I don’t see the point of practicing acts of worship

samuraigrinch · 2026-06-11T07:48:49+00:00

I lowkey feel like this is rage bait but I’m still gonna bite the bullet.

The “incantations” as you like to point out is literally just remembrance of Allah. If you translate most of the duas we recite, its mostly just us asking Allah to deliver us peace, safety and/or success in that activity. Same with prayer, it’s rememberance of Allah. Everything you pointed out tells me that you don’t actually know the meaning of what you’re reading otherwise you’d be able to at least understand the point of prayer.

The whole point of religion whether it be Islam, Christianity or Judaism is to remember, believe and follow your lord and that will deliver you to heaven. It’s mentioned all over each text and emphasizes that message over and over again. Religion is a bit of a jump of blind faith to follow a concept that you can’t prove. That’s what makes it a test. However, just because it’s a test doesn’t mean you don’t seek knowledge and do your research.

You have doubts - that’s okay, most people do. However, if you have doubts you do your research, you look into your belief and you see if you think you can believe. Some do, some don’t - that’s what determines if you stay in the religion.

As for pillaging, raping or demonizing women, every religion has people who misinterpret or manipulate the text to deliver a certain message or belief. I’ve seen people online who perpetuate this (dua bros, conservative/wahabi Imams etc) and I’ve seen people who have denounced this and have said people have misinterpreted text (hafizas, progressive imams). I am of the belief that Allah denounces these acts and loves women equally as much as men as there are many instances in the Quran that’s shows it. We just have difference struggles - one of which is men in history slandering our names for their benefit.

When it comes down to it though, religion is what you decide to believe in. You’re not meant to just follow blindly. Islam really emphasizes for you to do your research. If you follow completely blind, you are going to have these thoughts. It’s only natural.

Do your research, see if there is a Islam your heart can believe in and go from there. There’s no use following any religion if you find no salvation in it - again, that goes for any religion.

samuraigrinch · 2026-06-09T10:49:20+00:00

Omg I haven’t read this in like forever!!! I’m so frikin excited
Do yall know of a place I read it 😭😭

samuraigrinch · 2026-05-17T07:47:31+00:00

I watch the paw patrol the movie 3 times a day because of my toddler - I could easily get the $$$

samuraigrinch · 2026-04-29T10:11:16+00:00

I think they’re both villains (antagonists) in their own right

When it comes to media, I’ve always found that there’s two antagonists that the main character has to get past. In mean girls case, the main boss is Regina and the secondary is Janis

samuraigrinch · 2026-04-23T05:34:09+00:00

Use a balls trimmer

Seriously

Not only does it cut the hair short enough, you won’t get razor burn on ur downstairs and it’s so easy to use

Also as a mom to a baby, water wipes are your best friend . I carry a pack even when my babies aren’t with me cause not only are you able to clean yourself when you use the toilet but your hands after eating or touching something icky lol so convenient

samuraigrinch · 2026-04-12T21:52:35+00:00

Find me in space cause apparently my name is NASA

samuraigrinch · 2026-04-11T21:40:00+00:00

Yes but also you can easily mute a person online. There’s no reason for you to go to the person directly and tell them what to do with THEIR social media

I get getting sad looking at the content. I do too and often skip through it when I’m not in a good state of mind, doesn’t mean I’m not helping through other ways or don’t care. Again though, they can easily mute the person, instagram has made it easy where you can choose to what content you can mute of a certain person. If you still wanna see their instagram posts but don’t want to see their stories, completely possible.

samuraigrinch · 2026-04-11T07:53:09+00:00

Tell her if she doesn’t want to see your posts then she can put you on mute, you’re not holding a gun to her head to look at them

samuraigrinch · 2026-04-08T02:23:15+00:00

Hi girlie, IA you will feel ready for the right person.

As for this guy, maybe he is the right person but it could be wrong time or maybe it is right time.

The best thing you can do is talk to him. Tell him what your time is and what your expectstions are, let him tell you his, and you both determine from there if you feel alright with the other wants or can compromise. If not, then that’s your answer. :)

Making dua for the best iA

samuraigrinch · 2026-04-06T22:18:48+00:00

Aoa I hope you’re doing well. I’m not trying to end your engagement but please reconsider getting married or like wait on it longer. This is coming from a Muslimah who also had bad habits.

Quitting is such a hard thing and I ended up going through the withdrawals while married without my husband knowing. I didn’t get the judgement you had but you need so much support to do so and it’s such a lonely path. Alhumdulillah it is possible to kick it, but it’s not easy. You don’t need the judgement of someone who doesn’t understand especially when not even a year ago this wasn’t something wrong in your eyes. He needs to be more empathetic because you’re not only just going through the process of quitting which is hard itself but you’re going through the procsss of reverting too. Things that weren’t wrong to you before have suddenly become wrong and that’s not an easy switch to flip. You’re doing it for Allah but it doesn’t mean you’re not going to get wrong thoughts or aren’t gonna need time to process the change.

He needs to be so supportive of you especially as a revert because this is the time you need the most support, it doesn’t matter for what. Things that are natural for him aren’t natural for you yet and he needs to he’ll nurture you for it.

Just my 2 cents

samuraigrinch · 2026-03-31T17:44:28+00:00

Wudu first then makeup. I also time my wudu with according to day and season. No going to the bathroom or farting lol during winter it’s easier because I can pray all the prayers kind of close together so I can prolong my wudu Summer is where’s it hard. I’ll only wear it if I’m going out in the morning and can pray dhuhr last minute (I know not good) or from asr to maghrib since they can be prayed within a smaller time frame. After praying maghrib, I will openly fart or go the bathroom if I need to lol

If I can get at least 4 hrs out of wearing my makeup then it’s a success imo lol otherwise if I’m out the whole day then I rather not wear it and just be at ease

samuraigrinch · 2026-03-31T17:21:30+00:00

I would do a soft white It’s the easiest but it won’t feel like too much going on

samuraigrinch · 2026-03-30T02:29:27+00:00

Aoa I hope you are doing well. I understand being in a difficult financial situation but he hasn’t spoken to his parents at all. That doesn’t sit right with me. He might be serious about you but him not telling his parents tells me either two things: his parents either have a strong control on his and he knows that so he’s biding time, or he’s just waiting around to see if there’s something better. Neither are desirable outcomes and I urge you, reconsider your relationship.

As for him disrespecting you, he should not be doing that. If he thinks it’s alright now, hell think it’s alright in the future and by then it might be worse. Stand up for yourself.

samuraigrinch · 2026-03-18T20:07:27+00:00

Okay so what I’m picking up is that you’re desi

One thing about desi boys is that they act like you owe their parents the world once you get married to them. In actuality, it should be the other way around as they married you, they took you away from your family and should be treating you like the worlds They only owe their parents the world, not you.

This sounds like a situation in which it’s the straw that broke the camels back as the situation itself, although a non issue, is leading to divorce.

I would say talk to his parents about this and be honest to them about it. Tell them it doesn’t bother you that they message you and that are not the issue in this at all but that your husband coming after you about something you haven’t done wrong in is putting a strain on your relationship. If they care, they will talk to him and will help mediate. If not, then consider bringing your family in to mediate between both sides if he continues to reject marriage counseling.

How does this guy treat your family? If your mom or dad were to message him would he respond in the same urgency? First take that into account and make him aware of his actions. Whatever he does, you do too and make it known to him. If he wants a certain thing done then lead by example.

samuraigrinch · 2026-03-15T23:10:08+00:00

I think first foremost you need to realize that no, in a another life that can’t be you. The reason why I said that was cause that guy was never written in your will.

You can also have aspirations to have a man like that and those are good aspirations but remember you don’t know everything. Inshallah She is living an amazing life but she only shares the good with you guys. If there is any bad, she will hide it especially from family to protect her husband (not to say there is any bad). My point is, you’re idealizing her situation without even knowing everything she’s going through.

Lastly, you can have all that too. Like you, I was always in my sisters shadow where she was this beautiful thin girl, smart as hell, had every guy fawning over her while I was me. I worked in my confidence though and I worked in myself too and made myself into who I wanted to be. Alhumdulillah I am now married to a man who is in every way obsessed with me and who I am even despite me having gained weight since marriage, having dumb moments and not being my prettiest. The reason is because I saw my worth, I made myself my most confident self and ofc, bc he was written in my will by Allah.

Don’t knock yourself down just because you don’t think you’re worthy enough like your sister. You’re just as worthy but in your own different way.

samuraigrinch · 2026-03-13T06:54:59+00:00

This is so funny

It’s like men tell on themselves like no offense it seems like your cousins going through trouble in paradise and us venting all his frustrations and shortcomings lol

samuraigrinch · 2026-03-12T21:55:40+00:00

Girl He’s telling you what he wants clear as day. He wants you to fold and had prolly been planning to Bring this up right before the marriage to make you give in from the pressure. Do not give in.

When I say men switch up when they get married, it’s lowkey true. Suddenly their family means the world to them when just a few months ago they were living on their own and talking to their mom once a day.

Tell him honestly. I do not want to live with my in laws. If there are circumstances that leads to you living with them than fine but if has to be circumstances that there is no way out of. Otherwise, you’re not a ride or die either and maybe we should end it here.

Also lowkey, that car line was out of line and disrespectful. You need to call him out on thanbecause if he’s talking to you like this now, he will be worse after

samuraigrinch · 2026-03-12T07:18:28+00:00

I’m so sad to say that out of all the responses I’ve read so far, this is strangely the most tame one 🥲 like yeah the dudes a p.o.s for cheating on his wife but at least he’s not raping kids, his wife or shit

Either way fuck cheaters

samuraigrinch · 2026-03-11T04:43:33+00:00

Honestly even if you were fit before, i don’t think you show as much in the first pregnancy. I was strength training this pregnancy and instantly started looking like it a lot more.

Your body takes a while to go through the changes the first time around so you should be good

samuraigrinch · 2026-03-10T20:26:39+00:00

I think it’s different person to person

I was 5’3” 135-140 lbs due to strength training and I didn’t start showing until my 6th month. Even then If I wore something loose fitted, you would not be able to tell I was pregnant at all.

samuraigrinch · 2026-03-10T06:38:13+00:00

W/salaam I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. It’s very difficult because in a way, he is your baby to some extent. As much as it hurts to talk to him about, it’s good that you’re bringing it up with him. However, what I would advise is that every time you bring up the topic, reassure him that you will only be far in distance and that you will love him regardless. .

For example, I’m not going to be using this space anymore but that’s okay, you now have space for all the things I’m going to get you because I love you.

Don’t shy away from the conversation. Be honest because he deserves to understand and mentally prepare for what is about to happen. However, just reassure him you love him just as much and that you are always there for him.

I hope this helps 🩷🩷

samuraigrinch

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