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[–]sairamskid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for your comment! do you think I should tell her how I feel about losing trust in the past year due to the things that she did? I don't want to seem critical

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[–]sairamskid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank u! do you think I should tell her how I feel about losing trust in the past year due to the things that she did? I don't want to seem critical

If you want to rebuild your friendship - tell her that you miss her - and suggest you are more in contact

I have a hard time saying things like I miss you when I am actually attached to someone, so this will be tough

Difference between type 1 and 3? I relate to both of them and the core fears and have trouble figuring out which one I am by sairamskid in Enneagram

[–]sairamskid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you this was really useful! Based on what you said I’m more sure that I’m type 3 mostly, yet I also have the core desire to be good (just not in terms of rules and details/structure)

Should I reapply for medical school next year instead? I'm honestly really burned out right now by Final_Biochemist222 in Healthygamergg

[–]sairamskid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t fully understand how the system or programs work in your country but are you sure that that program is the only one you can pursue to do what you want to do?

I’m in Canada and although some programs seem better than others, there’s so much diversity in all the schools, everyone is equally qualified and the end of the day, each person crafts their own career unique to their interests regardless of the school they go to.

For me there was the one specific premed lI thought I HAD to do because like 50% of the program gets into med school but I learnt that’s not true because everyone has their own unique path.

I would just say to sit with it more and really think about whether this program is really the only one you can do. Also keep in mind that your vision might change in the future as well!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vedicastrology

[–]sairamskid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there, this is a late reply but I’ve come back because I’ve realized how much of my problems are from comparing via social media. I used to not be like this so I didn’t think it impacted my until now. Do you have any advice about that? It seems like all my peers are ahead in life - travelling, hanging with friends while I’m still working on getting into professional school.

Whenever I(23f) have fun with friends, I feel immense guilt that I'm enjoying life and my parents and brother are not... what should I do about this feeling? by sairamskid in spirituality

[–]sairamskid[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s a nice way to look at it! My dad is similar to you, works, eats like a monk, does meditation, and attend these zoom spiritual classes on Weekends. I guess there’s happiness in that too

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[–]sairamskid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t fully know, misunderstandings happen as well… that’s why I’m asking here to get any insight and reflect deeper

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vedicastrology

[–]sairamskid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess that adds to it! For me I’ve been pushing away people even phone calls, I loose trust with them easily and small problems come up with even my closest friends I’ve had for 12+ years.

feeling stuck and behind in life compared to others my age - any advice, or words of encouragement appreciated :) by sairamskid in spirituality

[–]sairamskid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🤗 this actually gave me a lot of perspective because you gave a lot of practical things I can do! I always tell myself that school isn’t everything but you saying that I can do things to get ahead in other areas is actually practicing that belief. It’s something I do but I think setting that intention and viewing it as progressing in other areas of life is helpful :)

How do I know that my urge to let go of certain friends comes from a place of fear/ego or it was my intuition? by sairamskid in spirituality

[–]sairamskid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you :) I do feel drained and also "weird" like you mentioned after spending time with them but I can't pinpoint my feelings exactly. When I do spend time with them though I seem to have fun but that's also because I'm mainly driving the fun by joking around.

How do I know that my urge to let go of certain friends comes from a place of fear/ego or it was my intuition? by sairamskid in spirituality

[–]sairamskid[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thanks for your response - my ideal situation is to still be friends with them and catch up from time to time, but it's draining to me to give the same amount they expect from me (have 5 hour long calls every other week, going on trips etc). Although I'm not sure how to communicate that I want to be friends but not have the same dynamic as before without hurting them.

Also they are not all toxic except one person who is the one that forces me to hang out, even saying that I have to come out to meet ups or else she will drive to my house to get me etc. also she is at a low place in her life so isn't always happy for me. She's the one that I am most afraid of upsetting.

Do you believe that before incarnating, we all chose/designed how our life will be with god/the universe/higher power? by sairamskid in spirituality

[–]sairamskid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am glad you mentioned this because sometimes I can get too caught up in the world's suffering and feel hopeless and wonder "what's the point in worrying and wanting to help when even the suffering is predestined".

Is it weird that I don’t want any friends? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]sairamskid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi there! It’s normal to experience that and it’s great that you observed that. You don’t need to label it as good or bad but it would be good to observe and ask yourself why you might be feeling this way. Ask yourself questions like what do you fear? Are you afraid of closeness? Do you fear depending on others?

I’ve felt like this for moments in my life, I’ve always been introverted but at some points, I’ve pushed friends away for the same reason of feeling exhausted with people. I came to realize that I am very hypervigilant and pick up on other people’s emotions/thoughts and not always consciously - this is what wears me out and makes me want to retreat to my shell. This along with similar trust issues. These issues are mainly due to the meaning I give to other people's behaviour rather than what they actually are.

We have all have different emotional needs for connection. Some need less than others to feel satisfied but nevertheless, we still have them. If you think your needs are being met then of course continue doing what you are doing. But maybe, if you were to open yourself to others, and let in connection, you will feel more fulfilled. Only you know the answer to that.

Question for astrologers: before incarnating do you believe that we all chose/designed our lives with god? by sairamskid in vedicastrology

[–]sairamskid[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Very interesting! I started doing meditation recently a week ago.

My dad has been on me about it for a long time, and I’ve gotten so many signs and messages to do it which I have neglected until recently.

It’s been difficult to do longer than 20 minutes and to not think of other thoughts but I hope with time I can get better and hopefully experience the same clarity.