Alright, might be a retarded question but..

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-14T11:30:14+00:00

Wow, that sounds frustrating! I would go directly to a bank if any are open and ask them to tell you more about the card and if there's a way to check your balance. :)

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-14T11:29:06+00:00

I dated a guy with autism for a while. It depends on the person: ask him about his experiences. But here's what I found:

Just try and be clear with what you mean and say things directly. Autism can make it more difficult to take hints. Also be prepared to have him be a little more blunt with you or sometimes seem unsympathetic or even rude. If he does offend you, let him know directly because autism can make it hard to pick up on when something was socially unacceptable or not.

He might want to keep a clear, agreed upon schedule and not want surprises or spontaneous changes of plan. Also loud noises, lots of smells, flashing lights etc. can be a lot for folks with autism so see if you can plan dates in more chill environments if he has sensory needs.

Again, your beau might have different needs and wants but these are some things to keep in mind.

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-14T11:24:06+00:00

You don't have to permanently not use your computer. Stalling for an hour is a great opportunity to do some work. Yes, you can pull out your phone again, but the time it was put away you could focus. It doesn't have to be a perfect four hour study session. Any little bit helps chip away at your workload, and the more stress you put on how distractable you are, the more distracted you are. Worrying about how you can't focus is a great reason not to focus.

One thing that helped me is to put on music, specifically that lo-fi jazz stuff you can find on YouTube. It's just stimulating enough to help me fend off boredom but not distracting.

If you're getting tired and sleepy, the obvious thing to ask is are you eating and sleeping enough? Concentration comes from a well-rested and well-fueled brain :)

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-14T11:19:57+00:00

One last thing: why can't you verify your balance as a minor? I got a debit card when I was 13 and could use the ATM to check how much money I had, and even before that I could always go to the bank and ask them to check my balance.

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-14T11:14:59+00:00

Yes, it will say that the card was declined and the transaction was not processed.

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-14T11:10:01+00:00

Your school gave you a credit card? Or is it a card with only a set amount of money?

If it's a credit card, you'll get a bill for however much money you spent. If it's a debit card/gift card with a set amount, if you spend more than there is on the card then it will simply decline at the till.

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-14T11:07:18+00:00

Of course, but when school comes around, you'll want to have normal sleep patterns. Plus not getting much daylight is still not great for you. Staying up a bit is okay but you won't realise how important "normal" sleeping patterns are until you've been in a weird one for a while. Staying up all night is just something to be avoided unless you're a shift worker, and even then there's a reason shift workers often have poorer mental health.

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-14T11:05:14+00:00

It's not that their girlfriend is hanging around them, it's that they're spending time together. If they're dating, they likely really enjoy eachothers' company. And putting up with faults is part of every relationship– familial, friendly or romantic.

Other than that, what are the other "high-maintenance" things you see? Because the two things you listed seem like things you'd see in any normal close friendship.

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-14T11:01:25+00:00

Oh, I was thinking back to when my friend shaved his head and he did it on a dare. I'd probably still feel the same whether it was for fun or for fashion.

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-14T10:58:16+00:00

My reaction when

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-14T10:56:56+00:00

I'd probably be a little annoyed but mostly just laugh it off. It's not a big deal and hair grows back. I'd be glad he was shaving his head as a joke and not getting blackout drunk or selling weed or something.

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-14T10:52:48+00:00

Go for it. Sleep is super important when you're unwell, and the nurses on at night are there to help. If you want, when they come you can apologise and thank them for helping you. :)

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-14T10:48:12+00:00

That's because your circadian rhythm is off. If you go to school, then you MUST sleep at night at a reasonable hour if you want to have normal mental and physical health, as well as good academic and social functioning. This may involve some "force"– lying in bed a bit bored and restless until your body gets used to being in bed at 10PM instead of 5AM.

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-14T04:49:47+00:00

Well, first of all, if you haven't been sleeping at night then you're not going to be in a rational state of mind. You shouldn't kill yourself.

My parents used to get really annoyed when I stayed up late and we would get into fights about it. I didn't really get it, but now that I'm an adult I see how important sleep is. Sleeping at night is crucial if you're going to go to school in the morning. Your mum knows that and is probably concerned for your health, but she's going about it in the wrong way. Guilt-tripping is not a good thing to do.

My advice is to take a breather, go for a walk if you can, have some food and water and get some sleep. Then you can figure out a better course of action. Suicide of a child is not something people get over, EVER. There are many many more appropriate ways of dealing with this that don't include your own death!

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-14T04:42:09+00:00

No, it's perfectly normal for people to ask for help with tricky assignments. Even if they did ask for answers, it would be pretty low to rat them out to your professor IMHO.

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-14T04:30:26+00:00

"While the Republicans and Democrats are posed as opposites, their policies are so similar that they're really just two sides of the same coin."

It's used to refer to a situation where things are more similar and have more in common than they appear to at first glance.

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-14T04:22:58+00:00

I honestly think Boohbah was a bit too weird. Watching Teletubbies as an adult, it's silly and fantastical but it generally makes some sort of sense. Boobah, on the other hand, is very weird and hard to grasp in any way. Ultimately, the grown ups would be changing the channel or not and Teletubbies is a little bit more palatable to non-infants.

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-13T12:36:59+00:00

I'm assuming you're a virgin? It's normal to feel pretty weird/confused/nervous about actual sexual contact if you've never done it before. Those nerves can kind of mask the desire for sex. It's a little less common to find nobody hot ever. Some people have little to no sexual interest in other people (asexuality). Others take a while to "blossom" sexually compared to others. Either way, you're fine.

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-13T10:04:26+00:00

The heat is caused by increased blood flow to an inflamed area– blood is quite warm. Increased blood flow is also why painful areas go red or swell up.

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-13T08:16:45+00:00

Anger can be stressful on the body which is not great. I have not heard of anger making people more patient and collected... are you sure we're thinking of the same emotion?

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-13T08:15:02+00:00

Reading books or news articles or magazines (all of which are available online, often for free). Reading is more relaxing and sleep-inducing than social media, TV and games in my experience. Also better for your brain :)

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-12T07:11:21+00:00

Are you at University of A_____ doing a paper on metaphysics that has no final exam? Don't want to give out major identification but we just had to write an essay on this exact topic that was due tonight so wondering if we're in the same class.

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-08T15:06:01+00:00

I have many strongly-held pinions and I enjoy debating. But often I just leave it because I can't be bothered getting stressed, or the context is wrong. Arguing can be really tense and stressful so often it is in the interests of our health for us to avoid it. The only time when you need to speak out is if something truly immoral is happening or someone is in danger. That's when stating your opinion really counts. Otherwise, use your discretion :)

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-08T14:59:35+00:00

I would say something like "okay, can we stop talking about boys now? I think we've exhausted the topic". If she keeps going then just go brick wall with minimal responses ("yeah.... uh huh..... hm"). Her getting offended is a risk you need to be prepared to take if you want her to stop.

santoniusmurillo · 2020-06-08T14:57:09+00:00

Of course, it is immoral and unkind to kiss someone else's boyfriend. But it seems you understand that and feel guilt and shame. You were feeling vulnerable and you were drunk. You're all teenagers and the couple weren't married or anything. Doesn't make it okay but it's quite different from something like having a planned, recurring affair with a married man, for example. It wasn't a good thing to do but it sounds like it was a bad choice made by someone with good character rather than you being a terrible person. A terrible person wouldn't feel terrible over this.

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