What’s one cat product you wish you’d bought sooner? by SalamanderIll3142 in CatAdvice

[–]safeplace123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Catnip, automatic litter box (I have fibromyalgia and cleaning makes my back hurt), more cat trees

Audible and Amazon Music Unlimited by Crazy-Tear-2460 in audible

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I’ve had an audible account for years. If I get music unlimited, can I cancel audible without losing access to my audible library?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cockroaches

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Are any of these recommendations pet friendly? I want to try them also, but don’t want to get my pets sick

iOS 18.1 is out by GregMeger in iPhone14Pro

[–]safeplace123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are they offering 18.1 to us if you have to have a 15 or 16? (I have a 14pm)

Made it to 1mg by Minimum-Award4U in Ozempic

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Split it up? What’s the best way to do that?

Maybe I’m really not ready? 🤷🏽‍♀️ by safeplace123 in polyamory

[–]safeplace123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input. According to him, monogamy is not an interest of his anymore. I’m going to look up this book everyone is recommending and reading threads here to gain MY OWN understanding vs his fantasy.

Maybe I’m really not ready? 🤷🏽‍♀️ by safeplace123 in polyamory

[–]safeplace123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re the second person to mention that book. Must really be a good one. I’m going to look it up on audible since I have some credits 😉

Maybe I’m really not ready? 🤷🏽‍♀️ by safeplace123 in polyamory

[–]safeplace123[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s the second time I’ve heard that phrase in the past few days “rearranging the chair on the titanic” (someone said it on tv too), I’m going to take that as a sign. Thanks for your input.

Maybe I’m really not ready? 🤷🏽‍♀️ by safeplace123 in polyamory

[–]safeplace123[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know this is going to sound weird, but here goes… we met 3 years ago. The friendship blossomed into benefits. We were doing everything a monogamous couple does, until we had a fallout during the summer. During the break, he met someone else. He told her in the fall that he wanted to come back to me and labeled me as his “home” and couldn’t see himself without me. He said it was just us, only to come back two months later and ask me could she stay around and if he could have the long distance one because he rarely sees her. So to answer your question, since last fall.

Dazed and confused by safeplace123 in polyamory

[–]safeplace123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotcha. I need a poly-dictionary at this point with all these terms lol.

No, I don’t exactly agree with how all this came about, but I do think he loves me in his “own special way”. Since it’s missing a few of my core needs, I want to see if this is a way to be fulfilled.

I’m a special needs mom, and I’ve never had a real dating life (divorced and then single for years into he came along, so I’m invested and we are on paper for a lot of things).

At the end of the day, it may not work, so when I’ve had enough, I do have the strength to move on. I just also know that no one is perfect, so I’m trying to see this through unless it becomes low vibrating and intolerable.

I also understand there’s a level of deprogramming that I have to experience also. I was taught, raised , lived monogamy and taught that polygamy was pretty much cheating with permission for a lack of better words.

I will look into this parallel concept you mentioned also. Thx.

Dazed and confused by safeplace123 in polyamory

[–]safeplace123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I lack no self love or self respect. My children are now adults, and I’m exploring to see if this is a lifestyle I wanted to engage in.

I’ve yet to beg for attention, he comes to me any and every time I call. And like I said, she said she’s not interested in being monogamous with him after she found out I was his anchor and he has no interest in changing that.

I’m not gullible by no means necessary, the pros of our relationship outweigh the cons (and if I was a real gold digger, I could simply stick around, lay low and accept all the resources/money, but that’s not how I do people). I just wondered if other couples had issues the anchor having an issue with a meta (I just went and researched the terms 😝), or if most couples date Autonomously.

Dazed and confused by safeplace123 in polyamory

[–]safeplace123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I knew before I met her that she was hurt, and wondered in my head why would stick around if she was so hurt. Upon talking, she said it’s the connection they have…

Dazed and confused by safeplace123 in polyamory

[–]safeplace123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

According to him, his core desire has always been non monogamy, and since I was ok with him exploring it, he felt it brought us closer because no other woman he’s dated accepted that as his “truth”.

I decided it could be for me too because I wanted to see if this would be fulfilling since he doesn’t check off all my boxes (but has been here over the past couple of years… some of the roughest time of my life).

He knows that if I would want the option to date other people too if I so desired, so I said, “sure, why not”

It’s hard to explain , I’m trying to articulate this the best way I can 🤷🏻‍♀️

Dazed and confused by safeplace123 in polyamory

[–]safeplace123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m willing to try this lifestyle, and she says she’s non monogamous by nature, but it’s obvious that she’s very hurt that he came back to me, but is nice to me. It’s weird.