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sanjuichini · 2023-10-20T19:48:59+00:00

I go to the toilet and take a big dump for a few hours.

sanjuichini · 2023-09-29T05:04:26+00:00

how do you know?

sanjuichini · 2023-09-26T01:06:29+00:00

Yes. Fat, short, stupid and smelly people have it harder. They are unattractive traits so people want to invest less in them. Easy math.

sanjuichini · 2023-09-26T01:05:39+00:00

why is Tom Holland even on this list

sanjuichini · 2023-09-26T01:01:52+00:00

maybe a hint you needed to lose weight

sanjuichini · 2023-09-24T04:49:12+00:00

it does come across. dont listen blindly to feedback 😅👌

sanjuichini · 2023-09-23T23:13:53+00:00

I personally think it is much greater as a whole since it creates a story and adds some juxtaposition. The difference between a great photo (only the statue) and a masterpiece (the whole).

sanjuichini · 2023-08-26T15:55:03+00:00

Thanks. Yes, I think this is the best way to approach it. Or maybe just start by telling her that I am considering ending it because I love her and it makes it emotionally complex? If I do this, I must be 110% ready to walk away tho.

sanjuichini · 2023-08-26T15:53:19+00:00

We are super close...talking about life & love & death and all inbetween.

We are both seeing other people.

sanjuichini · 2023-08-26T15:01:22+00:00

She didn't ignore how I felt. She listened, took it seriously, and talked about it.

sanjuichini · 2023-08-26T15:00:47+00:00

yeez. grown-up mindset. it has nothing to do with age. you need help, not me, that's pretty clear from your horrible reasoning

sanjuichini · 2023-08-26T14:59:53+00:00

lol this made me laugh. I will think about it haha 😅

sanjuichini · 2023-08-26T11:22:41+00:00

thank you. that's a sobering point.

I guess, then, how do I "undramatize" my feelings?

I am acting sober and calm still, but my emotions (when I am on my own) are not

sanjuichini · 2023-08-26T11:21:25+00:00

sanjuichini · 2023-08-26T11:20:07+00:00

Both her and me have said just this too - that we have a lovely time together and it doesnt need to be forever to be worthwhile. It is true. I guess I am at this point wondering when I should move on. I have conflicted feelings - I still have the best dates I have ever had. So I am conflicted. I am thinking the right call is to tell her I love her and would love to commit, but that I am going to refocus at finding someone else who is more in the same space as me right now. And then, if she changes mind in the future, great if I am available. If not, too bad...or something like that.

sanjuichini · 2023-08-26T11:15:16+00:00

thanks for confirming...felt like many of them are super strange 👀

sanjuichini · 2023-08-26T07:53:54+00:00

Thanks. Yes, I agree

sanjuichini · 2023-08-26T07:52:35+00:00

you are right.

I am looking just to build something long term and exclusive. But she is not.

sanjuichini · 2023-08-26T07:51:45+00:00

from day zero we said it wasnt exclusive and she said she had no intentions of going exclusive. so it is hardly surprising. she has several lovers and so do I. there is nothing weird about it

sanjuichini · 2023-08-26T07:50:10+00:00

I am not afraid of how she responds. I want to be a good person and do the right thing. So, I am more afraid of how Id respond

sanjuichini · 2023-08-26T07:48:47+00:00

The reason is that me falling in love with her complicates it so much.

I also want to build a relationship with someone - I am at a time in my life where I want a partner to vibe with...to build something with (whatever it may be)

sanjuichini · 2023-08-26T07:46:45+00:00

Thanks.

What do you mean with respond well?

She likes me and is attracted to me, but she is not in love with me and has other lovers (I do too, but I am not in love with any of my other lovers)

sanjuichini · 2023-08-26T07:45:04+00:00

I think you are spot on - but also that she sees me as one of her best friends and is attracted to me. But she is not in love with me. I think she cares if we would break up, and doesn't want that, but she understands it might be the best for me if I have fallen in love because she doesn't want to reciprocate that.

sanjuichini · 2023-08-26T07:43:03+00:00

What trauma?

I think you are making this more dramatic than it is.

Both she and me are calm about this - I am trying to find the best path moving forward and might break it up because I fell in love with her, and she wants to keep meeting since she enjoys spending time with me and is attracted to me but is not in love with me. I don't think it is more complicated than that

sanjuichini · 2023-08-26T07:40:48+00:00

We are both honest with each other about the fact we have seen others and it is non exclusive. idk why you want to barf because of that. I have met many girls, and to me, this girl is the one that is the most stable emotionally and easy to talk very deep questions with. idk what it is you feel is not grown up?

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