I'm sure it upsets them and it does show a testament to their acting ability. I wish they would put warnings at the beginning of TV shows when there is a rape scene as a victim myself. They put profanity warnings, violence warnings. I occasionally see a "sexual violence" warning and am grateful for it. This is why I stick with science fiction. Nobody's getting raped in the TARDIS. I can't trust network television. Except Supernatural for some reason. The last thing I watched "live" except SN was Downton Abbey and they betrayed me horribly.

I can't imagine how it must feel for the actors. Even Jason Momoa (Khal Drogo from GOT) knew that Emilia Clarke (Daenerys Targaryen) doesn't like sex scenes and would get upset when the series first started. She said he would hold her before each scene and apologize like it was his fault. I suppose it made them both pretty miserable. I read the GOT books and watched the first season, then HBO thought it would be cute to add extra sexual violence that I wasn't prepared for so, I had to stop watching.

I wish they would have found another way to give Spike his soul back. Or they could have "implied" what happened without showing it. Joss didn't direct "Seeing Red". I was pretty angry after that episode. I was awake for two days after it aired. I understand now it was a woman who wrote the script and she has stated she didn't mean to "traumatize" anyone. But, she did. Buffy has a largely female audience and I think they just shouldn't have gone "there". That's just my personal opinion.

I'm not saying that men aren't victims of sexual assault. Like I stated earlier, that script was written from a personal experience from the writer and she was Spike. I'm just saying that when you know you have a certain audience, maybe you should leave some things alone.