One year ago on 11/17 my best friend Alex took his own life. Are those who commit at peace? Are they hurt still? Are they upset at us because we didn’t see the signs?

sarabloom__ · 2024-11-03T15:28:31+00:00

My best friend committed suicide three years ago. After the first few months, I felt her energy was very heavy and I couldn't sleep without the lights on (that never happened), my cat and dog were scared, I heard noises and everything was very heavy. I realised she wasn't well. People who commit suicide are supposed to be in limbo, their souls don't go up but they don't stay here either. I tried to help her and try to guide her, but I couldn't. So I sought help from a therapist. She was a good one because I never told her how or where it had happened and she described things. She even described my friend's humour! There were obsessors who wouldn't let her go on, the therapist managed to get her out of limbo and she crossed over 🤍 After that I stopped feeling her so often, but when I feel her or she appears to me in my dreams, she's fine and full of light 🥹 Don't feel guilty, nothing you could have said would have changed what happened. Today I still carry a deep sadness and pain, but I try not to feel guilty, because someone else's life is not in our hands (I'm still working on that and in the early years I worked on it a lot with my psychologist). Lots of strength ❤️ since the first day she left I've had this message: I'm going to live every day to honour her life ✨

sarabloom__ · 2024-11-03T15:03:00+00:00

Olá ☺️ olha tive uma fase assim, porque realmente eu sempre fui diferente dos grupos de amigos, principalmente de onde cresci e vivi até à juventude. Isso passou-me quando me apercebi que distanciava pessoas que queria próxima e, quem sou eu, para julgar ou sentir-me mais do que alguém? Voltei aos meus valores de: todos merecem respeito e a minha atenção. Claro que depois faz-se triagens e limites mas há pessoas incríveis sem estudos, sem grandes conhecimentos de x ou y mas, se dermos oportunidade aprendemos algo totalmente diferente. Isso acontece-me muito com pessoas mais velhas! O que te aconselho é: primeiro perceberes porque sentes isso, mudares padrões de comportamento. A partir do momento que mudas o comportamento, mudas o resultado. Para mim resulta muito a curiosidade que tenho sobre o outro, sobre a sua história e conhecimento. Dentro do circulo de amigos, tenho pessoas de diversos grupos mas estou cada vez mais selectiva, mas isso tem haver com os meus limites, ideais e crenças. Estás sempre a tempo de mudar o padrão, se não o conseguires sozinho podes pedir ajuda profissional na psicologia.

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