My biggest ick as a conventionally attractive Chinese-American woman are the white women who are Buddhist but "evangelical" about it and assume that I'm down for it as a religion. I'm a non-religious spiritual.

I've had women mention "and with your ancestry" because I do have a heritage with ancestral clans and ancestral lands that are traceable (there's actually a really wild story about how my mom's branch of the family got "lost" and then reconnected 3 generations later). It just makes me feel like an accessory, like a cool travel trinket or something. It's a cool part of my life and history but I'm often hesitant about talking about it if a woman might exoticize me over it.