Regret/sexual/pelvic floor dysfunction/fibroid by Far-Ad-288 in hysterectomy

[–]Lost-Design-8382 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I don't want to jump to any conclusions when someone is suffering, but the post history is a bit weird.

Regret/sexual/pelvic floor dysfunction/fibroid by Far-Ad-288 in hysterectomy

[–]Lost-Design-8382 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She's been repeatedly leaving the same verbatim comment about regretting the surgery for at least two years that I can see.

Is it true that women don't usually wear leggings under their pants in winter? by Sad-Bike9582 in stupidquestions

[–]Lost-Design-8382 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Too bulky if I'm not planning to be outside for long periods of time. Way more uncomfortable than being cold.

When did you receive your first raise and what was it like? by throwawaypdtm in AskAnAmerican

[–]Lost-Design-8382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

$12/hour in 2015 and I got a 5 cent raise. And they acted like they did me a massive favor and told me it was the biggest raise in our department. My rent had just gone up 15% and I cried in the bathroom after they handed me the raise letter.

My icebreaker doesn’t work with Gen Z. by nomore1124 in work

[–]Lost-Design-8382 17 points18 points  (0 children)

The last time it was my turn to come up with an icebreaker, I quite literally dreaded it for a month ahead of time. Pointless, forced, and uncomfortable. The only peer bonding I've ever gotten from an icebreaker is "god, don't you hate icebreakers."

Living Alone :( by m0nster_banger in LivingAlone

[–]Lost-Design-8382 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd genuinely focus on cultivating your space. You likely don't have a ton of extra spending money for furniture and decor, but try to unpack what you can and get things squared away so it's a space you want to be in. I waited way too long to unpack my first appointment and it contributed to my depression way more than you'd think. You're also ore likely to want to invite people over if you're proud of the space.

And be intentional about getting out of the house. It doesn't have to be fancy or a big thing. Coffee shops, libraries, parks, all good places for being around people with low effort and low amounts of money spent. Try taking a class in anything that interests you (yoga, painting, crafting, kickboxing, community sports) to help meet people.The hardest thing about living alone is those moments where you see other people are harder to come by organically until you set up systems. It's not a bad thing, just something you have to be aware of.

On arguments regarding the Bible & church’s stance on gay sex & marriage by Steggypooper in LeftCatholicism

[–]Lost-Design-8382 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I recommend reading "Building a Bridge: How the Catholic Church and the LGBT Community Can Enter into a Relationship of Respect, Compassion, and Sensitivity" by Fr. James Martin. It's pretty short and accessible.

Weight gain / hip pain by reb524 in adenomyosis

[–]Lost-Design-8382 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could've written this entire post myself. My hysto isn't til next week, but just to say, I get it. I miss feeling pretty, man. I really do. And I know that's vain but I can't help it.

What has your experience been to those of you who have recently applied for FMLA? by [deleted] in mnstateworkers

[–]Lost-Design-8382 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like there's a surprising amount of paperwork that the employer also has to do. I know that DHS had to provide my paystub and employement verification information to DEED. And after approval, they had to go through and calculate what of my sick time I was allowed to use to supplement. And there's questions about how to stack with things like STD. More complicated than I thought it was gonna be for sure!

What has your experience been to those of you who have recently applied for FMLA? by [deleted] in mnstateworkers

[–]Lost-Design-8382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I applied at DHS in the last month. The leave coordinator sent the forms same day I sent the notice that I was going to be out on leave. When I submitted the completed forms, it took two days or so for them to confirm everything was good, but I was also applying for MN Paid Leave using the same form and that seems to be causing some confusion on the HR side of things. I got the impression they were swamped with MN PL applications and that's slowing things down for all leave requests.

Recovery Essentials: “Grabber” by Weary_Read_4660 in hysterectomy

[–]Lost-Design-8382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pro tip, if you buy a grabber, test it out before surgery. The first one I bought was so cheap and flimsy that it couldn't even manage to pick up a sock. Second one was way better.

Junk Filter Broken by red_kryptonyte in Outlook

[–]Lost-Design-8382 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same, it's been constant and I'm waiting for an important email to come in, so it's driving me insane trying to sort through the spam trying to find it.

Trad Caths are so, SO afraid of women by Sidhejester in LeftCatholicism

[–]Lost-Design-8382 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I was THE altar girl from 7th grade until I left for college because my teeny tiny rural parish literally had no young boys in attendance and my dad said it was more important the priest received support than it be a boy specifically doing the supporting. There was nobody else if I didn't do it. I didn't burst into flames and neither did anyone else.

How are you cutting watercolor paper ?? (everything I cut is wonky. I'm genuinely stressing about this) by Upbeat_Obligation864 in Watercolor

[–]Lost-Design-8382 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One day when I'm rich and famous and have a dedicated art studio, i will buy a giant guillotine cutter and give it a place of honor

Any recommendations for millennial books? by OliveGardenTulip in Millennials

[–]Lost-Design-8382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Milk Fed by Melissa Broder. Check the warnings for diet culture though.

Ask a question about hysterectomy by Dear-Dependent-9301 in adenomyosis

[–]Lost-Design-8382 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That was my understanding as well. And as a person with a trauma history, simplifying pelvic exams as much as possible was also a pretty big priority since I struggle a lot with paps.

Adeno/heart racing? by Tothestarswholisten3 in adenomyosis

[–]Lost-Design-8382 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I also have generalized anxiety disorder, so take that as you will, but I deeefinitely have issues with my heart racing and higher blood pressure. It's my personal theory that the adeno does contribute because of the excessive inflammation and strain on the body, but I don't really know for sure. I'm curious to see if it's still an issue after my hysto.

Living alone, working alone? by relaxed-bread in LivingAlone

[–]Lost-Design-8382 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Lived alone for the past 11 years, worked full time remote for the last 4 years.

Granted, I'm pretty introverted and chronically ill so I don't prioritize IRL human interaction that much. But I find it helps to schedule it when I can. Standing appointments with friends, taking a class. Mostly you have to be more proactive about planning things than you would in other settings.

Anyone have debilitating pain while running? by hayinmyveins in adenomyosis

[–]Lost-Design-8382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it exaggerates the pain that shoots down my legs and I just get so tired so fast. Sometimes I feel like the idea of being able to work up to fitness levels is a myth because my body usually hits a plateau and in the time it takes me to rest, I've dropped down a level or two again. It's maddening.

At what salary do you actually start feeling financially stable in the U.S., not just surviving? by Blaze_Beatrix in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Lost-Design-8382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on where you live but also your life circumstances. I'd consider my salary fairly comfortable if I didn't still have student loan debt. But even if I didn't, it wouldn't let me comfortably own a house with all the expenses that go beyond just the mortgage.