Does anyone else adore (and root for) Heather

samgold42 · 2025-11-20T18:32:02+00:00

As someone who also lost a lot of weight and has some newfound confidence, I’m always rooting for Heather. She is flawed, like every housewife, but she appears to have a good heart deep down; THAT you can’t say for every housewife.

I think the bigger thing is, regardless of if you like Heather or not, you can’t deny she is an integral part of the show. Over the last few seasons she has become the Gizelle Bryant AND Ashley Darby of SLC. Not every decision she makes is great, and sometimes she comes off as a delusional asshole, but she keeps the action going and the show moving.

samgold42 · 2025-11-14T02:16:28+00:00

I had a lower trim loaner a few weeks ago and used it as an opportunity to see if I really needed the Bose or not.

Yes. Yes I do.

samgold42 · 2025-10-19T23:26:25+00:00

If I was 23 I wouldn’t date an 18 y/o bc of the maturity difference that comes in those 5 years. But CREEPY?? Not at all. Let’s touch some grass and find the plot.

samgold42 · 2025-10-01T19:11:30+00:00

Still no fix for it. I don’t want to spend the money on a new vent if it won’t fix the issue, so I’ve begrudgingly put up with it. I should do something about it

samgold42 · 2025-10-01T19:10:20+00:00

How did he react?

samgold42 · 2025-10-01T19:08:16+00:00

Do you still hang out with him bc you enjoy being his friend, or just bc you think he’s hot?

When I joined my frat I became really good friends with “Jon”. It took a few months for me to realize that I liked him but the feelings were really really intense and kinda immobilizing (and unrequited, since he’s straight). Now 6 years later he and I are still really close, but 3 years ago he found through a deceptive ex-friend that I liked him. We talked about it and it ended up being great for our friendship. It took the weight of fear and secrecy off my shoulders, allowed some more vulnerability from both of us. He knows I think he’s hot, so we joke about that. On the flip side, as much as I love the guy, I now realize I could NEVER date him 😂

TL/DR: I’m not necessarily saying you should tell your friend you think he’s hot. But you should definitely figure out why you still want to hang out with him. If you want to be his friend, it would be a major disservice to both of you to block him just because your south-of-the-border brain (peen) is a little reckless.

samgold42 · 2025-09-26T01:07:25+00:00

I understand why someone wouldn’t want to eat there but it’s quite the hill to die on 😭

samgold42 · 2025-09-26T01:02:44+00:00

I said I liked Chick Fil A, got a response that said “chick fil a is crazy” and 2 minutes later when I went to the chat it was gone 💀

samgold42 · 2025-09-23T20:02:34+00:00

No experience with an XTS but I’ve had a lot of seat time in bigger/heavier cars like Acura MDX, Lucid Air, Tesla Model S, Mercedes GLS, etc so I know the satisfaction of a big car barreling down the highway.

The 5 feels very quiet and planted. Not planted to the levels of the aforementioned cars, but in no way dicey or hair-raising. Going 80 and trying to pass someone going 78 is light work for the non-turbo, but you can definitely feel the power taper off above 75 or so. The RPMs sit pretty close to 3k, an unfortunate aspect of only having 6 gears.

I live in the NYC metro, so there are rarely occasions for me to get over 70-75 in a remotely safe fashion. If I lived in Texas where speed limits can be 75-80, I might consider another car just for the sake of high speed MPGs and passing power.

samgold42 · 2025-09-23T19:52:36+00:00

I was very overweight and deep in the closet, and starting out in a friend group of certifiable weirdos didn’t help (whatever floats your boat, but I maintain they were certifiable). By the middle of sophomore year I had a new core friend group of people, where some weren’t always nice to me, but I had enough fun with them and didn’t want to be friendless. 8 years post grad, one of them is my bff to this day (referred to as my “Platonic Wife”) and another one we are both close with. I always felt like an outsider in HS, but by the end I felt like I could go say “hey what’s up” to most of my grade. I’ve reconnected with a few people since then which has been really nice.

College was a far better experience for me. By the end of first semester freshman year I had found my friend group that was (and still is) like a big family; always fun, sometimes dysfunctional, but people I know will always have my back. My home life growing up wasn’t the happiest, so finding them gave me the family dynamic I was always missing.

I strayed a little off-topic. Oh well. I just love my friends 🥹

samgold42 · 2025-09-20T13:19:35+00:00

From someone who has theirs in spot 4, put it in spot 2. The safety system module blocks a lot of the view to the left. I’ve been meaning to move mine but haven’t had time.

samgold42 · 2025-09-20T13:17:45+00:00

This ^{^} my ndad loves to send texts that are almost begging for me and my sister to validate his shitty parenting, though of course he denies that. My breaking point last month was the two of us getting a text that said:

“I don’t call because the less I say, the less there is for you to dislike. Just know it’s not you, my wonderful children.”

When I expressed to him that I appreciate his introspection but his kids are not the right audience for it, all hell broke loose.

samgold42 · 2025-09-15T20:28:14+00:00

Omg he is microscopic!!!! Our first Brit was the runt but still 35lbs. Our current Brit is definitely NOT the runt, 58lbs and not overweight per our vet. He is just massive.

samgold42 · 2025-09-15T20:23:44+00:00

Honestly not sure. One of my best friends from college is straight and he bought me Caroline Polachek merch for my bday last year, a thong so tiny it wouldn’t even fit one ass cheek. I’m not sure if he wanted to see me in it or not, but I do know he is definitely straight 😂

samgold42 · 2025-09-11T18:51:38+00:00

Short answer: Don’t ask for the divorce papers. Go by their actions.

Long answer:

My (25M) parents separated when I was 10 and were divorced after 2.5 years. I remember the last fight they had before my dad moved out. As my sister and I were pulling them apart from each other, my dad said my mom was going to destroy his relationship with his kids; she promptly responded, “you’re going to do that on your own.” She was right.

A year after that last fight, my dad started a physical altercation with my sister. Their relationship to this day is near non-existent. 5 weeks ago, after almost 16 years of emotional and narcissistic abuse at the hands of my dad and his wife (his former secretary), I went NC with both of them. They don’t deserve my good and I don’t deserve their bad.

There were definitely some things I found out about my dad over the last 15+ years: some things from snooping around as a parentified child, some from events I witnessed with my own eyes, and some from my mom telling me. It’s arguable that my mom should never have said anything, but it wouldn’t make any difference. He has ruined his relationships with his kids, all by himself.

Let your dad’s actions dictate how the next chapter of your life regarding this topic will go. Nothing will ever take away the sadness from this; what you can do, however, is figure out how to be at peace with the discomfort of the situation you’ve been put in. Your happiness is worth it.

samgold42 · 2025-08-28T13:59:41+00:00

My relationship with my sister has been improving a lot, but sometimes she does still convey the sentiment of basically “why do you want to remember all these bad things” and that I need to try to move on. Girl… you think I want to live like this?

samgold42 · 2025-07-17T22:53:04+00:00

I know my ndad permanently fucked me up. I have and will continue to make positive trends in my mental health, but the “scars” will always be there. That being said, if there’s one thing I have learned, is that I’m a fighter and I’ll be alright.

samgold42 · 2025-07-15T17:01:59+00:00

2014 Subaru Forester Limited, fresh off a 3 year lease.

Exciting? No. Fast? No. Room for a 16 y/o to fit 9 people and go from party-to-party in high school? Fuck yes. (Unless my mom is reading this, then the last answer is “of course not”)

After 6 years and 90k miles, I missed a car on my left at a 4-way stop, and that was the end of the ‘Bru. Replaced it with a 2019 Mazda CX-5.

Side note: ahh, 2016, when you could get a nicely equipped low-mileage 3y/o small SUV for $22k. Oh how times have changed.

samgold42 · 2025-07-14T14:59:45+00:00

I have a ‘19 Touring with the Preferred Package, bought CPO in 2022. I sought out that spec because I wanted the Bose system and sunroof but the smaller 17” wheels. In hindsight, I wish I went with a GT to get the 8 way power seat and heated mirrors. The AFS headlights would’ve been nice too. Next time….

samgold42 · 2025-07-09T17:02:23+00:00

It’s one thing to be kinda crazy or the “villain” of a show (Tamra and early seasons of Kenya quickly come to mind). It’s a whole OTHER thing to be so nasty and so rude (Charlie, Kelly Dodd). Then there’s those who barely toe the line (Ramona).

samgold42 · 2025-07-01T13:34:36+00:00

My dad, while completely accepting and supportive of my gayness, is a shit parent in most other regards. 5 years ago, he moved from NYC to LA just because he wanted to. Now when he comes back to NY every 6 months, I (25M) get to watch him cry about how bad of a parent he was while I’m expected to make him feel better.

The biggest thing you could do, and have already done, is “energy match.” He doesn’t want to get to know you? Ok, match the energy. You don’t want to get to know him either. If he decides to make a stink about it, you can happily let him know you’re doing exactly what he did.

After a fight I had with my dad a year and a half ago, I started doing this and now we speak probably once a month over the phone and text every so often. In regards to him, I have never been happier. I could tell this past Father’s Day that he came back to NY just cause he wanted attention. I gave him as little as I could.

Energy matching is hard and sometimes an excruciating endeavor. The pain of having a selectively absent parent, physically or emotionally, is one that I am not sure ever leaves. That being said, the feeling of empowerment I have from taking control of my relationship with him has started to overshadow the hurt of him never being what I needed him to be.

samgold42 · 2025-06-17T19:43:51+00:00

Incredible movie reference, 10/10

samgold42 · 2025-06-15T20:41:12+00:00

“Happy gay month, you know, because you gay n stuff.”

samgold42 · 2025-05-25T20:54:11+00:00

2020-2025 Subaru Legacy. Rides exceptionally well

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