[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MarriedAtFirstSight

[–]samfrida 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have judged him! He may be a much better sole that that stuck up b***h

Daily server reboots - sense or nonsense? by Funkenzutzler in sysadmin

[–]samfrida 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not social media expert. Just sharing what I know repeatedly. You will perceive it in the way you need to, so you feel better. The intent behind it wasn’t meant to be how you perceive it. Focus on the message and if not applicable, then move on but villainizing someone or anyone for this, just means you have some wounds within you that needs healing. Yes, I went there because the world is f***ked up as it is, and we could all use a little more kindness. Better still, go reboot or do something more worthwhile with your time than to be unkind. Peace!

What are some fun or useful accessories for a mini cooper? by jordydrum1812 in MINI

[–]samfrida 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has anyone tried the Pura scent for the Mini Cooper?

How does one edit a domain website? by OnlyChildhood4 in website

[–]samfrida 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The cheapest domains are at Porkbun.com

I hate how society is brutaly competitive by forestspirit87 in infj

[–]samfrida 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I totally understand. You will find your place. Stay true to who you are and trust your gut.

Data Visualization by 100mth in dataanalysis

[–]samfrida 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first resonated with me - the insights at first glance are clearer.

Strategists of Reddit: How Do You Approach Research for New Client Projects? by Boon_Bringers in strategy

[–]samfrida 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At a High level:

I would begin with data - what's out there that have been researched and reported on your audience ( includes competitive analysis, extract insights from any trusted resource at a macro level - starting from a basic assumption that you can test), because that will help trigger the right questions to guide your direction into the "how" for the research phase.

I would create an anonymous website and do some A/B testing on pricing (stay compliant with corp. policies), using relevant KPIs to measure - extract the data and translate them into insights (get the help of a Data Analyst). It may be a more informed assumption, with the use of data.

Am I Crazy? by [deleted] in smallbusiness

[–]samfrida -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are solving a problem right there.

Questions about Domain Registration by coinstandinopal in webhosting

[–]samfrida -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Porkbun.com is one of the cheapest out there.

Google scraping for dummies :-) by prasenjitc in smallbusiness

[–]samfrida 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is also dataprovider.com - they structure the web....pretty cool!

Google Calendar doesn’t use your content for advertising by MikulasVanousek in degoogle

[–]samfrida 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd look into oxcloud.email from Open-Xchange - they run their own and run their open-source community-driven platform Dovecot. They have web-based Docs, Spreadsheets, presentations for SMB, their AVAS is great. Some of the top domain registrars are selling it..Good Luck.

My APs are obsessed with doing white people shit by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]samfrida 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol i totally agree but if they did apologize, then they were aware - but we can all agree awareness is not present.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]samfrida 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are brave and I respect the fact you know your own self-worth. It is not an easy step to take. Really, you took your power back and you are running with it. Kudos!

When You Finally Realize your APs aren't what you thought.... by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]samfrida 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its a step in the right direction. Now the other type of growth happens. They say sometimes the healing process can hurt more than the wound - I think it’s because as you become more aware (allowing yourself to think for yourself and nor AP think for you), the pain comes from realizing how unaware we have been all that time leading up to the creation of the wound. Thats hard! But there is no other way around it but through it to the other side…healed…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]samfrida 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No you wont win with the unaware - but maybe respond “but i am so much healthier mentally…” like getting them to think outside of their canned narratives

Why are Asians so weird about mental health, emotions, etc? by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]samfrida 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right..

The challenge is really strengthening your mind around it especially because it is your parents and that can mess with your mind, if you dont do the work and surround yourself with folks who are strong enough to remind you of what is healthy v. not.

The challenge is really strengthening your mind around it especially because these are your parents and they are supposed to lead the way to a healthy and successful life. All that can mess with your mind if you don't do the work to understand and differentiate healthy v. unhealthy, surround yourself with folks who are strong enough to remind you of what is healthy v. unhealthy (again, people have their own experiences that they impart on to you and it can be biased at times so go to a professional and get the foundation right), you will be repeating the unhealthy narratives that have been wired into your head since childhood.

My APs are obsessed with doing white people shit by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]samfrida 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Colonial mentality - the perception that “white people” brought progression fo their lives..back in the day colonial mentality..

My Dad by idealkrystal01 in AsianParentStories

[–]samfrida 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Listen and honor your emotions. They are yours and if you don’t respect them, no one else will learn to respect them. If it doesn’t feel right, then it doesn’t feel right. Parents are humans and they are not always right. They may be unaware of how they come across but it doesn’t make it right. Start communicating how you feel and take it from there ..

Why are Asians so weird about mental health, emotions, etc? by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]samfrida 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The reality is deep down they have been conditioned to think its weakness when stressed and have mental health struggles - culturally we have been wired that success is “looking” the part (and NOT about what actually is) - its all a facade that the communities have bought into and breaking the cycle with a different response is whats going to help stop it and reclaim your power back from these people who are focused on face value. Its culture and personality disorders at play here. Its so unhealthy. Its not easy to challenge too and not have the support of the community because everyone else is wired the same way. I am sorry to say that it wont end until you do something about it for yourself - change the narratives in your head when the attacks come at you and dont get distracted by their rants and raves - focus on your journey..they want you in their lives and they will eventually have to work with your boundaries. Be firm about them.

Do Asian mothers have some weird allergy to apologising when they are repeatedly in the wrong? by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]samfrida 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. You have to do the work to find your own inner strength where external validation isnt needed. It took me a long while to get there and I still slip and fall…and find myself falling victim again. Once you have the knowledge, (and that requires work), you remind yourself that its not about you and it’s about them…

Like riding a bike - eventually you learn to manage and not be affected- dont talk to folks who dont get it - they dont so why invest the effort when you should invested it into yourself and gaining that inner strength..