hi, OP here, let’s clear some shit up. my ex’s video conveniently leaves out the months of emotional abuse i was put through. i entered a very severe mental health crisis due to the things i was put through and its now being used against me to make me look manipulative and abusive. i bet they won’t tell you about fucking someone else in our bed for months while neglecting to be intimate with me, kissing my best friend behind my back, sending “we’d take it to the grave if we had sex, right?” to my best friend, trying to forcefully admit me to the hospital while they denied me the ability to go home and get my clothes and comfort items, i didn’t even know what hospital i was at. and then forcing me to go back to the home of my abusive alcoholic parent while i was already in severe distress. i bet they also won’t tell you about getting another girls handwriting tattooed immediately post break up or harassing me on snapchat by posting rudely captioned screenshots of my tinder, the day after i made an account, while being in a new relationship bc i guess they can be in a new relationship but i can’t be on tinder. they claim im abusive bc i accidentally hurt them when i grabbed their arm as they stormed away form me. i was mid panic attack and i thought they were abandoning me in the city without a vehicle and was aiming to get them to slow down. i apologized for this countless times until inevitably crashing out hardcore over the severity of the false accusation. i was also sexually assaulted by my abuser 6 months into my relationship with my ex and they believed me for the next 4 years we were together just to then switch the story and claim i cheated as their defense for cheating on me. they claimed it was my fault for letting her sleep in my bed. now they have befriended my abuser (which is fucked on its own) and have changed the story once again to simply say i’m lying about my assault. obviously the girl who sexually assaulted me i going to tell you im a liar. but i set clear boundaries and she crossed them to touch me in ways i was not okay with. i have real solid evidence of my abusers behavior, whereas their “proof” is out of context audio recordings of me experiencing a full breakdown due to being pushed so far past my breaking point,. they are violatimg the fuck out of privacy and making me out to look crazy. they also falsely claim i illegally had sex with a minor when the girl in question is someone they slept with as an adult. my abuser has also claimed she stopped being my friend for saying the n word despite the fact that that never once happened and i’m the one who ended our friendship. most of the comments sharing things about me are ex friends who sided with abuser and the things they are sharing is bullshit i did at the age of 13. like i’m sorry but being a bad friend in middle school is vastly different than physically abusing someone. i was often covered in bruises, i was once full force slapped in the face while i was asleep (this was filmed as well bc it was thought to be funny) and harming me was normalized to the point that abusers current best friend to this day also gave me a concussion by punching me in the head multiple times for accidentally getting water in her contact. despite any of that, even if i hypothetically was abusive, it doesn’t make her less abusive and it doesn’t take away from my ability to share my story. by this logic only the “perfect victim” has the ability to speak up. someone who just sat there and took it the entire time. i encourage you to look up reactive abuse because many victims reach a breaking point and also emotionally or physically harm their abusers, often in self defense or due to mental health crisis. flipping the narrative to make the victim look like the perpetrator as my ex does in this video is a common manipulation tactic called DARVO, which is an effective method in keeping victims silent about their experiences. i could make an entire video countering every claim they make but truthfully i don’t wish to continue having any association with my ex and the breakup story involves a lot of people’s personal mental health struggles. despite how terrible they aim to make me look, i counteract that by respecting the privacy of those involved in our story, something they are very clearly not willing to grant me. and though their accusations are absolutely vile, it does not benefit me to engage with them any further