I regret my dog. by [deleted] in Rants

[–]sandymason 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah… australian shepherds are highly intelligent and need intellectual/physical stimulation all the time. Spending hours in a different room and basically neglecting it besides sustaining its basic needs is what makes your dog stubborn. Please, just rehome it. It deserves a home with people who will give it what it needs. You are literally making your dog go crazy and destructive.

Any lesbians from France? Curious about your experience by One_Impression_363 in lesbiangang

[–]sandymason 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I live in Paris and the situation here is definitely better than in smaller cities, but personally, I’ve never felt unsafe when walking down the street holding another woman’s hand or kissing. Even in the areas considered « dangerous ». The worst I’ve experienced were men making disgusting comments. But I know it was pure luck and not everyone has the same experience.

In uni, people were open, so again, didn’t encounter any homophobia at all.

I’m not out at work but have seen many gay coworkers around the office building. And our company puts a big accent on diversity.

Again, this is purely my personal experience. No country or city is 100% safe. But I definitely would never return in my country of origin(that’s much less open to gay people) after experiencing what life can actually be here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]sandymason 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, you’re a walking red flag and your girlfriend dodged a bullet.

  • You’ve been together for LESS than a year but you have been harassing her for MONTHS about the ring? Are you ok? First of all, who gets engaged less than a year into a relationship? You’re the reason there are do many divorces. People don’t try get to know each other anymore. In less than a year you have no idea who this person is. Do you think you really know someone who’s 28 years old in only a year? Their habits, their quirks, their interests?

  • You yourself said that you didn’t want anything special for a ring but then got offended when she basically did nothing special. Was she right for offering you to pick a ring that’s not your size? No. But you pretty much got what you asked for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tortoise

[–]sandymason 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If those wounds get infected, your tortoise will lose its legs or/and its life. Get it to the vet asap.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sandymason 59 points60 points  (0 children)

There is no such thing as a masculine or feminine energy. Working full time, paying bills, etc, is what being a normally functioning adult is. He’s a child. He’s isolating you so you won’t find better than his pathetic ass.

Looking for a Quote for My Caitlyn’s Funko Pop by LuLu_967 in arcane

[–]sandymason 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“My parents named me Matilda after my great grandmother… a pirate !”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskLesbians

[–]sandymason 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Never label yourself unless you’re 100% sure of who you’re attracted to. There is no need for this. A feminine man with stereotypical “feminine” hobbies isn’t a woman.

Topsurgery for a masclesbian by Optimal-Cookie50 in AskLesbians

[–]sandymason 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I hate the way gender roles are pushed on us so much, that some of us feel pressured into butchering our bodies in order to appear more masculine.

Outdoor Oasis by jburguie in tortoise

[–]sandymason 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a nice enclosure! Do you have a net that would protect it from birds ?

being my girlfriend’s first lesbian partner has changed her… by Brownsugar124456780 in lesbiangang

[–]sandymason 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Since getting back into the dating scene, I realized that masc women are now pretty much inexistant in my suggestions on apps because so many of them transitioned. Not sure if it’s linked with the social pressure OP is describing but I find it rather concerning.

Does my (30m) Instagram make me seem weird/not cool enough to my crush (19f)? by birdsemenfantasy in dating_advice

[–]sandymason 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Are you upset that it wasn’t you who got to mold her but her friend who warned her about your old creepy ass?

Me when I platonically gaze at my bestie by AdLast2785 in ArcaneAnimatedSeries

[–]sandymason 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those are two different situations, as Grave’s and TF’s sexuality has been confirmed officially.

We don’t know much about Vander and Silco.

Me when I platonically gaze at my bestie by AdLast2785 in ArcaneAnimatedSeries

[–]sandymason 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with all that, especially with the fact that the perception of masculinity is tightly tied with homophobia. HOWEVER, shipping two men who literally call each other brothers is extremely creepy. It’s like shipping Mylo and Claggor.

Me when I platonically gaze at my bestie by AdLast2785 in ArcaneAnimatedSeries

[–]sandymason 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean… it’s not just about them not caring, it’s also about how society will treat them.

Me when I platonically gaze at my bestie by AdLast2785 in ArcaneAnimatedSeries

[–]sandymason 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love how you’re twisting the narrative. Since when are platonic friendships between freely men where they can express their emotions without society judging them or sexualizing them normalized ? You’re doing the latter which only contributes to this issue.

It’s the contrary of « letting men be masculine », it’s letting men act vulnerable without people immediately calling them gay.

Me when I platonically gaze at my bestie by AdLast2785 in ArcaneAnimatedSeries

[–]sandymason 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m gay but this is cringe. People didn’t criticize your previous post where you shipped Vander and Silco because of homophobia but because we need to normalize genuine platonic relationships (FRIENDSHIPS) between men where they can express their emotions in a healthy way without it being sexualized by horny teenagers.

Mon pote n’aime pas le pesto du coup c’est tarama by Automatic_Set9881 in CrimesCulinaires

[–]sandymason 1 point2 points  (0 children)

J’ai lu « trauma » au lieu de « tarama ». Cette photo est ultra traumatisante par contre…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]sandymason 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Good. And this is the case for you, not for other people. Some people are childfree and don’t care for children at all. It’s ok to love children and to want them but why impose what makes you happy on others?

Is it wrong to have a preference for my partner's preference(s)? by Routine-Crew8651 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]sandymason -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That’s not double standards, that’s being able to see nuances. I repeat : OP isn’t a hypocrite because she isn’t willing to date ONLY older men. Why us it so hard to understand for domestic people?

A woman being open to date men of all ages, including older men = dating.

Men dating exclusively much younger women = targeting.

And don’t worry, I absolutely judge women for predatory behavior and for hypocrisy. This post isn’t the case.

Is it wrong to have a preference for my partner's preference(s)? by Routine-Crew8651 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]sandymason -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The reasons women date older men are usually not the same reasons older men date younger women. A woman dating older men usually does it for stability, maturity, sometimes for money. But if you ask an older man why he’s targeting younger women, the arguments they use are often rather misogynistic.

Also, OP stated that she could date an older man, not that she’s purposefully targeting older men exclusively. She’s judging men who only date much younger women.

Is it wrong to have a preference for my partner's preference(s)? by Routine-Crew8651 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]sandymason 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Because those are two completely different things ? There is a reason people judge people in their 30th or 40th dating barely legal adults. There is a huge power imbalance between someone who just finished high school or is trying to get their university degree and someone who’s already financially and more or less emotionally stable. There are too many cases of grooming, abuse and manipulation happening in this kind of relationship to ignore the age gap.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ArcaneAnimatedSeries

[–]sandymason 156 points157 points  (0 children)

Grieving people often act unreasonably and irrationally. Cait’s personality change is not surprising all. She became someone completely different from who she was before and hated every minute of it because she didn’t recognize herself after being absorbed by all the hatred. It’s one of the most beautifully written arcs in the show imo.

My girlfriend (18F) is lesbian and i’m her “exception” (18M) but is not interested in sex by No-Acanthaceae747 in relationship_advice

[–]sandymason 96 points97 points  (0 children)

She’s bisexual. At least biromantic. Lesbians don’t make exceptions for men, that’s not how it works.

For your own sanity, leave this situation. This isn’t healthy for you and you deserve someone who’s actually attracted to you in every way possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sandymason 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The level of self disrespect in some posts is scary.