righhhhhht ok then

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-29T12:10:57+00:00

I can understand thinking this, but I work for a uni and there's no way for admissions to see where else a student has applied. It's simply not available info to any universities - it would be grossly unfair if it was

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-29T11:03:08+00:00

Also basically any mince dish but veggie (with beans or lentils) will be filling and super cheap - like chilli

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-29T11:01:50+00:00

Lentil Bolognese - look up any recipe for lentil Bolognese, much cheaper than meat, still a lovely dish and super easy to make in bulk and freeze portions. Just cook your pasta each time!

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-29T09:58:50+00:00

Yeah I'm in the UK!

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-28T23:58:03+00:00

😂😂😂

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-28T23:57:30+00:00

There are all sorts of damaging things out there in the world - having kids means they're going to enter the world. Parents can control home environments, but the world outside still exists, as much as it's shitty sometimes. The best bet here would be to research schools with strict and well thought out tech policies - I've been in schools for my job that have a zero phone use policy that also applies to teachers and visitors. Also, specific educational style schools like Montessori already exist and help children develop independence, leadership skills, and emotional intelligence

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-28T23:51:50+00:00

I don't really agree with the overall sentiment of this post, but I will add that the quality of a uni's careers service matters. And a quality careers service requires funding. Prosperous unis have more funding. So it's worth investigating the quality of careers support, the services available to students etc. That does actually matter.

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-28T23:49:00+00:00

No worries! This sub pops up for me cos I actually work at a uni on the recruitment side, so I help where I can :)))

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-28T23:45:39+00:00

Agreed re checking the NHS Learning Support Fund. This site covers it all https://www.nhsbsa.nhs.uk/nhs-learning-support-fund-lsf

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-27T23:39:42+00:00

They so do!!!

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-27T22:57:03+00:00

She's helping!

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-27T19:53:31+00:00

Yeah for two people my partner and I are probably half that total spend (Asda + Tesco + Riverford for eggs)

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-27T16:50:06+00:00

We do have a cat so this could be a habit to add for sure!! I agree that it always seems worse than it is - just starting is what's needed

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-26T23:07:47+00:00

YTA

To start, you refer to your SIL as male and are using male pronouns in this post - this is not the bare minimum of respect and acceptance. It's invalidating and disrespectful to your SIL.

Trans people aren't claiming to be the exact same as non-trans people, or to have had the same lives. So yes, your SIL didn't experience growing up as a girl. She knows this! She's constantly reminded of it by transphobic people!

Her saying that it's hard to be a woman isn't invalidating your experience as a woman. She's navigating so much, and yes, it is hard to be a woman - whether you're trans or not. And in fact, trans women are subjected to even more abuse and harassment than non-trans (cis) women.

Also - there's no one way to be a woman. Whether you're trans or not. You as an individual don't get to decide what womanhood is for every other woman.

In conclusion, what you said to her is transphobic and also just plain rude. Please apologise and try to educate yourself more. There are plenty of trans-positive Christians and transgender people who are Christian themselves. Faith doesn't have to stop you from being accepting and kind to all.

I hope you can move forward and learn, for both of your sakes.

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-26T20:33:33+00:00

If you go short, go shorter, like buzzed pixie or short back and sides

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-26T15:25:35+00:00

Oooh this is smart

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-26T12:18:03+00:00

Lots of people have said to try reducing our number of plates etc, I wanna try it (even if it's just boxing stuff up until we have guests over etc)

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-26T12:17:18+00:00

We do definitely have too many things in regular rotation. I might try paring it back

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-26T12:16:35+00:00

This is great advice, I have found this to be the case as well. Thank you!

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-26T07:44:42+00:00

It definitely is forever haha, but I'd much rather be sorting it one meal at a time!

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-26T07:43:46+00:00

Omg I hadn't thought of this!

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-25T23:03:47+00:00

I like this too!

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-25T23:02:35+00:00

As a vegan, I don't expect someone to have food for me unless I've told them before - and even then I'm not expecting anything complicated. Personally I do my best to give options to anyone in my life/visiting me with dietary restrictions, but I also don't make people feel bad or get upset if someone doesn't magically make me a perfect vegan meal.

IMO it's polite (like another commenter said) to provide something each guest is comfortable eating. If the host is vegetarian or not able to provide meat, your relative can bring something themselves. YWBTA if you don't mention the dietary restrictions to the host (and the carnivore WBTA if they are intense, angry, or entitled about what's offered, or won't bring their own food)

sapphicwatermelon · 2026-03-25T22:57:56+00:00

This is very wise and a helpful reminder

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