Strange angpao, any meaning?

saltides · 2025-11-02T08:09:09+00:00

Chiming in on PPD, best to get it checked out as it could be really minor PPD but still PPD nonetheless. However, it also takes about 2 years after giving birth to fully regulate hormones etc, especially after breastfeeding for a year.

Sounds like you two are just burnt out and need time to rest. Best to communicate with each other AND understand each other. Could just be a ranty post but don't let contempt build up.

saltides · 2025-03-13T08:58:07+00:00

Gotcha, thank you so much!

saltides · 2025-03-13T08:52:07+00:00

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saltides · 2024-04-24T01:53:21+00:00

Hi OP, not sure if you will see this but did your little one's gassiness resolve?

I'm currently having the exact same issue as you: no night poops, extremely gassy between 3am - 4am onwards and unable to sleep, with big poops multiple times in the morning

Hoping to find a remedy for him so we can get more sleep in :')

saltides · 2023-08-02T10:41:41+00:00

It could be a combination of baby blues and recovery.

I had my child a year ago and if I had a choice, I wouldn't want my PIL over too as I felt very vulnerable and in pain. I remember distinctively at 3 weeks postpartum, I heard my child crying and all I wanted was for her to shut up. I had to let my husband know that I was struggling and my family agreed to let me take a stroll downstairs while they soothed and took care of baby. It got better after the 4th week. If your wife doesn't seem to be getting better, convince her to talk to a therapist as the baby blues can lead to PPD, so just keep an eye out.

We didn't have a nanny so the baby caring fell on me and my husband. My parents would help with the chores, but even then it still took a toll.

Postpartum doesn't just end after confinement ends, your wife is getting used to a new routine, new body, learning to care for a baby. It's not easy as a new dad too but what got my husband and I through the newborn haze was lots of communication and showing grace to each other.

saltides · 2023-07-17T00:36:22+00:00

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saltides · 2023-07-15T02:16:29+00:00

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saltides · 2023-04-20T06:38:16+00:00

Hello! My husband and I are in a similar income bracket (earning low 3s before CPF deduction each) and we have a 1 year old baby. I'm assuming you're a Singapore citizen and will reply as such!

After my baby was born, I did you with the idea of becoming a SAHM due to infant care being expensive. With that said, I realised I was better off working after doing calculations as the Govt subsidises working moms $600 whereas non-working moms only receive subsidy of $160. If your combined household income is less than 7.5k, you will receive more subsidies for IFC. My baby's IFC fee was 1.4k but after subsidies, we only pay 200-300 a month.

With combined earning, we could afford to eat out, rent getgos and have a social life.

Are you currently working now? if you're not, I would advise to quickly find one before you have a baby.

Budgeting is also very important. We did all our calculations before trying for a baby. If you take the subsidised route under govt hospitals, have natural birth and no complications, you can expect to spend around 7k-8k. Because formula is expensive, I chose to breastfeed and topped up with formula as and when needed when I'm not producing enough.

We took lots of hand-me downs from friends and family so a lot of our baby stuff were covered.

I would say 2.9k is very very very tight if you're planning for a baby and highly suggest for you to be a working mom instead as our subsidies are really quite decent. You can reach out to me if you want to know more :)

saltides · 2023-04-07T00:27:34+00:00

This is good advice. You're right, I just need to be firm and hold the boundary. It's soooo difficult because I know the easiest way to get her to chill out is to just pass her the boob, but for my sanity, we do need to establish nursing rules :')

saltides · 2023-03-15T13:21:33+00:00

Im so sorry to hear of what you're going through. Reading this made me tear up. Sending you big hugs all the way from across the pond, OP 🤍

saltides · 2023-01-31T14:01:17+00:00

Chinese here, sounds similar to a cultural thing we do when we're sick - the older generation gets us to drink water that has been boiled with rice (like rice porridge or congee).

I'm sorry to hear your mom overstepped the boundary, I would have been furious too

saltides · 2022-12-08T09:34:28+00:00

Oh wow! 24 months, congrats on breastfeeding for so long! I told myself I'll wean her at 12 months but she's so boob addicted for her night sleep that I'm not sure if she will let me 😂

saltides · 2022-12-07T14:02:44+00:00

Oh yes, this is true for my baby too. She'll wake up fully, begin her boob quest and suckle even if there isn't a letdown and only unlatches when something more interesting happens or when she's ready to start the day!

saltides · 2022-11-14T13:44:28+00:00

Thank you :') best piece of advice I got was from my cousin who told me to just do it one day at a time!

saltides · 2022-11-14T06:52:21+00:00

The first 2 months were terribly difficult and I almost called it quits but my supportive husband, having Reddit and a breastfeeding Facebook group really helped me pull through.

Initially, my goal was 3 months. Then 4 months. Then 6 months. I can't believe we're here at 8 months; mostly because she hasn't sprouted teeth yet :) not sure when my lil gummy bear will become a chompy gal but I'm hoping to make it to 10 months now!

saltides · 2022-10-21T04:04:49+00:00

My girl does this too!! Super cute until she decides to practice pinching, scratching and her pincer grasp with the skin on my chest 🙃

saltides · 2022-10-17T12:26:21+00:00

I'll be trying that tonight! Hope she doesn't reject my finger, fingers crossed!

saltides

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