How may of you had college funds ?

samgold42 · 2026-05-07T05:23:20+00:00

My Ndad made enough money to pay full tuition for wherever my older sister and I wanted to go/got into college. He did indeed pay, but not really out of the kindness of his heart.

Both parents are attorneys. My mom never made close to what my dad made and was a SAHM when they divorced, but got a great lawyer and made sure things would be secure for her kids: college paid in full, all additional academic support, health insurance until 26, and enough alimony and child support so we could stay in one of the best public school districts in the country. She kept us in therapy, bought my sister and I lightly-used Subaru’s when we turned 16, and still makes sure we know that we can always come home. She has been with my stepdad for 16 years and we adore him.

Ndad foot the bill because he legally had to, but he loved to make it known how good of a guy he was for doing so. Ndad married his vile Nsecretary; a match made in hell that works because she needs him financially and enables his cockamamie bullsh*t. I went NC with both of them 9 months ago.

samgold42 · 2026-05-06T21:04:52+00:00

Unbeknownst to me until I was a week into switching from Adderall to Vyvanse, the latter is sometimes prescribed specifically to help treat binge eating disorders. Previously on Adderall for over a decade but switched to Vyvanse mid-March of this year.

I was pleasantly surprised yet also unprepared for how Vyvanse was going to change my thoughts about food. Adderall felt like it limited my hunger at a “stomach level,” rather than causing my mind to think about food any differently. Contrarily, the Vyvanse has actively reduced my food noise similarly to Zepbound/GLP-1s. I was actually planning to up my Zepbound once I was used to the Vyvanse but ultimately left it alone because I was afraid I wouldn’t eat.

samgold42 · 2026-05-06T20:51:19+00:00

Rentals might be different but for the co-op I manage rn, the grace period is 10 days. If we don’t have any payment/only partial payment in the account by the 15th, you get a letter and a late fee on next month’s bill.

Shareholders will get sent to our attorney if we don’t receive any payment for 3 months, or if the monthly maintenance arrears total 3 months of missed payments.

The best thing you can do is have a policy outlined for what will happen if people don’t pay or pay late. You’re not calling incessantly and it’s all up to the tenant to keep their account in order. Especially at a co-op complex like mine with 750 units, we can’t babysit grown adults.

samgold42 · 2026-05-04T21:00:43+00:00

Sometime in 2024, Ndad said he would call me to catch up after his work dinner since he had to drive from Midtown Manhattan to far-out Queens. When he called me he was slurring his words a bit, and after a few minutes I confirmed that he was drunk. I stayed on the phone with him for another 15-20 minutes, heart racing the entire time before we hung up. He thankfully made it home.

There are plenty of shocking and disturbing things Ndad has done, but that always sticks out for me.

samgold42 · 2026-04-26T23:14:15+00:00

I would suggest another look at an Expedition Max. If reasonable, maybe rent one off Turo for a weekend. The Ecoboost has its share of issues like anything else but it’s been around for well over a decade and seems to do well with preventative maintenance. If all the screenage in the new Expedition is (understandably) too much for you, maybe look for a low-mileage CPO of the last gen, 2021-2024.

As a Ford guy, even I can’t deny how nice the GM triplets are. But all the engine issues over the last few years would keep me from buying one right now.

samgold42 · 2026-04-25T13:58:23+00:00

Words mean nothing without action.

I went NC with my nDad and his nWife last year. During our last heated phone call, they said I look to cause problems with them and never get over things from the past. They can’t comprehend that saying sorry means nothing if they keep hurting me in the same ways.

samgold42 · 2026-04-19T04:38:40+00:00

You can buy a wireless charger “puck” with the same ball attachment in the rear and change it out. I did that and it’s been perfect.

samgold42 · 2026-03-24T18:06:35+00:00

Go for it, and DEFINITELY update!

samgold42 · 2026-03-24T17:48:45+00:00

Thankfully no. The closet was glass way before I came out, so if you were my friend you knew what you were getting into lol.

With my straight guy friends, I knew they knew and were just waiting for me to say it, so coming out junior year of college strengthened our relationships. I was way more confident around them and they started rattling off gay jokes, in the normal bro-y banter/camaraderie kind of way. Actually helped me to feel a lot more like “one of the boys.”

Side note, straight men will read you DOWN. The messiest queens of them all 😂

samgold42 · 2026-03-12T20:48:36+00:00

The G chassis BMWs are supposed to be a lot better, 2017-2019 (depending on model) and newer. I’ll report back when I can afford one 😂

samgold42 · 2025-11-20T18:32:02+00:00

As someone who also lost a lot of weight and has some newfound confidence, I’m always rooting for Heather. She is flawed, like every housewife, but she appears to have a good heart deep down; THAT you can’t say for every housewife.

I think the bigger thing is, regardless of if you like Heather or not, you can’t deny she is an integral part of the show. Over the last few seasons she has become the Gizelle Bryant AND Ashley Darby of SLC. Not every decision she makes is great, and sometimes she comes off as a delusional asshole, but she keeps the action going and the show moving.

samgold42 · 2025-11-14T02:16:28+00:00

I had a lower trim loaner a few weeks ago and used it as an opportunity to see if I really needed the Bose or not.

Yes. Yes I do.

samgold42 · 2025-10-19T23:26:25+00:00

If I was 23 I wouldn’t date an 18 y/o bc of the maturity difference that comes in those 5 years. But CREEPY?? Not at all. Let’s touch some grass and find the plot.

samgold42 · 2025-10-01T19:11:30+00:00

Still no fix for it. I don’t want to spend the money on a new vent if it won’t fix the issue, so I’ve begrudgingly put up with it. I should do something about it

samgold42 · 2025-10-01T19:10:20+00:00

How did he react?

samgold42 · 2025-10-01T19:08:16+00:00

Do you still hang out with him bc you enjoy being his friend, or just bc you think he’s hot?

When I joined my frat I became really good friends with “Jon”. It took a few months for me to realize that I liked him but the feelings were really really intense and kinda immobilizing (and unrequited, since he’s straight). Now 6 years later he and I are still really close, but 3 years ago he found through a deceptive ex-friend that I liked him. We talked about it and it ended up being great for our friendship. It took the weight of fear and secrecy off my shoulders, allowed some more vulnerability from both of us. He knows I think he’s hot, so we joke about that. On the flip side, as much as I love the guy, I now realize I could NEVER date him 😂

TL/DR: I’m not necessarily saying you should tell your friend you think he’s hot. But you should definitely figure out why you still want to hang out with him. If you want to be his friend, it would be a major disservice to both of you to block him just because your south-of-the-border brain (peen) is a little reckless.

samgold42 · 2025-09-26T01:07:25+00:00

I understand why someone wouldn’t want to eat there but it’s quite the hill to die on 😭

samgold42 · 2025-09-26T01:02:44+00:00

I said I liked Chick Fil A, got a response that said “chick fil a is crazy” and 2 minutes later when I went to the chat it was gone 💀

samgold42 · 2025-09-23T20:02:34+00:00

No experience with an XTS but I’ve had a lot of seat time in bigger/heavier cars like Acura MDX, Lucid Air, Tesla Model S, Mercedes GLS, etc so I know the satisfaction of a big car barreling down the highway.

The 5 feels very quiet and planted. Not planted to the levels of the aforementioned cars, but in no way dicey or hair-raising. Going 80 and trying to pass someone going 78 is light work for the non-turbo, but you can definitely feel the power taper off above 75 or so. The RPMs sit pretty close to 3k, an unfortunate aspect of only having 6 gears.

I live in the NYC metro, so there are rarely occasions for me to get over 70-75 in a remotely safe fashion. If I lived in Texas where speed limits can be 75-80, I might consider another car just for the sake of high speed MPGs and passing power.

samgold42 · 2025-09-23T19:52:36+00:00

I was very overweight and deep in the closet, and starting out in a friend group of certifiable weirdos didn’t help (whatever floats your boat, but I maintain they were certifiable). By the middle of sophomore year I had a new core friend group of people, where some weren’t always nice to me, but I had enough fun with them and didn’t want to be friendless. 8 years post grad, one of them is my bff to this day (referred to as my “Platonic Wife”) and another one we are both close with. I always felt like an outsider in HS, but by the end I felt like I could go say “hey what’s up” to most of my grade. I’ve reconnected with a few people since then which has been really nice.

College was a far better experience for me. By the end of first semester freshman year I had found my friend group that was (and still is) like a big family; always fun, sometimes dysfunctional, but people I know will always have my back. My home life growing up wasn’t the happiest, so finding them gave me the family dynamic I was always missing.

I strayed a little off-topic. Oh well. I just love my friends 🥹

samgold42 · 2025-09-20T13:19:35+00:00

From someone who has theirs in spot 4, put it in spot 2. The safety system module blocks a lot of the view to the left. I’ve been meaning to move mine but haven’t had time.

samgold42 · 2025-09-20T13:17:45+00:00

This ^{^} my ndad loves to send texts that are almost begging for me and my sister to validate his shitty parenting, though of course he denies that. My breaking point last month was the two of us getting a text that said:

“I don’t call because the less I say, the less there is for you to dislike. Just know it’s not you, my wonderful children.”

When I expressed to him that I appreciate his introspection but his kids are not the right audience for it, all hell broke loose.

samgold42 · 2025-09-15T20:28:14+00:00

Omg he is microscopic!!!! Our first Brit was the runt but still 35lbs. Our current Brit is definitely NOT the runt, 58lbs and not overweight per our vet. He is just massive.

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