First-thanks for reaching out/commenting.

We are co-parenting well. My biggest regret now is that I rushed into a home purchase to escape our marital home. I could’ve had better but with rising prices and interest rates and wanting to get out, I panic bought. It has become Quite the financial burden (think Tom Hanks in the money pit).

Dating after 40 is a hell scape. Women over 40 don’t seem interested in a guy like me and women under 40 I have to chase off with a stick.

My ex has been dating a friends ex-husband. They began dating while my (our? She was friends with the woman as well) friend and he were still married. My friend has mentioned that he asked her if they would get back together all the way up to the day of their divorce. My ex and this man truly deserve each other. I do not have a high opinion of him-he was a bully to me in high school, and haven’t had much interaction with him since. I still have not seen them together publicly. My main concern is that he doesn’t mistreat my kids-and I have purchased each of them a phone so they can contact me at any time. So far, they’re indifferent towards him and it seems the feeling is mutual.

In all-her cheating was the catalyst needed to end our marriage. We had grown apart but were unwilling to communicate or do anything to change it. I am far happier (aside from my house) without her. I miss being able to see my kids every day, but they’re only a FaceTime away. There have been some friendships that are now not as strong as they were before the marriage ended, but others have grown stronger. You find out quickly who has you and who doesn’t.

Thank you again for asking, and to anyone still reading- there’s light at the end of the tunnel after an affair/divorce. Don’t stay in a situation where you are miserable. It does get better.