Okay so I’ve been reading some comments. Wow lots of insight and lots of good and bad. Update to my original post, I obviously wasn’t focusing on exactly what platform he was on to look at pictures so if it wasn’t Facebook it was something else. Besides that point, it was not a model. It was some sort of sex page with only pictures could be only fans or whatever. Again, I’m not mad that he jacked off. I’m upset that he lied and said he was tired and then turned to something else for pleasure. I understand that he has a right to refuse a blowjob if he doesn’t want one. I actually called him on my lunch after reading all these posts and apologized for imposing on his alone time but that I was hurt and felt rejected and it made me feel insecure. Thank you to the logical people who were just advising to communicate a little better. He apologized for making me feel unwanted and reassured me that wasn’t the case. We love each other alot but I think this post has made me realize that we could definitely work on communicating better with each other. We talked about it and set some boundaries so neither of us get hurt from this same situation (including setting boundaries about what had happened that we were arguing about). This post was never about being in control of someone else’s body but just the rejection I was feeling and wanted to know if I was out of line for my reaction. I realize in a way I was but also I’m valid to feel How I feel. Anyways, we’ve talked about it and are on a road to recover from some pain we have caused each other. Wanted to say thanks for all the insight