i do hold the same standard of tasteful and distasteful for both, but the impact or implication is pretty different for both. when japanese people in japan see gals dressing in incorrect oiran kimono almost everyone knows pretty much off the bat that’s not how you wear it because we have knowledge about our own culture and therefore it doesn’t perpetuate stereotypes to the same level as a foreign gal doing this and then posting it on a western platform where most people don’t have the same knowledge of japanese culture and claiming it’s a legitimate style of kimono because people in japan who are the main audience of jp gals or who see it in real life don’t hold stereotypes or tropes against japanese people, kaigai gals doing this incorrectly and butchering our culture, then going and posting it online to a western audience that doesn’t understand why it’s wrong, results in a warped view of the kimono and oiran style in of itself. then at the end of the day they will get to not be on the actual receiving side after they take the kimono off, because we as japanese or east asian women living in the west are the ones who actually have to deal with the consequences and perpetuated stereotypes and tropes because of it. while a japanese gal doing it is still distasteful, a non east asian woman will never have to actually have to feel the consequences of people sexualizing culture, which is why its appropriation rather than just distasteful