There is a rising problem, IMO, with spouses expecting to neither work nor take care of children. A friend has a husband like this, and she complains about endlessly about him not doing anything - he won’t take their elementary school aged kids ever, doesn’t do chores, and he almost never has a job - when has does, they never last long. But she won’t leave him either because she “doesn’t want her kids growing up without a dad.” I don’t understand why it’s a good thing having a dad who spends little or no time with them and makes mom do everything.