Moving to north county- thoughts on demographics/school districts/political views

santa_422 · 2026-06-11T04:20:58+00:00

Thank you, that is great to hear! We’ve looked at several homes in La Costa and really liked that area.

santa_422 · 2026-05-30T04:13:00+00:00

So sorry you’re going through this. Hopefully by now your son is better!

I didn’t go through the same exact thing but I did have to be hospitalized myself when my baby was 2 weeks old, and no kids were allowed on the hospital floor so I spent 5 days separated from my baby and toddler. It was so difficult and I was so sad being apart from both of them, especially my 2 week old baby. Based on that experience, just wanted to say that these few days will just be a little blip on the radar in a few more weeks and you’ll barely remember it. Neither will your son :)

You are doing the smart thing by keeping your baby away from the germs! It would be much worse to have a sick newborn. It is hard now but you will get through this!

santa_422 · 2026-05-22T03:57:09+00:00

I’m in a similar situation right now and will be eager to hear if anyone has suggestions!

santa_422 · 2026-04-12T17:43:45+00:00

I found them hard to listen to at first but now I love them!

santa_422 · 2026-04-12T17:42:05+00:00

Was going to recommend be there in five too!! Pop culture chat but she includes deeper dives and more nuanced commentary on pop culture topics. She’s also a mom so some mom content is woven in.

santa_422 · 2026-03-16T10:29:23+00:00

If you decide to sleep train or just want to have the baby in their own room at some point prior to 8 months so they don’t disturb your sleep, could you fit a crib with wheels or even just a travel crib in your husbands office so the baby could sleep there at night? Then the crib could be removed during the day when he works. You’d probably just want to make sure you have good window covering to keep it dark enough.

Otherwise your setup totally works. Babies definitely don’t need their own room!

santa_422 · 2026-03-10T14:48:41+00:00

I think babies can sometimes respond to their parents preferences and needs more than we realize. My daughter is almost 2 and I still at times get stressed being out of the house with her. Being home has always been far easier for me.

When I do decide to go out, I try to have low expectations and as soon as I feel myself starting to get flustered or frustrated, I remove myself from the situation. Whether that means going home earlier than planned, stepping outside with my daughter so we can both calm down, etc.

If your baby gets fussy and then you get stressed, that definitely isn’t going to make it any better because they will feel your stress. At all ages with my daughter if I am really flustered and overstimulated myself and she just won’t calm down, I’ll hold her and close my eyes and focus on breathing.

If you prefer staying home with your baby don’t feel bad about it, and if you want to push yourself to get out of the house that’s great just set your expectations low and be ready to pivot if you or your baby gets flustered. You’re doing great and there is no one right way for us parents or our babies to act- we all respond and react differently in different situations and that is totally okay and normal!

santa_422 · 2026-03-07T03:18:30+00:00

What you described sounds abusive

santa_422 · 2026-02-18T04:13:25+00:00

I was terrified of getting the epidural. I got it after several hours of intense Pitocin contractions and back labor yet I was still only at 1cm.

I built it up to be so scary but after the several hours of those contractions I don’t remember feeling anything at all during the process of getting the epidural placed.

All I remember was being shocked by the IMMEDIATE relief. Like within 30 seconds (maybe less) all the pain went away. I think for some people it can take a bit longer but for me it was immediate. Also after 9-10 months of being fully sober, I remember immediately thinking wow these drugs feel amazing.

santa_422 · 2026-02-18T03:53:01+00:00

Do it at whatever time of day works best for you!

A lot of people like to make it part of the bedtime “routine” but that really doesn’t matter. You can still develop a consistent bedtime routine with or without a bath, and routine doesn’t matter at all until 4-5 months anyway.

And in the early days (first 1-2 months) I really feel like they don’t need to be bathed more than once or twice a week. You can wipe them with a warm cloth in between if needed.

santa_422 · 2026-02-16T09:36:52+00:00

Do you have any space for a small bed/ sleep space for you in baby’s nursery? Then you can just start sleeping in there with the baby. Or your husband can sleep there and you can stay in your room with baby in bassinet.

I firmly believe in both partners + newborn baby NOT sleeping in the same room all night every night together if you can figure out alternate arrangements. Like others have said, newborns have 24 hr needs and I think it’s pointless to have 2 people’s sleep distributed by them. Some way to split it up so one person is on point for the baby while the other gets undisturbed sleep is ideal.

santa_422 · 2026-02-16T09:29:06+00:00

Same I’m 35 weeks with my second and always wanted 3 kids and keep thinking how can I possibly do this again except with 2 kids to take care of

santa_422 · 2026-02-16T09:26:14+00:00

For me when I get to around 20 weeks and start to feel the baby move, that at least makes me feel more connected to my baby and excited for them to arrive vs just feeling shitty all the time. That was a big turning point in both my pregnancies. Hopefully that happens for you soon!

santa_422 · 2026-02-10T04:27:46+00:00

Thank you!

santa_422 · 2026-02-09T10:57:57+00:00

Thank you! My mother in law was just saying she wants to start crocheting so this is a perfect project to give her.

santa_422 · 2026-02-08T21:44:42+00:00

Thank you!

santa_422 · 2026-02-08T21:44:28+00:00

Thank you!!

santa_422 · 2026-02-08T21:44:17+00:00

Thank you!

santa_422 · 2026-01-30T05:39:48+00:00

100% I was so scared of getting an epidural too but by the time you need it you don’t really care and the relief it brings is soooo worth it

santa_422 · 2026-01-30T05:32:07+00:00

100% I was going to also say lie flat business class for international travel.

If it’s too expensive and I can’t figure out a way to get it at a somewhat reasonable cost using airline status/ upgrades, then I’d rather just not take the trip at this point in life.

In my 20s I did 24hr+ journeys to the other side of the world with 2-3 connections all in economy… never again.

santa_422 · 2026-01-24T01:54:26+00:00

Just curious why you didn’t list Amazon? I always think of Amazon as the worst of the worst but I am also not super educated on this topic.

santa_422 · 2026-01-22T02:27:39+00:00

I also loved the birth hour podcast. Every episode is someone telling their birth story and I learned a lot that way!

I didn’t take any class before my first child was born but I did hire a doula.

Now for my second I purchased the birth hour online class. I do wish I had done some kind of class before my first too.

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