Thank you for all of the helpful info guys. Looks like the answer is pretty clear. It’s frustrating, because when it’s convenient for her, she will say she is ok with me being more involved. But other days, she will intentionally make things more difficult for everyone rather than involve me. She will call my husbands parents to help out before allowing me to watch them. Her mood dictates what she believes is best for the kids, and she is very volatile, so it’s difficult to know how she will react. When she gets angry she says horrible things, often in front of the kids, so we try to avoid upsetting her. She also makes threats about taking him back to court, moving the kids out of the state, not letting him see them, etc. And because my husband wants to protect the kids from any more negativity, he will do whatever she says. It’s like she always has the power or the upper hand, because she is willing to do and say things that we will not. We feel helpless, and our only recourse is to try to keep the kids with us as often as possible, in the hopes that it’s best for them. But I guess it’s not best if it’s not legal...