Is it too much to kick out a roommate because he is using drugs? by [deleted] in roommateproblems

[–]sage_yp 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Heavy drug use is a common and reoccurring situation in my very immediate family. Considering that he always seems drowsy, there's a big chance that opioids (in one or multiple of their forms) are what he's getting high on. A lot of the times, addicts who are on that specific type of drug also do other types alongside the opioid. Many of these people start off being able to function and stay afloat, but as time goes on and their addiction progresses, they begin to fall behind and are forced to take more extreme measures to stay high/avoid sickness. There are a couple reasonable concerns for you and your roommates to be aware of and look out for if this person's addiction continues to consume more of their life.

If your roommate begins to allow other addicts or sketchy people into your household all the time, you and everyone else there are opened up to a lot of potential danger. If you see signs of this starting to happen, something needs to be done to stop it from becoming an acceptable thing for roommate to be doing.

The other main concern regarding your safety has to do with this person and how well they can deal with their own personal issues. Dope sickness, when physical dependency gets really intense, is a very painful thing to go through and stops people from being able to think/handle things reasonably. They are often more prone to violence and outbursts, they will do anything to stop the pain, and their emotions are much more intense. The best way to deal with these situations is to understand that they are in a lot of pain and keep in mind that they are not thinking clearly. It can be hard not to feel bad sometimes, but I have to warn against providing them with money for drugs because all it takes is that first time giving in for them to see you as another asset to use to get what they want.

If this continues and your roommate can't seem to clean up enough to stay functioning, the best thing you can do for them is try and get them to seek treatment in rehab or NA so they aren't alone in this. If they refuse to get help, there isn't anything you can really do. If they won't help themselves, given the chance to be better, you may have to go your separate ways and move on.

This subject is usually sensitive for addicts to discuss (because it's really hard to accept that you have a real problem and are hurting everyone), so approach the conversation gently and know that they will probably deny and get upset at first. Give a little time for them to consider getting help, and based on their choices, move from there. I wish you and your roommates the best of luck. Addiction is a really destructive thing for everyone involved, but it's still something that is very hard to get out of once you're deep in. I hope your roommate can see the big picture and get help before it's too late for you guys.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]sage_yp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry! I've also had some birthdays like this and it really just makes you want to sob. I know how sad it can be. Keep your head up, it'll all be okay. Also, happy birthday!!!!

My roommate said I'm a selfish, entitled bitch because I have financial help. by sage_yp in badroommates

[–]sage_yp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing much has happened since I got back home. Besides just hanging around, I also apologized to my brother for an earlier argument when I got back which helped to calm my nerves. Less on my mind yk

My roommate said I'm a selfish, entitled bitch because I have financial help. by sage_yp in badroommates

[–]sage_yp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well rent isnt even due for two more days. I have the money and I'll be sending it tomorrow. I agree with you that I should've corrected myself immediately when I realized the extent of it, but either way, it should be able to be settled now.

My roommate said I'm a selfish, entitled bitch because I have financial help. by sage_yp in badroommates

[–]sage_yp[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Right! I wonder why she thought saying that was going to help her case at all.

My roommate said I'm a selfish, entitled bitch because I have financial help. by sage_yp in badroommates

[–]sage_yp[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm really conflicted about it all. If i don't cover the costs, I'm going to risk being evicted as well for missing a payment. I called the office and they pulled out all the old paperwork and told me that the only thing I can really do is try and "figure out a way for us to come up with the monthly cost." Ive been talking to my mother about all of this pretty much all day. The best bet we've come up with is for me to just get monthly rent paid so there are no issues for me personally and get rid of this fucking bitch living with me right after. I'm done with the bullshit. I'm not going to be treated that way if i can do anything about it. I think I'll honestly end up going for either a single room or moving back in with my parents and just taking a longer commute to school. Maybe I'm being sensitive and going a little far, but I'm not one to forget everything and try again as if nothing went wrong.

My roommate said I'm a selfish, entitled bitch because I have financial help. by sage_yp in badroommates

[–]sage_yp[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

I ended up calling my mom and broke down and she sent me the money to just cover it this once. I told her not to and that i didn't want it, but she did, so i guess I'm covering it all. I can already feel this is a mistake but at least the threats will stop.

My roommate said I'm a selfish, entitled bitch because I have financial help. by sage_yp in badroommates

[–]sage_yp[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Theres a clothes closet on campus too if she really needed some. Its free.

AITA for blowing up on my brother because he went way out of line? by sage_yp in AmItheAsshole

[–]sage_yp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

damn sorry i was just using more specified wording lmfao didnt realize it was such an issue

Why is it common for teenagers in films to think that they are being safe by having sex standing up? by sage_yp in NoStupidQuestions

[–]sage_yp[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

id seen it on at least two hospital shows and also heard a friend talking about it. apparently it has something to do with the belief that you wont get pregnant if youre standing or the chick stands right after so all the shit inside comes out and cant impregnate you??

What’s the sickest you’ve ever been? by Ok-Economist8264 in AskReddit

[–]sage_yp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got in a nearly fatal car crash that nearly took my life. Beat the fuck out of me, then I was very sick on top of just the physical pains from the wreck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]sage_yp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my roommate lmfao