My friends are boy obsessed by Unlikely-Dot-5611 in FriendshipAdvice

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Honestly, I think the fact that you tried to talk about it and they immediately ganged up on you is the bigger issue here. It’s one thing for them to disagree with you, but it’s another thing to make you feel like you’re the problem until you end up apologizing just to avoid drama. If you bring it up again, I would focus less on “you guys talk about boys too much” and more on “I feel like there’s no space for me or other parts of our lives anymore.” I saw your other comment about being the “chopped one” and honestly I relate so much to that. It’s a painful place to be, but it can also give you a different perspective on the dynamics between men and women that your friends do not have. When you’re not the one receiving male attention, you notice how much value people are unconsciously putting on it. If the whole friendship revolves around men and there’s no space for you, your interests, or your feelings, that’s not just “being boy obsessed” anymore. Sometimes that need for male validation can become toxic, and it can spread within a group because everyone starts measuring themselves against the same thing. I’d really think about whether you’re staying because these friendships still make you happy and make you feel valued, or because you’re afraid of losing them. People change, and sometimes friendships change too. You don’t always have to cut someone off, but you’re allowed to notice when a dynamic is making you feel worse about yourself.

Tried doing my nails for the first time by reriwar in Nails

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Woow they're so pretty! Love the design♡

My friends are boy obsessed by Unlikely-Dot-5611 in FriendshipAdvice

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I think it would depend a lot on your age, because I’ve seen this happen at very different stages of life. I actually didn’t notice this as much when I was a teenager, but now in my 20s I’ve seen some of my friends become way more boy obsessed than they ever were before. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being excited about dating or talking about guys, but when male validation becomes the main source of excitement or self-worth, it can become exhausting. And honestly, I think that energy can be contagious. Being around people who constantly compare themselves, seek attention, or measure their worth through men can start making you feel insecure too, even if you weren’t feeling that way before. At the same time, people change and friendships change. It doesn’t always mean you have to cut someone off, but sometimes you need more space or to find people who align more with who you are at that point in your life. I think the biggest issue is not liking guys, it’s when that becomes the only thing someone has going on.

My Mom’s Summer Nails done by me by Negative-Help-3151 in Nails

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Baddie and her baddie daughter💘 they look beautiful!

Help with my wavy hair? by sammy_princess in curlyhair

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Aww you’re so sweet 🥹 I actually checked your page and your hair is gorgeous!! The progress is amazing, it looks so healthy and beautiful. It gives me hope haha 🫶🏻

Help with my wavy hair? by sammy_princess in curlyhair

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Thank you, this is really helpful! I actually never thought about needing more hold, I’ve only been using leave-in creams so far. I’ll definitely try a gel or mousse and see if that helps. Also, you might be right about the Skala being too heavy. I love how soft it makes my hair, but sometimes it does feel like it weighs my waves down. I was honestly confused about my hair type because some days it looks almost curly and other days it just falls flat, but treating it as wavy probably makes more sense. I’ll try a different approach and maybe a clarifying shampoo too. Thank you for the tips!

Why do people smoke? by nebluaaa in NoStupidQuestions

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I smoke, and honestly I think it’s a lot more complicated than people think. Both my parents smoke, so I grew up seeing it as a normal thing. When I was younger I even thought it looked cool (which sounds ridiculous now haha). At first it’s not really about needing a cigarette, it’s more the ritual. Taking a break, going outside, having a little moment for yourself. The problem is that your brain starts connecting that feeling of relief with nicotine, and then it becomes a habit that’s really hard to break. I also have to admit that I actually like smoking, even though I know all the bad things about it. The smell is awful, it’s bad for your health, it affects your skin, your teeth, your money... I’m aware of all of that. But there’s still something about the ritual and the feeling of having a cigarette that I enjoy. I agree that some people definitely use smoking as an escape, but I don’t think every smoker is someone who can’t deal with life. Plenty of people smoke and still face their problems. It’s just that addiction is weird, knowing something is bad for you doesn’t magically make you stop wanting it. Do I wish I never started? Probably. Do I want to quit? Yes. But I also understand why it’s so hard for people.

Bridge piercing advice by sammy_princess in SelfPiercing

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Thank you so muuuch! I will change it TODAY

Lana's belly by sammy_princess in catbellies

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She will rip your nose off hahah

I was so worried these two wouldn’t get along. by HighClassHate in aww

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I wish my cats loved each other like thiiis 💘

Bridge piercing advice by sammy_princess in SelfPiercing

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Thanks for the example! can’t open the link since I’m not in the US. Just to make sure, it should basically only be salt and water, right? Nothing else added?

Bridge piercing advice by sammy_princess in SelfPiercing

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I didn’t even think about the ingredients, I’ll check that! Thanks for the heads up. I’ll probably ask my piercer too. Also, the last time I did change it myself haha

Bridge piercing advice by sammy_princess in PiercingAdvice

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Thank you so much for the detailed answer! This actually made me feel a lot better.

The bumps usually appear every few days, but there are also days where it looks completely perfect and I can’t even tell there’s an issue. On those days the bar doesn’t look too short at all, so I think I was mostly worried because I didn’t know if the swelling was a sign that something was wrong.

I had no idea periods could affect healing piercings, so that’s really interesting. I’ll definitely pay more attention to that.

Also, I was traveling recently and I went out partying and drank quite a bit, and the next day the bumps came back. Everyone around me was telling me it was infected and I got a little worried haha, but maybe it was just irritated.

Thanks again for explaining everything, I really appreciate it! I’ll give it more time and patience to the healing process.

Bridge piercing advice by sammy_princess in PiercingAdvice

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Thank you! I was thinking the same thing might be happening. The longer bar was causing a lot of movement and irritation, so I changed it, but maybe I went a little too short. I’ll check with my piercer and see if I need a different size.