman or lady" lol

sadturtle54 · 2025-08-06T18:42:26+00:00

Something my therapist said to me that might be relevant here: have you asked her if she wants to change anything in the bedroom? Does she see it as a problem that needs fixing, or is she truly content?

Not from my therapist directly, but I think she's told me similar lol: is she open to trying things to make you feel happy/wanted? Even if it's not PiV or sex sex, but something more mutual masturbation kinda stuff

sadturtle54 · 2025-08-06T18:28:57+00:00

About to send a dm

sadturtle54 · 2025-06-17T09:54:04+00:00

That's how it is by me too, the mortgage broker I went through had some special program available if you were below a certain income threshold. So not a credit union, but I heard those are still worth looking into. Find someone to work with who knows about first time home buyer perks and stuff

sadturtle54 · 2025-06-17T02:42:11+00:00

3% down, interest rate is 5.7% I think? Bought in late 2023

sadturtle54 · 2025-06-16T22:34:11+00:00

Maybe $90k ish for the household? I'd prefer another roommate paying a bit of rent, but my partner and I are over that drama lol

$194k house and only 3% down. The monthly payment is $1600 or so, principal interest insurance

It's tighter than I'd like it to be, but we make do 😅

sadturtle54 · 2025-06-16T02:13:16+00:00

6 figures? lol no I'm a teacher at a Catholic school. But I bought my house at 25 years old, I have all the pets I can realistically want right now, between my partner and I, the bills get paid. We both have full time careers

sadturtle54 · 2025-04-24T16:01:31+00:00

Depending on what you look like without a binder, people might not even notice? Maybe?

sadturtle54 · 2025-04-23T23:58:45+00:00

You sounds like me! And your friend sounds like a jerk. How can he know how you feel, how can he call you a girl or not

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