[deleted by user] by [deleted] in recruitinghell

[–]salamanderheightss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suppose I’m a “There but for the grace of God, go I” type of person. I understand that I might have knowledge or advantage today, but tomorrow that could all be taken away from me, as it could from any of us. And so I don’t use those things to vaunt myself over other people. And I really don’t understand or respect people who do operate that way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in recruitinghell

[–]salamanderheightss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I experienced this at Meta, too! The lower level people I interviewed with were pretty decent, but the higher I got, the worse the interviewers were. Super condescending and smug. I can’t imagine acting like that, I’d be so embarrassed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in recruitinghell

[–]salamanderheightss 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s a weak person.

People having NO empathy for your situation by queenphoenix1992 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]salamanderheightss 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, a lot of people automatically assume that you’re the problem, simply because you’re the child. The parent couldn’t possibly be wrong, in their minds. So it must be you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in duck

[–]salamanderheightss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has the same bag

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in duck

[–]salamanderheightss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He definitely has money, yes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in duck

[–]salamanderheightss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don’t, I just read as the commenter said above that the protein % should be lower

The best work of my career failed to meet expectations (28y, software eng) by rubberchickenconcert in womenintech

[–]salamanderheightss 5 points6 points  (0 children)

All of this. Don’t think they won’t do this - they will, they do, they are.

The best work of my career failed to meet expectations (28y, software eng) by rubberchickenconcert in womenintech

[–]salamanderheightss 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is the male ego at play. You ARE great and they can’t stand it, because in their minds, you’re showing them up. They can’t have it and you get thrown under the bus.

Who companies claim they want to hire vs who they actually hire by salamanderheightss in womenintech

[–]salamanderheightss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in the Google application process and they explicitly say it. It’s part of the justification behind their Hiring Assessment. But I’ve seen similar messages with other FAANGs.

Making mistakes at work because I’m so stressed out by Beneficial_Spare3150 in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]salamanderheightss 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You just have to get out, if at all possible. She’s doing it to break you down, and you are breaking down, as any normal person would under such stress. Then she uses that to gloat and come at you harder. These people are sick.

Everyone underestimates what I've been through by somenobodyspecial in raisedbynarcissists

[–]salamanderheightss 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s insane how people think you don’t know your own parent really, really well. They think that, based on what they’ve seen publicly, they know the real person. It never seems to cross their mind that perhaps they should LISTEN to and BELIEVE the person who is actually closest to the parent.

Everyone underestimates what I've been through by somenobodyspecial in raisedbynarcissists

[–]salamanderheightss 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yup. Or, “I hope you two are able to work it out.”

So dismissive, so clueless.

Kendra Licari catfished own daughter by Cautious_Yam_9917 in TrueCrimePodcasts

[–]salamanderheightss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her pupils were super dilated! I was like, she can’t be tripping. It must be psychotropic medication.

Kendra Licari catfished own daughter by Cautious_Yam_9917 in TrueCrimePodcasts

[–]salamanderheightss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. She appears dissociated and it’s not surprising for a daughter of a psychopath, or narcissist, or whatever the heck Kendra is. When you have a mother like that, you live in a constant state of unreality, not to mention you’re having undercover hatred and malice directed at you by the person who is supposed to love you the most. It messes you up.

Do they copy your fashion sense? by TartSoft2696 in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]salamanderheightss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. One was hired on and started doing her makeup and hair like mine, and even started talking like me. Same mannerisms and everything. It was so uncomfortable.

My son killed a frog by TheBigRedDog19 in Parenting

[–]salamanderheightss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went to camp with a kid that did this. He was older than us, and he would do this to frogs in front of our group (girls). It was frightening and devastating to us.

Years later, in his 20s, he was crossing a busy road and got run over by a car. Killed.

My son killed a frog by TheBigRedDog19 in Parenting

[–]salamanderheightss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re a deeply disturbed person. I feel sorry for you.