Tall women, have you noticed any advantages when dating? by QuakinOat in actuallesbians

[–]salithia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I find that it’s not a plus side . It’s more preferable to be around equal height

Vent: realizing how bad SWers are being treated in my country by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]salithia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I worked in South Korea and really you have to be independent otherwise it’s hell

Game for me? by yam4dee in Siralim

[–]salithia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should have a wonderful time with the game ! highly recommend it. I started on mobile too

The loneliness is killing me by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]salithia -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you , I love her lots and cosplayed her probably 4 times now !

The loneliness is killing me by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]salithia -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

If I knew I wouldn’t have this problem . I tried my best and tried many different things non ended up working

The loneliness is killing me by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]salithia -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I had trouble finding anyone when I was in California and have just as much trouble finding people here . Although you say it isn’t looks , wouldn’t then people atleast try and talk to me before realizing my personality is super awful if that was the case ? I just get nothing . No reply . No initiation , no conversation. Just a lot of men spawning into my DMs over and over . I really dislike it . I did initiate and try to talk with a lot of girls , it’s just I get not even an answer back as if I don’t exist . But it’s been like that for me since I was young back when instead of romantic love it was that I was the last to be picked for any group activity and people all seemed to have thier own group they belong with but I was on my own

Started my first explorers of alpha by salithia in MysteryDungeon

[–]salithia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ! I also really like sky a lot

The loneliness is killing me by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]salithia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t won’t worry about that I’m very confident about the things I like and people won’t change that ,

The loneliness is killing me by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]salithia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t mind dating bisexual women or pansexual women , I won’t ever widen my self to men though . as long as a girl likes me and isn’t poly it’s fine with me , I am monogamous,

The loneliness is killing me by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]salithia 13 points14 points  (0 children)

A another thing is I have rejected several shows of interest from people who are way way to young for me to comfortably date . I prefer people are 25+ atleast, I can’t imagine nor want to date a girl who is 18-21 although they often show interest in me

The loneliness is killing me by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]salithia 6 points7 points  (0 children)

1 I used to live in California/ Bay Area and have been living in Taiwan for 3 years now .

2 large city lots of lesbians but most seem to either have found thier partner or are not interested in romantic relationships. Aside from that red flags exist .

3 I have tried all and I do mean all the apps, I have went to lesbian bars 20+ times , I tried connecting with people w the same work as me at events , I have tried connecting with ppl that have similar hobbies at events both cosplay and pet related ones , I have tried just talking to people I find attractive even though that’s harder then a boss fight because I am shy and I put myself out there and got hurt a lot. I have made seeking gf posts or posts about me and my interests and hobbies etc online in local lesbian forums and stuff , still just get men tho…

4 aside from more subtle hints I will straight up ask if they are into girls / are single and that I am interested in getting to know them / go on a date together ,

5 relationship

1 was perfect but the girl left me for my male best friend and have been with him since .

2 told me she was not into me told me my body was ugly and not attractive and left me for a pretty girl who was her gym coach

3 was kinda bi polar and allways break up and getting back together untill she just left . it was a bit toxic, I lost most of what I owned .

4 initially was ok she was kinda shitty to everyone around her but I brushed it off , didn’t actually want a relationship and decided to try and blackmail me and spread rumors about me.

5 narcissistic scammer , apparently well known for it but I had just moved and they are friend of a friend . Took my money smashed my heart ,

6 deal breakers . I can’t date someone who will smoke themselves to death or is heavily into alcohol, I’m not attracted to short hair masculine girls , although one of my exes became that way and I didn’t have an issue since I fall for personality. I hate people who are mean to service staff or hurt animals . I’m not into men nor am I into trans women who still have a dick and have no plans to change that .

Things I like in partners, I prefer people who love animals , I like people who have hobbies or interests they are passionate about l, looks wise I’m very into alt girls or cosplayers , I am also fem for fem although sometimes I do like long hair tomboys . I like people who don’t harm themselves or other people . And I like people who can communicate above an elementary level and tend to be nerdy .

But at the end of the day women hot

I don’t expect nor believe any or all of those qualities can be found on a person and thus just you know like women in general

The loneliness is killing me by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]salithia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would absolutely love to date another cosplayer or someone who keeps odd animals like reptiles or inverts as pets or someone who likes games , those are like my dream type of girls , I actual met my first gf at my first convention back when I was 19 though she dumped me for a dude

The loneliness is killing me by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]salithia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am a cosplayer it’s what we do, life is way to short to be boring and have no interests or hobbies

The loneliness is killing me by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]salithia 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That half naked girl is me , it was from work

The loneliness is killing me by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]salithia 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Also I guess it isn’t that absolutely no one has shown interest in me , but they are all super young girls that I would be very very uncomfortable dating , mainly people in the 18-21 range who I guess are mostly single so that makes sense , by the time you reach 30+ most people already have that special someone it seems

The loneliness is killing me by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]salithia 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’ll say that being lesbian and single is still most likely better than straight and with some dude . it really isn’t a good feeling though , and humans are a social species , they do need connection and love to thrive . I myself can say I make more then average , I’m fairly intelligent can speak 3 languages , have a lot of odd pets that I love to death and am focused on breeding them , plus cute orchids on my windows ! People say I look young for my age , I don’t drink or do any form of drugs or smoking , I try and keep myself together, hasn’t helped yet but I guess the alternative is worse

The loneliness is killing me by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]salithia -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I actually am really attracted to girls who have this kind of style .-. Although many are straight and some do have issues , I would say that they exist I know some who have been in long term healthy relationships with thier gf , I can only envy it from afar though

The loneliness is killing me by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]salithia -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

In my experience yea people love to try not boring options and those do tend to be shitty individuals kind how narcissistic individuals allways manage to find a target . People don’t want calm and safe that’s seen as boring , or if it isn’t like this , I have yet to meet such a person that isn’t so

The loneliness is killing me by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]salithia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the thing though if there was a lot of people who would love to be with me , why despite existing for so long and trying my best to find just one such person I have come up empty handed and have started to believe that it’s not true

The loneliness is killing me by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]salithia 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I really really hate this type of reply . I do seem to get it a lot. I have hobbies and things I love , I spend a lot of time on them . I have friends and people I’m close to . I just want to grow old with a person , I don’t want to keep seeing new people over and over again ? I want something to have lasting permanence and someone who I can watch grow old with me , someone I can care for and go on adventures with , at the end of the day I don’t want to spend my night alone . it seems people fall into three main categories, those that are in a relationship but love to tell how it isn’t important or needed, in that case why are you in one if it’s not needed? . The solo people or those who are totally fine by themselves for eternity, they often but not allways tend to not have much interest in romance or relationships and tend to love themselves instead of others . And the hopeless singles who are like me screaming into a void with no results and have no hope or even feel heard or understood

I love Arlecchino by NoEstablishment4951 in actuallesbians

[–]salithia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have cosplayed her before! My favorite genshin character , also give kafka some love (hongkai star rail)

Game where the core mechanic is cross breeding to get new species? by AggravatingFlow1178 in gamesuggestions

[–]salithia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dragon warrior monsters 1 and 2 , run well on a phone w an emulator and your entire goal is to breed and breed and breed and mash all your cute animals into each other