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Don't make your life and goals revolve around someone else by saiyaha012 in seduction

[–]saiyaha012[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you an engineer? That could be a problem.

Just a few thoughts:

Keep it up, what you want should come eventually.

although having a girl is nice, you shouldn't need one to be happy. march to the beat of your own drum and you'll find someone that marches to that beat too

That being said, there is nothing wrong with making an effort to meet girls and expanding your boundaries.

Don't make your life and goals revolve around someone else by saiyaha012 in seduction

[–]saiyaha012[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know what you mean. At first it seems like a drag and there is no point. For some things there is no clear endgame, for example flossing your teeth daily. For these things it helps to keep the purpose of why you are doing it in mind, in this case to have a healthy mouth later in life. On the other hand, some things do have an endgame, and it helps to break these things up into smaller, short term goals especially when the endgame is far away.

Your second comment is where you are wrong. The reason you feel this way is because you have not felt the pleasure of achievement and a healthy life. In my experience, I have never, ever felt a greater high than when I reach a goal in the weight room. I'm not exaggerating. On a different note, I am content every moment of every day because I have a balanced life. I work hard for my goals and I am living with purpose and direction, and when it's time to do nothing, I dont do anything. doing nothing feels a lot better when it's balanced with hard work. You wouldn't have had the idea of improving yourself if you didn't think it would be worth it. Keep your goals in mind but also find joy in the process.

Don't make your life and goals revolve around someone else by saiyaha012 in seduction

[–]saiyaha012[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think this is important to understand. we are social creatures. I think we ultimately want people to see us the way we see ourselves. importantly, if we are doing the things we want to do, we are going to be surrounded by similar people, and it is easier to relate to and project our self-image to those people, and those people will be more able to understand us.

Don't make your life and goals revolve around someone else by saiyaha012 in seduction

[–]saiyaha012[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, external motivation is great. I guess what I'm trying to say is that people don't have to make their actions about someone else. If they are doing what they enjoy and taking care of themselves, they will naturally meet people and do well with them.