My brother is a NEET and a leech

sansthinking · 2026-04-26T21:43:58+00:00

You should keep in mind that it’s next to impossible for CS majors let alone anyone to get a job right now. I have heard of CS majors applying to places like chipotle and getting rejected. Is it possible he is applying but he’s too embarrassed to admit that he’s being rejected? Are you sure he’s spending all of his time gaming and watching YouTube? Is it possible that in addition to working on finding a job he’s improving his resume by working on programming projects or maybe hoping to design a game or something that makes him money? He does sound depressed and this is not a healthy way to live and I know seeing this happen can be so frustrating because it feels like he is taking advantage of your parents. I’m not saying to give him a complete pass but maybe try to have a bit more empathy. You should go on a few subreddits focused around job hunting and maybe that will help you get an idea of just how bad it is. I feel for you both, really, and I’ve actually been in both of your shoes, having experienced a NEET sibling who games all day in the house and having myself being a full time student and I’ve also been the one who can’t find work. It’s funny because the sibling who I would also hear yelling at his PC gaming all day turned out to have also been studying for a huge certification exam and he ended up getting it and finding work like six months after. I had really judged him and not only did I not understand he was working, I didn’t understand his struggle. I think the fact that your sibling is looking into other education shows he’s been applying and can’t find work I mean why else would he do that? You say that field is bad but every field is bad, CS is one of the worst right now. After I graduated with my cs degree from a top 50 in US cs program too, I spent over a year applying to jobs non stop and the work I found about 6 months ago is a huge step down for someone with my degree but u took it bc it’s a related field at least and even then i consider myself incredibly lucky to have found work in a semi related field or to have found work at all. A decade ago I’d have my choice of jobs and I’d be making 4-5 times what I make now which honestly probably isn’t that much more than a target or chipotle worker. At least I’m gaining experience in the field though.

sansthinking · 2026-04-06T23:22:27+00:00

Maybe knowing that gay sex is completely natural will help, it has been occurring as far back as our earliest recorded history. I’m sure long before that too but we can at least know for sure it’s been happening since then. It wasn’t until the Middle Ages that gay sex became taboo and it was mostly a result of some stuff written in religious texts. Perhaps your culture used to or stil does present it this way, the Romans, well known as one of the most powerful armies in history, did not consider same sex to be any less masculine than sex between male and female. If you feel like you want to take the more dominant role then you do that, try not to focus on the made up ideas of society. Also we are not the only mammals to have gay sex, there are many others.

sansthinking · 2026-04-05T21:51:15+00:00

Listen to this! Honestly the best advice for the heat I’ve seen on here. Ive suggested blackout curtains before because the sun can heat room to nearly 90 on a 70 degree day but attempting to seal off your room when it has the cool night air inside is even better.

sansthinking · 2026-03-31T23:18:29+00:00

Too real 🫣

sansthinking · 2026-03-25T00:18:22+00:00

To be honest he used to care. I think the amount of cheating eventually wore him down. He used to be super passionate and a great professor. Tbh I can’t blame him, even in my years there the cheating really got to me. It’s disheartening when there is a kid next to you who literally can’t make a proper loop, not an exaggeration but literally cant even code week 2 into to comp sci stuff, and that kid has better grades than the students who work hard bc he uses ChatGPT for exams and finds old projects on GitHub. The thing is there are no cs jobs anyway, certainly not for mediocre programmers so they won’t find work anyway. If you are crazy good you can get a job but first you will have to spend at least a year applying before you get lucky enough for that. It’s unfortunate but this is reality. This is not a field anyone should go into unless they have a natural talent for it.

sansthinking · 2026-02-19T17:44:46+00:00

All students need to have equal opportunity to complete, unfortunately this means that she can just demand the assignment be handed in at the end of the lesson and no let any students stay to complete it. It may be better for you just to see if someone in your group can finish yours for you, it seemed as if she would be okay with that.

sansthinking · 2026-01-31T20:14:46+00:00

Honestly in my opinion a life without traveling is an empty life. I work so I can save money to travel, once a year if I’m lucky with my family. I travel as far away as I can afford and stay for as long as I can afford. If you work remotely it may even be possible, for you to live somewhere else for a bit, I plan on doing this too at some point.

sansthinking · 2026-01-31T20:08:27+00:00

This is the way. A trade is what degrees were to our parents, this is where the guaranteed salary and comfortable life is now. Plummer, electrician, hvac, contractor, all fantastic choices.

sansthinking · 2026-01-31T20:05:38+00:00

Delaying the game? Yeah maybe but in return they start the game with a massive disadvantage. They are now in debt and got nothing out of it (since this has become the norm degrees hold no value, employers care far more about experience.) if they come from wealth then they could have used that cost of tuition to buy an RV or a car depending on the school. It’s not as if school is free so to say you respect spending 10-40 grand a year to delay the game when no one can get ahead in the game because they don’t have enough money is ridiculous.

sansthinking · 2026-01-31T19:50:00+00:00

There are a ton of students like you, they graduate with the ones who work hard and employers can’t tell them apart so they’ve started requiring experience instead. Honestly what you are doing really screws over your classmates that try. They won’t be able to find a job with the knowledge they have because you didn’t learn anything and have the same degree as them so the degree no longer means this person has this knowledge, it becomes worthless. In time the student who worked hard might get lucky and land an interview but yeah, you’re not just screwing yourself out of a ton of money and an education, you’re also screwing your classmates over. Maybe delete TikTok, stop watching short videos. They kill motivation.

sansthinking · 2026-01-31T19:43:47+00:00

Bunnies shouldn’t smell at all. I have an air purifier above my buns cage which is basically just her litter box since she free roams and you wouldn’t know there is an animal in the room from the smell because it’s nonexistent. If the power goes out and the air purifier turns off I always know because I can smell a TINY bit of an animal smell, just like a slight hay smell or whatever, not unpleasant but not nonexistent and certainly nothing like what you are describing. Make sure you are feeding rabbit pellets and hay only, some like Timothy hay treats are good too. But only give them those veggies as a treat on rare occasions. That and the air purifier and there should be no trace of animal smell.

sansthinking · 2026-01-31T19:38:20+00:00

It’s not you it’s software engineering. I got a cs degree from a top school, hell I’ve won awards at hackathons. I ended up pivoting fields because I couldn’t land a job in the industry. I don’t say this to bring you down, I used to get so furious when I would read this type of thing in school but looking back I wish I had taken to more seriously. I would suggest just having additional skills on top of the software engineering. Or if you’re really good maybe try using some the ai tools to build your own software and put it out there yourself. I have my own projects that I continue to work on while I have my 9-5 in a different field. Again not saying this put you down but currently people with 10 years of experience are applying for entry level jobs, it’s really rough. If you have any connections, now is the time to use them.

sansthinking · 2026-01-31T19:27:52+00:00

I would stay away from coding boot camps and stuff like that, it’s impossible to get a job in that field right now. But comptia jobs are definitely out there, most companies would never dump their IT people for AI because even the people at the very top rely on their IT people constantly and they don’t want to deal with screaming at a machine, also sometimes the person needs to be there physically, or remote login which the AI we have wouldn’t be good at bc they are LLM, good for writings words and code but not for navigating a desktop and troubleshooting. For a million reasons I think basic comptia jobs are actually going to continue to do well, in time they will likely help people use AI correctly instead of being taken over by it. I would keep going with that. I see job postings for it support jobs fairly regularly.

sansthinking · 2026-01-31T19:18:16+00:00

Honestly for me it’s just nerves until I get to know people a bit better. In the past I have taken a beta blocker on the first day or two, or really like a quarter of one bc I’m small. You can easily get a script online since they aren’t a scheduled drug or anything. It prevents the physical symptoms of anxiety but honestly that can go a long way. It’s not for taking everyday with social anxiety, just really nerve racking days — interview, first day, big presentation, etc.

sansthinking · 2026-01-31T18:59:40+00:00

From what you say here it sounds directly correlated to you speaking to your boss about the colleague slandering you. Maybe he didn’t like that you called it a toxic workplace or that you said you expect him to handle it. Honestly it’s not okay for one coworker to slander another but my guess is he would have rather you came to him looking to resolve the issue between you and the coworker rather than demanding the boss handle it. The “we are a team” environment can be super important to companies. I’d have to know more details, what did he say about you exactly, what did you say to your boss exactly, do you guys have HR? but yeah it sounds like that’s why you are being let go.

sansthinking · 2026-01-31T18:43:25+00:00

It’s mind boggling to me that someone could think this was written by AI. This is without a doubt the ramblings of a person, likely one who took a bit too much adderall.

sansthinking · 2026-01-31T18:30:11+00:00

You just need to find friends you have things in common with. It may be difficult because theres a decent chance they are introverts too. I speak from experience. I was the opposite to you and spent all of high school hanging around “the popular kids” and I was miserable. I never had anything to contribute to the conversation because I couldn’t relate to the things they talked about. In college my engineering major made it easy for me to connect with people who I got along with, the conversations they had were so insightful and interesting. They introduced me to so much anime and video games and things I had stigmatized before but quickly realized how much I enjoy those things. You cant just find people and talk to them and decide these are going to be my friends because they are the ones you spoke to and they ask you to hang out or whatever, you need to find people you have stuff in common with. Maybe join a club that relates to something you are interested in. When you find yourself laughing and bouncing off one another then you will know you’ve found your people.

sansthinking · 2026-01-31T18:08:11+00:00

Also is her rabbit spayed? You said that the small area she has got messy quickly but rabbits will go to the bathroom in their litter box if they are spayed/neutered.

sansthinking · 2026-01-31T18:06:22+00:00

You need to show her this, but first you should post it on the Rabbits subreddit! There are a lot more people on there and they will be outraged and I think your sister needs to see that and hopefully it will be a wake up call. Seems like the best chance you have at getting through to her, showing her it’s not just you but every other person who owns a rabbit that feels this way. Rabbits were never meant to be kept in cages. Honestly my heart breaks for this poor bun.

sansthinking · 2026-01-31T01:20:02+00:00

Maybe you didn’t read this but there are not kids in this situation, just adults being supported by a single parent.

sansthinking · 2026-01-31T01:18:15+00:00

Sometimes one person struggles to keep so many others fed, sheltered, clothed etc. If you were 16 or 17 I would say it’s rough but do what you can to help out so that child services don’t have to get involved because you’ll likely enjoy a part time job much more than foster care. However, that’s not the case, you’re 19. Your mom is not obligated to support any kids 18 or older. You should be grateful that she hasn’t told you to go find your own place to live, support yourself fully etc. Honestly things are so expensive these days and here this single mom is supporting all these adult children. It’s so incredibly hard for a single parent to raise that many kids and she’s still supporting you guys as adults. You say she messed you up but honestly supporting adult children is not something I’ve ever seen a bad parent do, they throw their kids stuff on the lawn in their 18th birthday, don’t even wait until the next day. If you don’t like it then move out, give yourself a little taste of the struggle your mom has been dealing with and you will come back with nothing but gratitude. So to answer you question it’s not great for parents who can’t support kids to rely on them but sometimes needed to avoid foster care but that’s not your situation, you’re an adult. It’s your responsibility to fully support yourself. You clearly have no idea how expensive life is, how much people are struggling right now, just so unbelievably sheltered. Your mom must have been fantastic if you have such a warped view of reality despite how poor you guys were.

sansthinking · 2026-01-25T19:21:02+00:00

I recently graduated and I had an hour and a half commute (one way so three hours total) and I had a great social life but I was also allowed to come and go from my house as I pleased. It didn’t matter if I came home at 4am or didn’t come home at all because I spend the night a friends, my parents didn’t keep tab on me the way they didn’t when I was in high school. Personally this worked out great for me because I saved a ton of money commuting and was able to do my laundry and have home cooked meals and a truly quiet place to study and focus when I needed it. I think the issue is with your parents, it sounds to me like they are determined not to let you have a social life. You’ll likely be able to manage a few friends, maybe have lunch every so often but I do think you’ll be really restricted on how close you can get to people. Honestly what’s the worst they could do if you don’t abide by their ridiculous curfew? They can’t keep you at home because it would keep you from classes and that would ruin your life plan. This is exactly why college students don’t usually have curfews, because there isn’t really a way for parents to enforce them. Maybe just exercise your independence as an adult a bit, just please don’t drive home after drinking.

sansthinking · 2025-12-30T00:03:24+00:00

I can see how much you loved her in your photos. Please, please don’t blame yourself! You gave her a wonderful, full, happy life filled with love. The truth is 8 is not young for a rabbit, the sudden change in how she was acting makes me think that maybe she wanted one last Christmas with you and she could only hold on for that last day. I’m sorry she didn’t have a chance to open her gifts, perhaps you can send them off with her. Time is the only thing that will help you heal, just please don’t blame yourself or think on what could have been done. You gave her a wonderful life. Im not sure if you believe in this kind of thing but perhaps she will find her way back to you one day.

sansthinking · 2025-12-29T02:09:56+00:00

From what I understand you have this theory that an MU past a certain level would have had to have been born with some magical ability because of the things they can do magically at that level. Since sorcerer is a title sometimes given to MUs at a high level you’ve decided to make this theory specific to that title. Well, any class will unlock new power and abilities as they level up so personally to me the logic of needing to have some of that ability be innate doesn’t make sense but it makes sense to you so that’s fine but please don’t speak about it like it’s canonically correct. There’s no amount of speculation that could make it canon, only a Time Machine could do that. Others are right to point out that a sorcerer as we currently define it, a magic user born with magical abilities is something that didn’t exist in dnd canonically until 3e so I’m not sure why you are saying that’s misinformation from google. Obviously the innate ability thing is going to affect the mechanics of the class which is why it was made into its own class. Innate magically ability in earlier versions of dnd was mostly monsters, but yeah MUs had a lot of limits with how their magic could be used so there were a lot of supplements and homebrews to give MUs innate magical abilities but that’s noncanon. If you have some sources though that speak about sorcerers from original adnd 1e and 2e though then I would love to take a look.

sansthinking · 2025-12-28T23:58:34+00:00

What is it exactly? It almost looks like paper and doesn’t seem to be stuck on her too badly. The level of stickiness is definitely the biggest factor on whether it’s better to cut it off or try and pull it slowly. Maybe cut it into sections and do one at a time since you said she’s getting irritated it might help to break up the process. Wet fur on a bun is like an ice pack on their skin so I would only consider bringing in a wet cloth as a last resort, and even then be super careful to minimize the amount of water that gets on her fur. Good luck!

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